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Dealing with inconsiderate roommates You're out on your own and living with peers for maybe the first time in your life and you've realized there's a learning curve maybe you don't see with quite the people you've got to share a house with. Maybe things are generally good, ye eye-to-e- s 'f. k 't :! it' - 4- - "''': , 4, , , - - . I 44' , ,,, ' .i t s,..- --, I t 'VP, ' kt,.,,,,, ' ' 4' i ''i t A ,tt i ' 0'.7....i. tr. , , .,. , 1 rexit i,,...,,,eanialaw,...awdura.,t,.. 't..,, A. 0 c ;:.) '' '''' 1 (.' 0 0 ' ' 4 I 4 , k,' ",..: . ., Z k i (no. i i ts, ', t '''' 1 ''''v''':,;,, .,'''' ' ,r t i k 1 ,, A., , II ft ' ,, ,,' , st. ,.,,,,,. s' :- - 1 ., ., ,, ' '',' ' B , , , , and then letting yourself be heard. This lets you come at the issue with all the available information and the ability to propose solutions. ing, whil ., - . ' ,i , s.... , 1 4! : , : Sara ' ', '',.,. , , key. Negotiation professionals recommend hearing first ,., . , ,.. ,. , ,r , :, , . N( CO is b( and Brittany Brockman, 18, both freshmen at Cal State Northridge, hang the kitchen of their dorm while preparing to make dinner together on August 26, 2013. Left, Leslie Rosales, 18, can't expect your You ;1 'Y ,,,,,, ''f i There are certain inconveniences and quirks that you learn to live with and let go. Choose your battles. When the issue at hand is big enough to not just let go and forget, compromise is George Bernard Shaw is quoted as having said, "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." Passive aggression is your enemy when dealing with your roommates. It just builds up resentment and general bad feelings. Be direct, be clear and be kind. There's no need to make voicing a concern into a personal attack. This might sound terrifying if you're not into confrontation. Try softening the conversation by making dinner or inviting your roommate out for dessert. The thing to remember is people respond better to touchy situations when their mood is good and emotions are calm. Remember there are two col- '''I.' ) - Compromise To kick off our newest , ii,,,, I Communication , . ., out roommate to be willing to adapt to you if you aren't willing to adapt to them. Be flexible and willing to propose solutions that have you meeting them halfway. in your roommate or be their friend. It helps the situation a lot if you can meld like that, but it's not always doable. What you can always do is seek to understand their side of things. With understanding comes a greater capacity for empathy and Understanding Ultimately, your greatest tool is to understand one another. You don't have to like Stephen R. Covey is p and famous for his leadership programs. He recommends seeking understanding first, then explaining your side and seeking to be understood. 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