Show RSVP The Salt Lake Tribune Cordless invitations: cards work for caterer not for etiquette advisers Fill-in-the-bla- Martha Woodham By her a response card Another of my more scatterbrained pals called to ask if she had already answered the invitation: She couldn't find the response card These cards were developed by people hosting business events that masquerade as social ones They have crept into use socially because I) no one seems to have personal stationery 2) no one knows how to answer an invitation or 3) people are just plain ing to send Cox NEWS SERVICE ' ATLANTA — To the untrained eye I look like any other harried bride but to the knowing social observer I have gone where today's brides fear to tread: I did not send out response cards Those little cards tucked into almost every invitation these days may be practical for the caterer But etiquette advisers wail and gnash teeth over the impropriety of blank manners for guests who seem to have no idea how to answer an RSVP I was sure my friends would know how to respond properly in writing Wrong Maybe it's a sign of the new informality but our society has become so dependent on these little pieces of paper that one friend thought I had committed a faux pas by neglect- - t fill-in-th- nk e tween you and your new family Here are five ways to make bridegroom's mother feel want- your wedding Get off to a good start by involving her in planning no matter how far away she lives or how overly anxious or intrusive she is Taking the initiative and inviting assistance before it's offered strengthens the bond be ed: the girls" Make sure she's invited to showers and gatherings Don't forget something borrowed something blue She may be perfect source for nuptial necessities Cultivate talents and interests If she enjoys gardening ask her expertise Strike the right chord Find out her sentimental favorites in music play at reception Help her feel like "one of Say it in writing Send her a postcard from honeymoon to let her know you apthank-yo- u preciate ideas and assistance GIVE YOUR MOTHER A GIFT SHE CAN OPEN ANY DAY These are feelings that would not have been expressed in a response card and these notes will become part of my wedding memories What bride is going to treasure a pile of cards checked "yes" or "no"? Of course ask me about this this week and you'll probably find that my phone line is busy I may be calling everyone who didn't respond Response cards are expensive There are extra printing charges and the higher postage for the increased weight of the invitation I probably saved $300 — a good chunk of wedding budget — but I discovered a priceless benefit: Loving messages from friends' and family d According to Bride's & Your New Home magazine your fiance's mother has ideas about rahs" lazy pre-printe- d Get off to good start involve his mother in plans friends and some teasing from Frank's One friend threatened to be modern and respond via computer Another sent a lucky English sixpence for my shoe One friend's young son made his own stationery even the envelope addressed simply to "Martha and Frank" Even friends who answ ered formally added their own personal touches such as the couple who accepted "with pleasure and hurgood-nature- Al3 1992 7 Thursday May ' There have been the usual "It's about time" notes from my OF THE YEAR Say "Happy Mother's Day" with a J 4r-- 0 r 8 1 r YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A GOURMET YOURSELF COOK TO PUT A MEMORABLE I HAW IS SLICED - HONEYBAKED- THE ORIGINAL --' VOIN400A ::'' ? 1 1V00044Jeto: i '' TFgti-47- '' 1' ': ' : ::: ' ' :: ' MURRAY-HOLLADA- ' : : 4"" r t 4ttor: 272-558- : 964-061- : :::' 41i''S l' Coorig 1 IgIg he Gana Caigind Honey eokad liam Company ol Inc olioney kW Baked and lioneyBakof 00 VF FACTORY OUTLET MALL 12101 So Factory Outlet Dr 10-- 7 Hours: A)1 NI-- F tomodammadmmab onth logo SATISFACTION Ono ut to N Omni Homy Bakad Nam Co of Gong - - - ncr E'ABULOUS 'brIlr--1-2-'1'11- - - li J - r k - 4- - — :"kr' I (05- 'd 14 ord1117 V igit - I AL i i '1 r '-- - r41A-4-- ' - - N- itt--i-lt-T- HUGE SELECIIO- "----- t -7- -1---1 e OF NEW 'te1 USED DISCONTINUED REPOSSESSED SOME VVITH MINOR FREIGHT DAMAGE Welst 404 ' ! 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