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Show Li0ty.0 ufljr ji'Llt akf (Eribunr Section A Saturda), June Page 8 23, 1981 Relief Society president recognizes social concerns " By Tribune Lifestyle Writer Lifestyle changes. women enterduld-iaring the work pLiee and needs are issues Mormon Relief Society officials must face, according to the new pi esident of the Chur eti of Saints Jesus Christ of Latter-dawomen s organization "I feel like I m on the threshold, said Relief Society President Barbara Woodhead Winder Obviously we could do more " Working mothers who must leave their children need to be helped, although it is "desirable" for women at least until a child is to be home 3 and preferably 5. she said y church-sponsore- t out- Too Many Implications? What about e centers or preschools, programs for Mormon children whose parents work "That probably has a number of implications and I don't know what the legal concerns would be." she said Our sisterhood and the church, are a support system and have always been But, of course, more needs to be done." Mrs Winder said lessons in Mormon Sunday schools and the womens Relief Society are excellent for helping couples become better parents Does she see a time when LDS men will become as involved in child care as Mormon wochurch-sponsore- d after-- day-car- school day- d per-ten- "We. in the Relief Society, are interested in these changes and one of the places we need to look is how and what our children are learning. she said "At least in my administration, w'e will look at these social concerns including child care and problems imposed upon our children. e Future V-- X more than mothers, but now 53 of American women work side the home Dawn Trai care centers or preschools have a number of implications and legal concerns, as yet unanswered, said Mrs Winder But "more needs to be done to help working families Mrs Winder, a Midv tie native, was appointed head of the 16 women's organization of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in April. Sweeping Changes In an interview from her spacious office in the Relief Society Building. Mrs. Winder discussed how Mormon women's lives are changing I don't think anyone realized the sweeping changes that have come about since women began entering the work force," she said. "In World War II, women woiked, but most went back to their homes and children when the war ended. Yet society has changed since then and Mormon church leaders are recognizing the changes." Mrs. Winder, a former member of the general board of the Relief Society and Young Women's organizations, replaced Barbara Smith who served 10 years. Mrs. Winders most recent church assignment was filling an LDS mission in San Diego where her husband was mission president. Mrs. Winder said fathers have traditionally been away from families day-to-da- y men0 "I'm not in a position to talk about that because that is a priesthood responsibility, she said. The church has encouraged joint training for parents and I think the Sunday school classes have been important In fact, I've taken that class and it's exciting Clearer Thinking "I think it's good when men and women come together to discuss these issues because it gives them a perspective. Usually what happens like in is we get clearer thinking " brainstorming But what about intensive "father-traininclasses similar to the curlessons taught rent mother-traininin the Relief Society? I dont know why the brethren (LDS leaders) have chosen to deal with that, unless we deal with primary areas of concern," she said g g Tribune Staff Photo by At Hartmann of Latter-da- y "Perhaps there are different areas of responsibility given to the father than to the mother, even though we are very concerned that the fathers do have a nurturing role. And, I don't know, maybe that will be considered." How parents choose to deal with changing lifestyles and working mothers is an individual decision, said Mrs. Winder Landers: The 10 commandments 5 Be cheerful Don't burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of bur- Dear Ann Landers: Please repeat vour column. "The Ten Commandments of How to Get Along with People." I read it every day for den years whenever I opened the medicine cabinet, and as you can see, my copy is faded and 6 Keep an open mind. Discuss but don't argue It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. 7 Let your virtues, if you have any, speak for themselves. Refuse to talk about the vices of others. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be destructive and hurtful 8. Take into consideration the feelings of others. 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But she said she's seen a resentment of homemakers doing "everything for their children and the neighbors' children. "Im unaware of resentment of working women with the church, she said. Sometimes they may feel the church is not meeting their needs. But I can think of a number of working professional women who are happy with the church. - UNITS0 $199 " I've been impressed with the tradition of Relief Society, she said. "I think the Relief Society has cared about the community. I believe children can get a good start in life if they are in a home where they're taught, where they learn how to deal with social problems. In the absence of that, we've got to look for quality child care in other places. Mrs. Winder said, however, that fathers are taking more responsibility for child care than ever before. "I love what I see, even in my own family," she said. My own sons are helpful. It makes me happy to see them filling that role. I see the role he was almy husband played and maybe that's why ways there our sons are doing the kinds of things theyre doing "Mothers have filled a primary role. They are the constant, she added. "There needs to be something constant. Children need that. If thev A pediatric NEW YORK (UPI) psychologist says children's attitudes about people and sexuality are influenced much more by their parents than their peers. when sex is described as something dirty or done by bad people,' that child will be more susceptible to the influence of pornography." said Dr. Lee Salk in his monthly column in the June issue of McCall's magazine. Salk was responding to a mother's son question about her watching pornographic movies on cable television. SATURDAY 10-- Each is entitled to his or her own guidance or direction. Way It Is "I recognize there are many, many different problems. she said. Often, mothers are forced in the earliest days of the child's life to leave the home to work. There are social changes, but sometimes these changes can mean broken lives. I speak for myself when I say I think it's desirable for mothers to be with their chldren up through age 3, and if possible, through age 5. Attitudes about sex come from parents Sofas - Sectionals - Chairs - Sleepers - Cocktail Tables - Eterges - Rugs Wall Units - Florals - Pictures - Brass - Dining Sets - Accessories rr needs in Utah style changes, women working, in should be considered. are some social issues state that Relief Society, Church of Jesus Christ Saints, Barbara Woodhead Winder says life- - As president of the child-car- e Sat. 2182 HIGHLAND DRIVE SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH 84106 10-- 6 rmm ! II |