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Show mr . LJbt Suit aribunr ukv - S rn SoS" jt lies hood Wo nit'ii Tuesday, November First N'dioii - 2, 1976 Authors pen marriage counseling book do-it-your- self Your marriage has been sliding downhill, and you want it to stop before it crashes. You dont think you would feel comfortable talking to a marriage counselor, but you both know you need help You can do it yourself, say the authors of a new book on marriage counseling. Make a real effort to "get acquainted " That who have lived sounds like an odd idea for a together for years, but it is an important one, tie authors say, because many of us do not take tim to listen or tell the things that are most important to us and spouses cannot be expected to read minds cpte Marriage: The New Technique of and vvnu ii Can lids You Do (Doubleday, $S.!i5), offers shy but unhappy couples a range of counseling techniques and tips on how to get their marriage back in gear by themselves. Seme counselors caution that such a book could renew some marriages but not others, especially those in the deepest trouble. They suggest a couple that really needs counseling would be unlikely to get it from a book Marcia The authors of "No-FauMarriage counselor and professor of Lssswe!!, marriage ..... U . 1. f. . rM.onnUtf wmi 1ri4rtT wi pajiviiuiuy at uauiuiiiiu utaic p Norman Lobsenz begins with say Ga Through Changes The wade is over But usable And they say analysis includes recognition that individuals and marriage go through normal, predictable changes during their lives. adult's lifetime might cover six stages: The youthful, hopeful stage from ages 22 to 23 The 2Q to 32 stage, when people begin to feel the are crossing from youth to middle age and experience a sense of being trapped by young children and the pressures of a career. r is - ""i?r f , tI , k. haif-aliv- conflict-habituate- l" no-fau- Heloise wading pool that the children have outgrown. Well, I have one and have found many things to do with it. Now that my vegeta-b'e- s are reedy for can-nir- g and freezing. I use Ihe pool to wash them in outdoors. I All thi ; water used for washing then goes on the grass, trees, shrubs, etc. and I dont have all that mess in the kitchen. The pool is great to put your Christmas tree in, especially if you have carpeting It will protect it when watering your tree. It will catch a lot of hose needles, too. You can cover it with a sheet and no one will ever know your tree is sitting in a small wading pool. Mrs. L.A. Boyer Onhhh! Gal! Thats a sneaky one. Bet you'll have the neatest looking Christmas tree around this year A nice holder for your packages, too, eh? - Envious Av V' Vr v 1v Made To Order All of Mr. Johnsons rugs 1' last are the samples what types of designs they like. In my business you have to be aware of so many other things than just mgs. for cus-tome- d Mr. Johnson sees his rugs as investments. His product will last. You can tell a good rug by the thumb, he says. "I was visiting the factory m Geneve once I didnt have much time and the foreman wanted me to see his entire operation. But I finally convinced him that my thumb told me he had a quality product. Besides the needlepoint (its a double cross stitch pattern done on a canvas), he also deals in Turkish and Spanish knotted rugs, plus a natural wool rug tion. Mr. Johnson's customers all get the same attention, whether they be the Rockefellers or the Smiths. "Many people don't want to take the time to work with people and make sure theyre satisfied. They dont mind that they may not have return business. But the type of referrals that 1 get make all the problems worthwhile." Made Presidential Rugs Mr. Johnson has done rugs for four presidents Lyndon B. Johnson. Richard Nixon, John F. Kennedy (and clan' and the E wight D. Eisenhower Farm. He has aiso done rugs for the Rockefellers. DuPonts, Hunts and the automoblile Fords. "I can tell by how people react just to By Gigi Kushla Chicago Tribune d brows are as important to pretty eyes as mascara, shadow, or adequate sleep. But when eyebrows are badly shaped, they can mar an otherwise attractive face, says Linda, the makeup expert at Bright Future Other than a good compiexion, the brows are probably the most important feature of the face, Linda says. If the brow is slipped incorrectly, it can give a false impression of the way a woman feels; she can appear to be frowning or scowling wan ine snape ot tne brows. And nature didnt always endow us with beautiful brows, either Linda believes hi a natural-lookin- g eyebrow, neither thick nor thin. And for most women, who have trouble tweez-inevenly, Linda recommends having the eyebrows shaped professionally Thereafter, a woman can pluck stray hairs as they grow in without disturbing the brow line itself. For those who want to shape their brews, at home, Linda offers the following tips: Hold a pencil against the outer nostril. The brow should start at the outside of the pencil, from the nose back Tweeze out hairs that have grown over the bridge of the nose. Well-shape- g -- re-al- ly Heloise t? ? r Ive recently disco- i W aXloAkV' M''VV--" ' iawktafcSpy ' Dear Heloise: m fii S y '"V ' ! V :- v Dial jurt three-quarte- Sea ring is out Are you still searing your roasts? This practice of cooking a roast at a high temperature fui a short period at the beginning or end of the roasting time is NOT recommended, says the National Live Stock and Meat Board The old theory that searing seals in juices is a fallacy. Meat roasted at a constant, slow to moderate tempera-tui- e not only results in fewer cooking losses but also cooks more evenly, requires less attention, causes less spattering and results in easier cleanup. 521-353- 5 vered an easy way of peeling the skill off of garlic. Take the garlic and place on a counter or cutting board then, placing your knife handle on the garlic, hit it firmly, but not too hard The skin will olf The two brow s are rarely alike, Linda says However, it is necessary that they be the same length. To determine where the end should be, hold a pencil obliquely from the nostnl to the outer edge of the eye. The highest point of each brow, called the rise, also should match This generally is from the start of the brow. Tc Make tweezing less uncomfortable, Lmda suggests holding the skin taut and tweezing rapidly, pulling the hairs out in the direction in which they grow. , After tweezing, take a toothbrush and brush the brows up Triin nny hairs that seem longer tnan the rest. This w ill help the brow te lay flat. UIA!iT ADS offers strength but is also light enough to go over carpet. Portuguese needlepoint stitch is a double cross stitch which which is sewn together m strips of specially blended wool. I knew I would get into something creative. My mother was a portrait painter and Ive been involved with music all my life. (He had three dance bands and almost joined the NBC orchestra as a clarinetist.) But I also wanted to get into something that was functional. Rugs have provided that for me. Mr. Johnson's mam store is in Denver with branches in New York, Palm Beach and a. buying office in Genev a When Robert Johnson talks about his rugs, especially a big green one with Alaskan animals as the design, be is having the time of his life Shape brows properly Am u:- - 5 Portugese needlepoint n.'gs here. works of art made. Whatever design a customer may like can be scaled to any size, color or type of weave. Customers can bring in a picture of an old rug and Mr. Johnson will reproduce it in needlepoint to last for the next genera- 1TI II j J3l1 fall Losing weight doesnt make sense Ahpon Mellutton ' SA vi t I BMC sim WBKGBB 1 kUEV .I tr a f "Nut iinii.-,- s uni le.iiti turn to keep oil the pounds vouNe iot I nut s win I liked eight oss C Imie I he not only guided me to my goal quieklv. the v provided me with all the skills to maintain mv weight tight wiiete I want it ff lniiwtr Jl I oss him has tliousmds ol salisl led elieills on sail besoms uiis m a lies- sinisultation lor Come too Dissuss vour weight problem with I pM'esMon.ds beyll tell you how ou san lose vour unwanted pounds m ust a and keep it oil malts" of weeks N - & No fad diets, noeversises. no bindI earn what Wemlit I oss ing onir.il Is (. lulls sail do toi vou Call todav lor a i complimentary consultation. 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That means all our equpment is meant to clean draperies only No compromise, Just the abrol,!e drnpry rpvnina there ic We ouurantpp ail our work L r v ? Jt' rirartom cleaning! f Al Jr , good quality and will probably the next hundred years. He dealt in antique rugs ioi those who wanted to invest in them as art pieces. But when the market petered out he started making his own pieces of art. There just arent any more antique rugs to be had. All the quality ones are either in storage or are being used. You have to buy a new one that looks old Im not really sorry. My rugs are of Hdon doesnt play at offer good thru Nov. 20, yCSi- s -- - Robert T. Johnson says there are not anymore aniique rugs to ue Lifestyle Staff Writer Oh, yoii have a new rug!" is something Robert T. Johnson hates to hear. The room should look like you just happened to find a rug and it worked, he said, while presenting a trunk showing of his handmade Portugese needlepoint rugs at a local furniture store. Robert Johnson should know what hes talking about. He's been in the business since getting out of the service after the Korean War. Wanted Into Furniture I wanted to go into furniture, but there was no room in the inn. so 1 started bv laving carpeting. And it evolved into this. Dear Heloise: I wonder how many mothers or grandmothers have a small Marriages Change Because people change, Lasswell and Lobsenz say, marriages change. Couples must realize that what they are grappling with may be a normal consequence of lile, not a unique situation. There is not just one marriage in a lifetime between a husband and wife, but many, they write. "For example, young couples who marry today may expect to be wed for 50 years. During that span a iwuplc passes through many stages of the marital Me cycle. They are successively newlyweds, young parents of parents of young children, middle-age- d adolescents, mutual victims oi their own mid-lif- e crises, empty nesters, senior citizens." Each stage, they sy, brings its own conflicts and must be dealt with in its own way. Then, the book says, a couple needs to define their own particular form of marriage. The authors describe five general categories: the devitalized, e match without much involveplacid but d ment between partners: the marnage m which couples seem to need and enjoy constant fights; the match with few ups and downs , the total marriage in which the couples share all experiences to the point where individual growth is stunted; and the vital marriage in which the partners are deeply involved in each other's interests but not in the suffocating manner of total marriage. Three Obstacles The three major obstacles to improving one's marriage, according to the book, are fear of change; a need to place blame, usually on the other partner; and belief that a problem marriage will spontaneously improve with time. Once a couple admit the necessity of change, they must try to overcome any need to place blame, marriage. The authors argue reaching for lt that marriages are made by two people, that both are responsible for what happens, that placing blame only prolongs conflict and that problems will not go away by being ignoied. Once these basics have been established, the book says the couple can go to work on their marriage. Facing Problems At each point in the analysis, authors give a series of questions couples can ask themselves and talks they can perform to come to grips with the problems they identify . Among the points they stress are: Recognize the necessity of dealing with thes problems in a serious and professional manner as a marriage counselor does That means, they say. ?si y 4 -- - ' By Robbie B. Snow we-t- rtJ passive-congenia- y Rugs that are By Heloise The more settled period between 33 and 39, when people develop a sense of building financial security and family unity. Another stressful period lrom 40 to 43, when adolescent children begin to create strains, and people often feel they have gone as far as they are going in a career. For those who survive that stage, a peaceful AA rtvT 50 I F .... AAV VO I vw CAOIYI MW uwu rPft emit AC VVU Lauil UVU We4io,t to slacken and are replaced by worries about aging, the menopause and the male climacteric. Finally, 54 to 65, when most people finally mellow. 1 r E ' r j? .... f'if mg i&A-- X self-estee- Cc Vf vV' J self-estee- self-hel- An average " " Minimize hostility The authors suggest several techniques They do not believe anger should be repressed, but neither do they recommend uncontrolled hostility. A person can vent hostility by pounding a pillow, by examining the causes of the anger, or by changing tactics from complaining to describing positively what one partner could no to make life happier. Be each others Helping the other for example, can build ones own build as a helpful person. Helping the other overcome sor" problem also can be a very loving act. lt 1 ,v y disractions "No-Fau- v-- Vinp v establishing a "therapeutic environment." a private place at a quiet and convenient time when the couple can discuss their marnage with a minimum of By Geraldine Strozier Knight News Wire - r |
