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Show Thursday, Nov. 15. 1984 Page 4 I k v i S'X. Whether by design or happenstance, since we began this series on grieving, I have come by a number of articles and books I had not read on the grief process. Here is a summation of some of the Ideas from these writings. As we stated previously, grief is a natural process. We need to emphasize that It Is also NECESSARY. Another Important element is that grief takes time, a long time, and a lot of energy. Also, grief can only be resolved by going through it, not around it. Avoiding thf process, psychologists say, only delays It and perhaps complicates it. Grief Is extremely painful and something we want to avoid, but no one lives a life without grief of some type. Our society slights a lot of the grief process. We are expected to be nice, pleasant, agreeable and productive most of the time. The natural anger, sadness, and denial, that make up grief do not match societys concept of what we should be doing during grief. As one author commented, its easier in our society to talk about sex than death. Not that healthy discussions of sex are not important, but shouldnt we begin to work at a more realistic way of communicating our feelings about death. Grief results after any type of loss and the same process takes place regardless of the type of loss. Divorce is high on the list of causes for deep grief and scores a 73 on a well-knostress scale as opposed to 100 for the loss of a spouse by death. Loss of body parts are complicated by mourning, e.i. loss of limb, breast, reproductive organs and ransory organs such as an eye. The change of relationships between family members (spouse and children) that takes place when a senility develops in a parent. Loss of a home through fire or financial difficulties; The loss of a job for any reason, In particular being fired, all causes their toll of grief. The Important point of any loss for the sufferer and those close to them is to recognize that grief is an inevitable necessary and healing process. A common principle seems to prevail. Allow the sorrowing person to grieve, and to grieve In his own way as far as possible. Saying Its Gods will, Its better this way, Hes happier now, You spend too much time at the cemetery, Rejoice dont cry, are all well intended comments but not usually helpful. Grief can be such an all encompassing emotion that the mourner can scarcely feel for anything or anyone for awhile. It is helpful to recognize that and say such things as You must be feeling a lot of pain and then wait to see If the griever wants to talk or just cry. Allow mourners the privilege of crying at times for a long, It may happen at moments even unpredictable to the long time. mourner, for a long time. Avoiding the mention of the incident surrounding the loss or the deceased is a mistake. A mourner may interpret this as your forgetting their loss or not caring. Mention of their loss maybe makes the mourner misty eyed, but he will usually feel happy that you still remember. If the loss is a loved one, dont exclude his name from your everyday conversation. This gives the feeling that he was of no value or never existed. The inclusion of young children in events surrounding loss should be considered according to your personal feelings and beliefs but do not over look the fact that children do experience grief, and be prepared to support them. Any change In usual behavior can be the childs expression of grief. His grief also takes time to resolve. Answer all of his questions, no matter how often he asks and help him retain all the pleasant memories you can. I would be very willing to share names and authors of publications I have come across with anyone who is interested. t-flbi loi mm housing Available far Senior Citizens OR OVER 6 SINGLES OR COUPLES This is a government subsidized rental payment depending on your income. UNITS AVAILABLE NOW Right across the street from the new IGA Store Contact Mark or Karen Nelson Milford Haven Managers J b i .jr ' 0 - ' U Piestone n Reg. 4.99 WCTlEOtl inur Sale Price Rebate on 2 Gal. Purchase Final Cost Per Gal. After Rebate Store Hours Mon. - Sat. 8:30 a.m. - 9:00 p.m. Sunday 9:00 a.m. - 6.00 p.m. 4.49 q vv 7) H (01 Street Cedar City, Utah 684 South Main 586-86- 12 causes. i 4 He was bom November 19, 1920 In Minersville to George Anthony t and Thelma Elizabeth Eyre Dalton. married Margaret Williams, June 3rd, 1939 In Beaver. He was a rancher and farmer. Survived by his wife of Minersville. Children: William L. Bill Stanley G. and James Max Williams all of Minersville; Mrs. Dee (Leah Ruth) Hollingshead, Delta; and Also Franklin Keith of Beaver. 19 grandchildren and five great brother Lyle G. grandchildren; (Ike) Milford. Funeral services will be held Thursday, November 15 in the Minersville Chapel, where friends may call Wednesday 9 p.m. and Thursday, one hour prior to services at 11:00 a.m. Burial in Minersville Cemetery under the direction of Roger D. Olpin Southern Utah Mortuary. He - f ' VVJ ' ;v NEW MARQUE: Betty Bacon, right, president of the Epsilon Sigam Alpha Sorority, Alpha Delta Chapter presents a check for $500.00 to student L body officers Debbie Baxter and Mikel White for a new marque, to use for posting of school functions. 7-- Utah fishing season to open year round limits will not vary from summer to winter. Board member Jerry Little remarked, Winter fishing should provide a season of sport, not one of harvest. It's a recreational experience, rather than simply filling the freezer. One controversial issue dominated discussions of the Board and citizens attending the meeting: The Green River below Flaming Gorge. The Board heard comments from the public at two public hearings in September, during a comment period in October and at todays meeting. Dr. Hugh Hogle, Board member from SLC, proposed to adopt the DWR recom men -dation saying, We are violating the public trust if we deviate from the proposed regulations this late in the decision process. Fishing on the Green River will be permitted year round with artificial lures and flies only. The bag limit will be two trout under 13 Inches and one over 20. A major concern addressed by the Board centers around the proposed license fee increase and year-roun- d fishing. Bill Geer, acting director for the Division of Wildlife Resources, said that fisheries management activities will not be changed for the first year. He added that year-roufishing will have to be evaluated next fall if the DWR is not granted a fee increase. Wildlife Board Chairman Warren Harwood summarized the concern for funding. T hope that you sportsmen here take the time to talk to your legislators In an unprecedented decision, the Utah Wildlife Board voted unanimously to adopt new regulations proposed by the Utah State Division of Wildlife Resources, includ- ing opening most Utah waters to d fishing year round. fishing will greatly Increase fishing opportunities for Utahns while pressure dispersing fisghing throughout the year. Year-roun- In addition, Utah fisheries mana- gers are preparing an entirely new format for the fishing regulations. The 1985 Fishing Proclamation will be in newspaper tabloid format with a map, general regulations and specific area regulations on special waters. An individual will simply check the general regulations, then refer to the area section where their favorite fishing water is located, to determine if any special seasons or limits apply. keep the eight trout bag limit year round with some exceptions. In northern Utah (Cache, Weber, Morgan and Davis counties) the winter limit on rivers and streams will be four trout; limits on lakes and reservoirs will remain at eight. Salt Lake area rivers and streams will have a two trout limit during the These reduced winter winter. limits are necessary regarding this license increase. The Utah Legislature will determine license fees when it meets in tMnF&rVEPYTtM Januar. f mnex at the I Bamhi Safe nd on the low elevation streams that generally have good access and high fishing pressure. Elsewhere, in the state Annual mining claim North Main in Beaver Special Thanksgiving Menu Sure to Please Your Palate The Not Reindeer Room Will Be Open Nov. 22nd assessment notices due Holders of the mining claims to provide either evidence of annual assessment work performed during the preceding year or a notice of intention to hold the mining claim. BLM uses the notices to deter-Ine which claims have been aban -doned and which are still active. Holders of each claim located before September 1, 1983, must file an affidavit with BLM showing that at least $100 worth of work was completed on the claim during the period whlrh ended at 12 p.m. on September 1, 1984. For claims located between September 1 and December 31, 1983 a notice of intent to hold a claim may be substituted for the affidavit of annual assessment. Persons who located claims during 1984 do not have to file notices until next year. The filing requirements apply to claims on all federally-administerlands, including land administered by the Forest Service. The annual documents must be filed with the BLM Utah State Office, 324 South State Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111-230- 3, and must be postmarked on or before December 30 and received before January 19. The filings will not be accepted in BLM district or resource area offices. m E v V 'l ' are required ANTI-FREEZ- " 't ! Persons having unpatented federal mining claims may submit their required annual assessment notices to the Bureau of Land Management (BLM) between now and December 30. There are more than 240,000 mining claims filed on public lands in Utah, according to Roland Robison, BLM state director for Utah. Prestone ' i ?-- BILL DALTON Bill Dalton, 63, of Minersville died November 12, 1984 at his residence of natural LELAND W. Leland W. S The new regulations le&& the - A fftV Area Obituaries ed Persons claiming unpatented mill or tunnel sites must file a notice indicating their intention to hold the claim. There are no fees or prescribed forms required by J Enjoy A Full Season Of CBaeap MiebHHs! BLM for filing the annual documents. A mining claim annual assessment reminder was mailed in early October to all persons or companies holding claims for which no filing had yet been received for 1984. Robison said that tte computer form is intented to speed up BLM processing and acknowledgement of the filing, but is not a substitute for other required annual papers. Submission of the reminder form alone will suffice only if the claimant indicates abandonment, MJiS Schedule i PZ)c4 conlexence Parent - Teacher Conferences for Milford High School have been scheduled for Friday afternoon, November 16, accordlngto Principal Lee Pettey. The schedule calls for parents to meet with teachers beginning at IKK) p.m. in the gymnasium. Mr. Pettey indicated that tea-- c ters will provide parents with information relative to their stunt's achievement for the first term. He stated the first term ended November 2 and report cards were given students on Wednesday November 7. Parents are encouraged to take advantage of this opportunity to discuss individual concerns with teachers. The Kcw Mount Hollp F.O. Bos 111 Beaver, (Hah 4713 4 Telephone (801) 438-344- |