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Show DAILY Sometimes, even the rudeare right Excercise forthe — right reasons EAR MISS MANNERS — A friend gave me ticket to a fundraising event for a charity for which he is a board member and whose work benefits him because he suffers from the illness they seek to eradicate. While it is a worthy organization, | do not normally support it and would ear Carolyn: Tam 25 and have beenwith Dave,30, for almost three years. We live together and planto get married and havekids. One thing that repeatedly comes not otherwise have gone. Although he had not mentioned the need to pay him up, though, is my body, and myfailure to go to the gym or eat right. This has been + for the ticket or contribute to the charity, I wrote a modest check to the organization that evening. Acknowledging that it is irrelevant to my inquiry, it was a dreadful event from an entertainmentand culin: standpoint, and left feeling somewhatas if | had done-him ouronly realdisagreement Hethinks I would beperfect if I dropped 15 pounds 1am stubborn and prideful and anyrequestsfor me to change have been met with anger and tears. AfterI recently complained about the burdenoj schoolloans, Dave said he ould give me moneytoward mybills if I could lose 15 pounds in two months. I have told myfriends about it, and somesayI should kick him to the curb and the others think it’s a goodidea. Thelatterareall gym-going people. Theytell me lam not overweight-looking, but if [let myself go nowit will be harder to get in shape later. I have always been un- comfortable about my body even before the Freshman 15. I think I can lose a few poundsbut I don't think I am grotesque enough or that myhealth is,in ieopardy. I seriouslyneed an unbigsed opinion about. when to lose weight Grotesque enough? Lose the 15, take the money, kick Dave to the curb. I'm kidding, butjust barely Whatevergavethis guy the idea that he was entitled to “perfect”? That he had any right to “improve” you to suit his own needs,— especially since he apparently met you as-is? : Andwhatpart of your psychesaid you should marry someonewho jabs, jabs, jabs at one of your sorest emotional spots? Unfortunately, your shaky body imageis both the exact reason youshould flip Dave the bird, and the exact rea- son you haven't beenableto. You'rereadytobelievehis criticism is fair. You'realso readyto be- lieve, enabled by friends, thathis offer is about your health. It’s not. It's about a David Hinckley NEW A few dozenyards from the deserted Asbury Park boardwalk, wherea cold April wind is fighting a warm April sun, Bruce Springsteen steps to the microphoneinside an empty Convention Hall andblastsinto “This Hard Land,”a classic Springsteentaleof desolation meeting defiance. “Heythere mister ‘Can you tell me what hap- Tell Me AboutIt a favorbyhelpingto fill his gu: making his love for you conditional. table. A few months later, I sent an | e-mail to my friend and a num| ber of othersinviting them to That alone makes your situationlikely to deteriorate — buton topof that, hiscondition is one that will only purchase tickets to, and share a table with me at, a fundraiser for a political organization | that advocates for the rights | of membersof the minority to get harderto satisfy, as your bodyages and stretches for | | fighting for the love of the | kids. Are you really ready to spendthe rest of your life one person whose love you. want most? If that's too far into the fu- | ture, try now. How good does | Dave makeyoufeel about Wednesday, April 26, 2006 HERALD which | and myfriend above had purchased a group of tickets pemer of his board mem- wondering why people never bership. Mine was a political return a phone call when they DEAR MISS MANNERS — I am event for an organization for which I am a merecontributor. say they will. 1 know it can be an inconvenient time for some to talk at that time, but when He gave me one ticket and ap- they say they will call back, parently expected me to buy twofor him. Upon reflection, the time frame is way beyond whenthe call was even made. Someof these people will tell me they are so busy. Is there a though,those facts seem irrelevantalso. Does accepting Judith Martin Miss Manners belong. I received a scathing e-mail in return, questioning my manners because I.didn't invite him andhis spousal equivalent to be my guests. He invoked the earlier ticket he had given me as his justification for redress- me. I was hurt and offended.I felt the events and organizations were quite different. His event was a charity event for which contributions were tax deductible and for which he a ticket to a fundraising event generate an obligation to reciprocate — either in general or based on the facts above? response that I can use totell the person thatit really both- ered methatit took a week for themto return the call? GENTLE READER — Oh,please don't make Miss Mannersside with someone who berates his friends. She hates having to ad- GENTLE READER — “I forget whatI was calling you aS Forblameless table manners, senda long,.self-addressed, stampedenvelope and$2 to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, mit that rude people have even a small point on their side. In this case,it is very small. Heis wrong that you owed him tickets to another fundraiser, but you did owe some form of Wickliffe, OH 44092 and you'll receive “Miss Manners’ The Etiquette of Proper reciprocation. Because he mis- took this for return hospitality, Eating.” Feeling incorrect? E-mail your etiquette whichevenfailed attempts questions to Miss Manners deserve, Miss Manners gathers that you hadn't offered any. (whois distraught that she Then he would be right that * cannot reply personally) at MissManners@unitedmedia. com. youshould haveinvited the couple as your guests. Right, butrude. yourself? When youfeel attractive, do other things feel better too? How good does dessert taste after you've just had to defend your decision to orderit? T have three words for you: Run,run, run. Andnot in the exercisesense. I'd urge the exercise sense as well, but, duh, you don't need meto tell you it’s good for you. Fitness is for you to choose, for your reasons. Yes, you oweit toa life Indians weretotally unimagined in those concepts; they just did not fit. Therefore their “origins” obese, reckless or someone's had to be “explained.” So imagilife partner, that may be an nations ran wild in the attempt. issue. American Indians,of course, Butgood health is emosuffered no such sense of a need tional, too, and happiness for explanations. They already itself is healthy. Now the fun —/) had their owntribal accounts, part: People who are loved asevery bit as precious and meanis (and knowit) tend to take ingful and true to them as were better care of themselves. European personal concepts to the Europeans. So there were E-mail “Tell Me About somedefinite clashes right from It”: tellme@washpost the first. And then science encom; fax: 202-334-5669; or tered into the fray. write: “Telt Me About It,” Science erode developed c/o The WashingtonPost, the view that the cradle of huStyle Plus, 1150 15th St., } \d was in Africa, and NW,Washington,D.C. that from there people 20071. Chat online with out around the world. So for partner to make healthy choices ~ and if you're ever Carolyn each Friday at science also, American Indians washingtonpost.com. hadto havean “origin.” Noting the manyphysical,linguistic noonEastern time, at www. pened Tothe seeds I've sown...” “This Hard Land”isn’t a new song. It was bumped offhis 1984 “Born in the USA”album and spent a decade on bootlegs beforehe released it in 1995. Whateverits history, the song has never sounded like this. The opening has a country lilt, reinforced when the banjo, fiddles and pedal steel kick in. But it’s not exactly a country song. It's morelike something culture) and the standard story ” developed that migrants came he origin of American Indians has beena fascination for European Americans eversince the latter came to these blessed shores. | In many waysthat was an artifact of culture: Europeans comfortably accepted the various accounts they believed for their own origins. But American out of a Saturday night dance y. “Oncethe solos start,” he tells the band near the end, “we gotta giveit up to the rhythm.” His bandcan do that, even thoughit's very different from his E Street Band. This is a 17piece outfit full of strings and horns.It does include familiar faces like Soozie Tyrell and Springsteen's wife, Patti Scialfa, who also play big role in working out the vocal harmonies. into this hemisphere approxi- mately 13,000 years ago. And some American Indians were comfortable withthatalso, The Navajo tribe, for instance, made contact with the Khanty Duane Jeffery Science & Society andcultural similarities between American Indians andAsiatics, science cameto view American Indians as:having derived from Asia and to have migrated to this hemisphere across the Bering Strait at a time when the oceans werelower than at present (due to huge amounts of water being locked upin the ice sheets of the last Ice Age.) ‘ : Osteoporosis Screening Sat., April 29, 2006 = 8a.m. to Noon Call 812-4624 for an appointment Central Utah Clinic Imaging 1055 North 500 West, Suite 112 = Provo, UT story does not endthere. The April 8 issue of New Scientist contains a very readable volcanicash andclaimed by the discoverers to be about 40,000 that do not match the standard story. Their article cites 11 ar- who insist that the depressions arefar older than that and are havebolstered the view of overviewofa scattering of data City. They are embedded in years old. Thereare detractors not human footprints anyway. Its musical missionis country, folk, gospel, bluegrass,activist anthems, New Orleans jazz,oldstyleballads, a touch ofblues and whateverelse peeksin. After rehearsal and between a few bites of takeout, Springsteen saysit’s basically “all the beats . andstyles I don't use with E Street, which is my rock band.” He's doing this now, some suggest, because he has to. “Bruce makes records that reflect the time in America in which he makes them,” says Meg Griffin, a longtime NYC radio host now atSirius Satellite. “Anartist who does not Guthrie — move forwardall the time.” As does he — a rocker who stepped awayfor 1982's dark and brilliant “Nebraska,” 1995's stark “Ghost of Tom Joad” and 2005's pensive “Devils & Dust.” This time it's “WeShall Over- MEL EVANS/Associated Press performs during a show at the Raramount Theater on Thursday,in Asbury Park, N.J. Bruce Sprit is no exercise in musicology. It's personal. “It returns me to some of the music I was doing when I started recording,” he says. “My second album had an accordion, a tuba, jazz sounds, circus sounds, When we streamlined E Street into moreof a rock band, wedid less of that. peeeee ates) aie cere ick to.” He's also taking it on the road, with rehearsal shows through Wednesday at Convention Hall, then three weeks in Europe. Back home,he starts in come: The Seeger Sessi which features 13 songs re oxen: by, among manyothers, lenry, teen says familiarity wasn't his criterion. - “I looked for characters I did it in three days,all live, no overdubs.” That's a big step for a notorious perfectionist. “The sense of raggediness in this music is important,” says Springsteen. “You want -to keep the raunchiness of the characters, because they were ee They lived in a raun“Part of this music is the wide elbow room you feel inside it. I sometimes tell the band, ‘If this “I wish that I was Mr. Gates eaeee ey mney Hn 50"The Seeger Sessions” years ago,” says Springsteen. reine guysloved biblical and religious imagery,and t could easily have done ‘ *, Adam.* The broader challenge, he says,is that “unlike E Street, thisband has no Previous mate-. ial. My 30 years of previous songs, we're not playing any of that. I havethis long-standing arsenal andall ofit is gorie. Helaughs.Helikes this. Not all of his fans agree. “I just haveno interest,” says MarkAshkinos,a fan’since the “70s. “I'm a rocker. When he rocks with ‘Where the Bands Are’or ‘Mary'sPlace,’ Tl pay attention again.” le Some are Pewelown, like Provided as a community service by the Central Utah Clinic >” 7 el Medicine and Crdocrinclogy Lhetors Your Health, Your Choice™ of techniques, DNA sequences from American Indians through. out the hemisphere have repeatedly. been matched with groups in northeastern Siberia. But the Asiatic origins, Using a variety It's a stimulating read. Osteoporosis Risk Factors: = Caucasian or Asian nationality * family history pf osteoporosis » small, thin frame = do not do weight-bearing exercises « regularly drink alcohol «= excessively smoke # do not get enough calcium and/or vitamin D « have lost height Central Utah Cinic.. 12,000 years ago and seems to bear resemblances to Australian aborigines. Further, a skull in Mexico dates to about 13,000. Sites in Wisconsin, Peru, Chile and Washingtonstate weigh in to about this same time. But the featured find for the article is a set of 164 possible human footpnints near Mexico Morerecently, DNA data New Scientist gives coverage to the miajor points'of both groups. — Dylan,Neil Young, W we Pennsylvania that may date to 25,500 years ago. Andstill less controversial is a skull found in Brazil that dates to about versy rating” about how well es- “I have norules left,” says Springsteen, matterof factly. “I don't haveto get on the radio. It's wide open for me. The singer-songwriters I admire attending a that may be 50,000 yearsold, and a rockshelter in Brazil of about the sameage.Slightly less controversial is a rock shelter in cheological finds that complicate the entireissue. Robert Adler, the author, even gives a “contro- can. of aging. It’s a preventable and curable disease. Find outif you're at risk by seemingly dating to 18,000 years ago; somein South Carolina early migrants a name(Clovis creative death, and likeall the great ones from Van Gogh to Hendrix, Brucehas the courage to explorehis soul.” Healso does it because he Ae steoporosis doesn’t have to be a part from these sites are. Let's look. Among the most controversial are stone artifacts from Virginia Archeological evidence of that migration exists but is still not extensive, for a varietyof possible reasons. But some clear finds near Clovis, N.M., gave the travel new roads experiences Join the led ae tribe in northeast Siberia during the 1990s and reported thatit was likefinding their long-lost cousins — cousins in basic beis andcultural traits. The two groups have even exchanged youngpeopleto get better acquainted with each other. tablished and accepted the data little Peniee betat a Night” Ma beneea ieeeaan per and “Johnny 99” is now a funk number. Then there's “Adam Raised a Cain.” “It’s bluegrass,like from 40 Springsteen sayshe will be back — at some point. “I love playing with Street,” heaecaways will. | have a new sitting there to play withStreet.” But ood and really sizable core audience that's adventurous,” he says.“It’s not as large as the audience with E Street,but it’s a good size and I’m interested in taking them on an adventure.” In Europe, that’s a go: Fans hoon ga ta tal tines aatwe See ae ee i |