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Show ee Page 24—THEHERALD. Provo. Utah. Sunday. July 5, 1981 Stereotypes Ring False Choices What's Happened to 1960s Dream? By CHARLENE WINTERS Herald Staff Writer find fulfillment in thejr homes without The new mother wearilyturns on the television set for a moment's relief She has been holding a screaming new born for five hours while trying to keep her two-year old from destroying the kitchen. Her husband arrives home to tell her that his company is cutting ex penses, and he won't get a muchneeded raise moved from the hometothefactories, men left home to work and women stayed at home “It became a status symbolto have a non-employed wife.’’ says Miss Smith “and women worked only when their husbands weren't able to earn enough money It became important to the masculine ego. ‘Even today,’ she adds, “‘there is some holdover. Some men are threatened if their wives are employed.” Three out of four women responding to a Gallup poll in 1980 said marriage and children offered the most interesting and satisfying life for them. but in Utah, as elsewhereinthenation, the numberof full-time homemakersis dwindling How do the homemakers whose careerscenter in the homethink? How do the women whosefeet arein the job market but whose hearts are at home think? What are the opinions of women who work outside the home because they like it? Someof their stories will be told this week. If she thought the television would help her relax, she was mistaken. On cannot only bring home the bacon but she canalsofryit upin the pan. During this time she meticulously cares for her children and is a provocative seductress for her husband She implies thatall things are possible if one simply uses a particular brand of perfume This myth, developed in the mind of some advertising executive is unrealistic. Yet it may be no more unrealistic than some of the ideas encountered about women today Writer Carol Tannenhauser of Press Syndicate, a media service of Ballantine Communications Systems, says the times — atleast on the surface — may be changing “In the late 1969s,"" she writes, “young women and men werestill emerging from school fully expecting to get married, have children, and live happily ever after...or, at least, as before, men would work, women would nurture, children would play andlife would be...well, what life had always been. Or so iney thought. “But something happened. One would haveto beliving in a vacuum not to realize that the very structureof our society, as well as the statistical balance,has shifted. The bride has gotten older and may have been married before. The bridegroom's twochildren areliving with their mother. Even Captain Kangaroo is now asking young The sibility when she's not taking care of you?” More and more frequently the answer is ‘she studies for her law boards...or sees patients...or travels to sales conferences.”’ While it may be more unusual in Utah, with twice the national birth Dennis Patterson Photo Judy Parnell juggles career with family. rate, many womenareopting to have There is literally no support system here (Utah) for working warpen. Women who stay at homealso need a ‘‘superwoman’’ support system to realize that their work is important and vital. “Most jobs offer limited areas of growth’’ maintains full-time homemaker Jan McKinney of American Fork. “At home a woman can specialize in anything she wants — budgeting, sewing, gourmet cooking.” Before Ida Smith, director of Women's Research Institute at BYU, “Of course,” she adds,‘'I often heard the comment‘howcanshepossibly enjoy working outside the home?’ from somepeople.’” Miss Smith cautions against judging “A woman's options should not be criticized,” she says. “‘A woman should not have to justify her situation to anyone else. No one else knows her situation and nobody else is in her assumed her present job, she lived in shoes."” California The pressure is strong for the at“The cost of living was quite high,” home woman,too. she explains, ‘so employed women “Mothers in the home are feeling were a fact of life. I don’t think the pressure,” says Miss Smith. ‘They stigma wasassignificant there. should be able to enjoy their lives and DEAR READER — Drugusersare very manipulative and your son might have convinced the psychiatrist that he does not have a serious drug problem. If you know differently, confront the internal conflicts first before tackling the drug problem" Whatever that related problems. If there is a drug problem present, it will have to be handled before anything means We are worried. Should we change else Fs BULLOCK & LOSE Jewelers Full Registry for Brides Brides currently registered may already be hackneyed,but the problem is timely. What happensto the women who wants to be perfect immediately? What kinds of pressures compel a woman to obsessively conquer the home front and the job market, and still be a leader in the community and her church. This situation will be explored in subsequent articles Press Syndicate directed a questionnaire in New Yorkonthestatus of the sexes. After analyzing the thousands of responsesthey gathered, the company said their data showed peopledid not think it was the women's sole respon- children, ‘‘What does your mommy do knowing they are notalone. term doctors? A psy for six months but our sonis not getting better His school work has cc to deteriorate and he has almost no psychiatrist again with your evidence If thereis still no move on his part to social life My husband told the psychiatrist deal with the drug problem head-on. I about the boy’s drug problem — he has would indeed change doctors Take yourson for a consultation with been smoking pot heavily for several years — but the doctor didn't seem to someone who is affiliated with a think that was veryimportant. He said substance-abuse center or who has a good reputation for handling drughe would have to “work through some tion. When muchof the labor market the screen she sees a beautiful, sexy woman whosingsto the world that she BLAKER chiatrist has been working with our son ago. Women working was an acceptable reality until the industrial revolu ment will run through July 13. suranceof DEAR DR The problem began evolving long and their concerns. The first install- theirfirst babies in their 30s or have no babies atall. More thanhalfof the U.S.labor force is composed of women, and Utah's working women fall in line with nationalstatistics (further details will be outlined in futurearticles) Karen Shepherd, an editor of “Network,’’ a magazine for Utah women, would like to ‘debunk the myth that women stay homewhile men bring home the bacon."” Working women need the reas- By KAREN BLAKER, PH.D. worrying about other's expectations of them Editor's Note: Today's article introduces a multi-part series on women Drug Problems & ye a Tonya Wilson & Bob Gardner Deanna Moon & Mark Walker Debra Pulham & Jeff Jensen Cindy Hoffmann & Grant Rutland Tamara Page & David Cummings Sabrina Gandolfo & Ron Davis Lisa Taylor & Hugh Smith Kathy Kuzmic & Ken Bell to make adequate arrange ments for the homeand children in a two-career family. It also concluded, particularly among menin their 20s, that a man who does his share around the house should not expect a medal “It should be a matter of course,’ wrote one respondent, “‘not an occasion for prizes.”” Do such sentiments reflect an important change in family r or is it little more than lip service? The “average middle class woman’ will be discussed in an article on household responsibilities. Ts the life of today’s womaneasier than last century because of timesaving conveniences in food, clothing: appliances and home maintenance? It all depends on the perspective as one article will show. Solutions to problems may have been simplerin simpler times, but the older 4 solutions don’t always apply. More complicated times require more complicated solutions and theissues facing women are simply not going to go away. Lynette Nielson & Kirk Robinson All majorgift lines carried © STERLING © STAINLESS © GIFTS ¢ CRYSTAL ¢ SILVERWARE ° CHINA BULLOCK & LOSEE 19 N. 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