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Show ’ ‘ Keys to Coping To deal constructively with adversity, the following steps are suggested by the Rev. Donald E. Smith, di- rector of the American Foundation of Religion and Psychiatry: @ Face upto it. Get your deepest and darkest feelings out in the open. The biggest block to the healing process is an inability to confront gut-feelings honestly. @ Take the measureof the crisis realistically so that you know what you have to deal with. If a teen-ager is found to be on drugs, parents can try to talk to him abouthis real feelings. If a young woman’s fiancé has left her, she should ask herself whether she is suffering from a loss of love or a loss of pride? Was he, after all, a bad choice as a partner? @ Focus your strength on solving the problem. Consider myfriend, Bill M., an engineer. At 37, with a wife, three children and a mortgage, he recently was thrown out of work. Atfirst he felt shattered, seeing himself as a loser. Knowing that millions of others are in the same fix was no comfort. After the shock wore off and he had a chance to size up his plight, Bill realized he hadto get hold of himself. He concentrated all his energy on regaining his self-confidence. He com- posed a résumé of his experience and determinedly went atter a new job. In this way, he assured himself of success, ® Finally, recognize that you may need professional help, an objective outsider. The deeply disturbed and depressed may have to see a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. In the case of an agonizing separation or divorce, a marriage counselor or lawyer can provide the needed guidance. Inherent in these four rules are other elements of the coping process. @ Generally, the more resources you have to draw upon at the time of the blow, the better you can contend with it. Dr. Louis Linn puts it this way, “The better you've done your homework as a human being— developed concern for others and the world about you, established a stable family life and kept open the channels for love and excitement—the more likely you are to meet the inevitable crises effectively.” @ During andafter the first reaction of self-pity, it is hard to think of the world outside yourself. When baseball star Roy Campanella became a paraplegic after a crushing auto accident, he was profoundly de- pressed, his career wrecked. Every effort to cheer him PCa Be failed. One day, someone mentioned ham radio. It ignited the spark he needed. He bought equipment and Asif giving you cinnamonflavor in anewRaisin Branist enough: began talking to people all over the globe. Thereafter his mental outlook improved remarkably. “Campy” had ceased to turn inward. @ You can’t commit yourself to the next chapter until you have cleared away the previous unpleasant one. In many families, when the loss of a child is finally accepted, another child is adopted or the couple has Because so manypeople love another baby. “This,” comments Doctor Linn, “is an affirmation of life.” cinnamonflavor, we decided to use it to make a whole new kind of @ Ventilation, through anger, can be healthy, butit raisin bran. Cinnamon Raisin Bran. So Post, the moreraisin raisin may also alienate good friends unless they understand it is your way of responding to adversity. | | | | @ Everyone has his own timing. Grieving over a 5 This couponis anothernice thing about Post Cinnamon Raisin Bran. | bran, now has a cinnamonflavored | raisin bran. Which happensto | be the only cinnamonraisin bran. 7¢ off? That’s just for tryingit. Take the coupon to the manin your | store and he'll take seven cents off | | theprice of a box of new Post | CinnamonRaisin Bran. | The cinnamonflavoris on us. | | death, you can go off alone “in your wilderness,” turning your face to the wall. For some it takes a year te complete the work of mourning. But the loss should be kept within realistic boundaries. Family Weekly, April 4, 1971 ! Store Coupon MR. GROCER: General Foods Corporation will redeem this coupon for 7¢ plus 3¢ handling if you receive it (and if upon request, you submit evidence thereof satisfactory to General Foods Corporation) on the sale of Post Cinnamon Raisin Bran. Coupon may not be assigned or transferred. Customer must pay any sales tax. Void where prohibited, taxed,or restricted by law. Good onlyin U.S.A. Cash value 7¢ | 1/20¢. For redemption of properly received ~ and handled coupon, mail to GENERAL | FOODS CORPORA- Offer limited to one coupon per package, _ Good only upon pres- entation to grocer on _purchase of Post CinnamonRaisin Bran. Any other use constitutes fraud. General Foods Corporation 7¢ |