Show 2E Standard-Examine- r Thursday September 1 1933 Horizons Don’t make a big fuss over black ooze sauce DEAR MISS MANNERS: At a social gathering where cake is beS-ing served and one discovers that t there is black ooze on top of V one’s portion what is one to do so as not to look rude? Judith Martin $r GENTLE READER: Black United Failure Syndicate ooze? BLACK OOZE? Do not repeat not alert others ther and teenage sister to him DEAR MISS MANNERS: How by shouting “Eeew gross!" Oil spills and other potentially does one handle subtle disapharmful substances should be reproval? The person who reacts to your ported — first quietly to your host or a waiter only then if necnew summer haircut by saying “You got a haircut didn’t you?" essary to environmental authorities and accompanies this with a However if you just don’t hapdisapproving look and no further pen to like fudge sauce on your comment cake don’t call it nasty names Or “That’s a new dress isn’t it?” Or worse “Do you like that just don’t eat it DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am color?" a screen writer and for the most Sometimes I get so angry I The only want to retaliate by asking how part “employer" I have would be the one stands in the summertime hairdo producer to whom I have sold a wearing a power-helmscript The rest of my contacts sprayed into place and not shamare other writers producers ac- pooed for a week or more Or the tors etc with whom my ac- discomfort of being harnessed ine bra quaintance is either casual or to a social Sometimes I find myself’ What is the proper procedure reverting to smoldering childhood for introducing such business col- or wanting to shout leagues to family members? Do I something emotionally satisfying like “So’s your old Aunt Minnie!” present my parents and siblings friends al et to boyfriends my or “Nyaa! Nyaa! Nyaa!” GENTLE READER: Now now associates or vice versa? It’s not that my family hangs out on the now It will soon be fall and set with me but an encounter in you’ll feel better We don’t want a restaurant is the predicament I to let the irritation level rise any face higher than it is If every sour GENTLE READER: In social comment were treated as a challife unlike the movies age gets’ lenge we would never have any you higher billing especially peace where ladies are concerned and The answer to all the questions intimacy lower Thus your relayou were asked is “Yes” By detives are introduced to your collivering it unadorned with the leagues except that gentlemen are usual accompanying sociability introduced to ladies of their own (“Do you like it?” or “I just got or previous generations In other it") you convey that you have words you introduce the producnot mistaken the inquiry for a er to your mother but your fa- - compliment Miss Manners J - self-employ-ed et guided-missil- get-eve- ns DEAR MISS MANNERS: My name is Tracey Quite often people make an innocent mistake and call me Stacey I am not always good at remembering names myself so I can forgive this error but I am not sure how to correct the offender For example a at the same managerial level addressed me as Stacey in front of several other (Sometimes she does call me by my proper name) Not wishing to embarrass her with a correction co-wor- in front of them I ignored the mistake and responded to her greeting I then felt embarrassed at having responded to the wrong name in the presence of others who knew better Should I have caused her or the others embarrassment by making a gentle correction immediately? Or should I advise her of her mistake in private — or perhaps drop the matter altogether? GENTLE READER: There is hardly such a thing as being too tactful but allowing others to change your name without protest probably qualifies An occasional factual mistake should be allowed to go by but this is a pretty basic one Miss Manners is pleased that you understand that the correction must be gentle A smile a slight shake of the head and a soft brief correction (“It’s Tracey") — all done as if the mistake is a common one that rather amuses you — are called for This illogical stance (Miss Manners perfectly understands that there is nothing amusing in such an error) is continued after the extracted apology by your saying “Don’t worry about it — everyone does it” Gary SNfl’RSHOJi r H'iWJiSi iCitiilMv Home: Ogden Birthplace: Richfield Utah — but grew up in Tempe Ariz Occupation: Department chair and home economist for the USU Extension Service of Weber County I can’t decide if there even is one favorite out of all I’ve read What I plan to do in my spare time that I keep putting off: ' Practice the piano more Most memorable vacation: Six week tour of Europe and Greece with four great friends Whom First job: half-ho- ur Office girl and dental assistant trainee favorite movie: It’s a toss-u- p between “Camelot” “Man of LaMancha” and “Anne of Green Gables” Favorite book: All-tim- ClarkStandard-Examine- e I’d most like to have a conversation with: My deceased grandfather whom I never got to know because I was only 3 when he passed away but whom everyone revered Where I’m most likely to be found on a weekend: Somewhere between home shopping and enjoying friends I What three favorite things insist on having in the refrigerator: Milk eggs and vegetables Best advice I ever got Laugh a little every day it keeps you young and relieves a lot of tension Greatest accomplishment I haven’t accomplished it yet SNAPSHOT is a weekly feature giving a glimpse of people in the r circulation area If you have suggestions write: Snapshot PO Box 951 Ogden Utah 84402 Standard-Examine- Federal labor laws don’t apply to grandmother’s gifts DEAR ABBY: This is about the letter from the reader who was concerned that a grandmother’s annual gift of money might become mandatory because he had read that a court ruled that a company’s gift of a free Thanksgiving turkey to its employees became mandatory even though the company had fallen on hard times and decided one year not to give its employees this “gift" Obviously neither you nor your writer has the proper knowledge of labor law to evaluate the Thanksgiving turkey case which is a labor law matter and permitted to unilaterally make changes in the wages hours or terms and condi- Doar Abby Abigail Van Buren Universal Press Syndicate deals with a concept known as “unilateral changes” In a very simple manner when the employees of a company are represented by a union the company generally is not tions of employment (including fringe benefits which the Thanksgiving turkey was) without first notifying the union and giving the union the opportunity to bargain about the change Collective bargaining between company and union is what union representation is all about The case your reader referred to did not hold that the giving of the Thanksgiving turkey was now a mandatory matter that the company could never cease What it held was that the compa ny had an obligation to notify the union and give the union the opportunity to bargain about the change before the company actually implemented the new policy this the company had not done So as you can see from the above explanation since the federal labor laws do not apply to the grandmother she has no worries about her gifts becoming a mandatory obligation Well I am sure this is much more than you ever wanted to know about labor law Believe me it’s a complex specialized area of law and this is just a simple explanation of one small aspect of it - The moral of all this: Don’t jump to conclusions when you don’t know all the facts! - DEAR MS BULLOCK: Sorry my answer was a turkey Thanks for the short course in labor law Whew! The things I learn through writing this column Accent on Events OGDEN EAGLES AUXILIARY NO 2472: Breakfast served at 10 am Sept 2 3 4 by the auxiliary at the Eagles Family Meadows up Ogden Canyon Experts question achievement tests ROCHESTER NY (AP) — Too much emphasis on achievement tests can have negative consequences says a University of Rochester motivational psychologist “We should nurture children’s basic curiousity and help them enjoy challenges" says Richard Ryan “Do that and children will educate themselves even after schooling ends" When the focus is on achievement tests he says “There can be short-tergains in test scores but students don’t retain rote learning m well “The more serious problem is the alienation teachers and students feel when higher scores are the goal rather than helping students develop competence and confidence in approaching (Sale does not include REAL ESTATE LICENSING our new fall group our denim pants MHOS or our basic group In black brown and navy) COURSE Sept 6-- 24 Evening Classes 4 pm Instructor FACTORY OUTLETS Arnold Stringham Call 476-123- 7 After 5:00 pm Ogden The Family Center 129 North Harnsville Road lb I l-- x 392-892- 10 am to 6 pm-Mo- nday through Saturday Closod Sunday uUi ? — STEPHANIE BULLOCK LABOR LAWYER EL CENTRO CALIF |