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Show DESERET NEWS, TUESDAY, DECEMBER 4, 1 973 A 25 Divorcees are uniting council n'mmranund from ' j u n No i vi none agrti- - on tactu- few of the Fighting stigmas and loneliness, lirow -- R' jht now then about II 40 piemher-h-- Vv r i Vr'W W '5S, 5, f fv A - ty ' p St, -v In an effort to attract raw membtis including nrwed niothirs and widow- - thev 1 v? 'V nave begun putting up tlyeis m and other laundromats public SERIES In an era of activism, perhaps it was inevitable that these women would unite But even in 1973, their name may at first surprise you. They call themselves the Union of Divorced Women, and they are actually only the most conspicuous part of what seems to be a new trend m Utah i w-J- cr By Elaine Jarvik Deseret News staff vmter A t ' he enormity and muLii'iv of their pn.bltnis hold tnem Hueth But seeking support FIRST I v? -- prices They have ..No begun to taiu on speaking engagements, and of the group testi fied recently in opposition to the dissolution of Salt Lake County's Family Court which had provided for free couples counseling divorce cot.templaing ' '- S representatives ft vs,5 In Sugar House and Cottonwood, Park and Provo, divorced women have begun to bring their problems out mto the open and to seek support from each other .Although their ranks are now is small, potential membership huge Census figure- - fut 1970 put the number of divnri ed women in I tali at about 14,200 With the additional women added m the three year-sinthe census, there are now enough to fill, say, the University of Utah's massive Special Events Center in Rose ..' 4 Egged on by interest shown by divorced women at a recent womens conference at the University of Utah, the U of U.'s Womens Resource Center will begin an ongoirg workshop on divorce around the first of the year. ce N( vy. ment Even m the absence of such a Divorcees Anonyformalized mous newly divorced women have begun calling up women they women who, have never met they have heard from a friend, wall give a word of support Save time during the rush by serving quick and easy One-pmeals. Spanish Noodles is just the thing for a busy day. pre-holid- Nes photo tw Gerold W Silver The divorced woman often faces her problems alone. Now several groups have sprung up in Utah to offer support. The Union, as yet the oi.'v or gamzed group of divorcees in the state, was started about a year ago to offer such support Other goals, drafted at one of the groups early meetings, include d'scnmi-nation- ; overcoming isolation and sensitizing the community to our needs; and bringing us mto in full and equal participation society Unlike more established groups such as Parents Without Partners and SWORDS (Single, Widowed or Divorced), the union is not a social orgamzation i wouldn't have pulleo through the way I have if I hadn't had someone to talk with, admitted one woman who has just gone through a painful divorce If it werent for the support Im getting from these women, confessed a member of the Union of Divorced Women, Id probably think ! had to jump mto another marriage The alk is serious, the agenda often includes speakers from local social service agencies, sometimes refreshments are served, sometimes theyre not By With the holidays facing us front on we have two direc 'ions to inink about food wise the elaborate and festive for special occasions and the economical, time saving meals that make the other possible In the holiday planning assemble recipes for a dozen of vour quickest easiest dish-e- and piogram them into the big plan In tact one dav could be spent preparing them ahead of time as much as possible, relegating them to the reirig-erato- r or freezer for the precise moment of using One Pot Spanish Noodles, with its combination of egg noodles, beef, bacon, onion, green pepper, stuffed olives and tomato sauce, fits right in this pi ogram The ingiedients are mixed n a matter of minutes with only about 20 minutes cooking time to follow, and after serving, theres only one pot to Although the census tabulates the number of divorced female., in Ltah as about 14,290 it counted only some 9 400 males indicating that they tend to move out of sta more frequentlv than o and that women they tend to remarry faster Which all goes to prove say some women, that the divorced womans lot is harder than tne divorced mars Every Thursday evening since last December, a handful of union members have met at Bonnie's house in Taylorsville or Sandra's house in Granger Men will argue just as loudly that it is not But, so far at least, they have not banded together m Ltah to do anything about it The attendance list vanes, depending on who has a PT A meeting Some of the women- are a secretanes one is bookkeeper one a social worker Many are on working mother s welfare Next: Discrimination identitv. Winmfred Jardine Deseret News food od,t')i In I960, there were 2,167 divor ces m Utah, or 10 9 per 1,000 mar ned females 14 and over In 19"2. the latest year for which figures are available, the number jumped to 4 904. or about 20 per 1,000 al-- meals Time-savin- g tlm According to statisticians divorce rate in Ltah is growing faster than the population Deseret one-dis- h et Divorce statistics in Ltah like the US as a whole, have been steadily increasing over the last decade In f an, in fa. t the rate is even greater than the national a erage, although it is lower than in other western states In Provo, women band together to sit in on divorce hearings to show their support tor the female plaintiff or defendant Thej unofficial spokeswoman, Mrs. Millie Bushman, is gathering data on divorce for the National Organization for Women (NOW) Mrs Bushman would like to start a kind of Alcoholics Anonymous for divorcees a group a woman could contact when she needed m'vice or ust encourage- iSSK and a new yv Since pasta jiroducts are a snume ot some protein as well as other food nutrients (especially if they aie enriched) combine them with complete foods meat, protein seafood poultrv cheese eggs and you have not only a but complete protein dish also substantial amounts of niacin, thiannne and nbnflavin and iron In buying bacon keep an eve out for thrifty bacon ends for they cut into pieces as neatly as the most precise and expensive slices ONE POT SPANISH NOODLES fi slices bacon 1 1 1 1 medium onion chopped medium green pepper, chopped pound ground beef can (28 ounces) tomatoes in puree 1 tar (15 oz ) mat inara sauce 1 cup water teaspoons salt Dash black pepper 8 ounces medium egg r oodles (about 4 cups) D cup pimiento-stuffechopped olives Cut bacon into pieces Fry bacon in Dutch oven nr heavy -- aucepan until brown and crisp Remove ar.d set aside Pour uif and discard about half of drippings Saute onion, green pepper and ground beef m remaining drippings until beef is browned Do not drain tomatoes Break up tomatoes n can with fork, add undrained tomatoes, baton and all remaining ingredients to Dutch oven Bnng to boil, cover; reduce heat and simmer 10 minutes -- .i d ash Her heart is breaking because of her nose By Abigail A an Buren DEAR I am a ABBY lfi-- y ear-olgirl with a big problem My nose Both my parents have noses like you wouldn't believe so it's no wonder d I have no brothers or sisters I joke about it, say mg, "After my parents saw me they decided not to have anymore " (It's probably true ) 1 have friends, but I've never had a date I'm always downing around, laughing at myself, but inside, my heart is breaking because I feel so ugly with this nose I ve begged my parents to give me a nose job but my father says it's too expensive and my mother says if people don't like me for myself they are false fnends I m a good student but I want to quit school and get a lob so I can start saving for a nose job. I need it NOW', not 11) years from now Do you know of any plastic surgeon who will do my nose now and let me pay him later7 111 sit with his kids. Ill scrub his floors at home or at his office Ill do anything. Abby. if he 11 fix my nose now and let me pay him on time SCHNOZ Please7 - DEAR SCHNOZ: Send me your name and address and I II do a little nosing around for you I am glad DEAR ABBY that airlines are now sepai g smokers from nonsmokers, but can't something be done to help office workers who don't smoke, yet are obligated to spend eight hours a day, five days a week in closed offices with workers who smoke all day long7 DEAR ABBA Mv 47 and I m 45 Five year-ag- o he had an affair with a voung women who works at the factory where he works hu-ba- is Its all over now and I have forgiven him. but another problem has come up I have a daughter who started working at the factory where her father l and this old flame of his arc-stil- vvorlang ABBY Many don't dare complain because the boss and his secretary both smoke, and they, with other smokers, would be furious if we protested We need our joba. many being too near retirement to think of seeking employment elsewhere What IS the answer for this category of nonsmokers? SICK FROM SMOKE INN MEX g DEAR SICK: I wish I knew. You cant legislae consideration for others. Most cigarette smokers are offend that they nonsmokers, but are either too hooked to refrain or too selfish to care aware I just wish they would voluntarily go somewhere else to indulge their habit. Different people who work there have told me that im has been going daughter around asking people if they know m which department her father's old girl friend works so she can get a look at hei Contact the Living Secat least two tion at weeks prior to the wedding 1 South at least one week in advance of the wedding Pictures must be printed within two publishing days afler the wedding 1 2 Bring pictures and infor motion to the Deseret News 1st Living Section, 34 E Please note office hours are 8 10 am to 4 30 p m Monday throjgh Friday, and 9 a rn to p m on Saturdav 1 heavy-han- Worse yet. for a long time afterwards he keeps threaten-m- g to give them the same treatment if they dont behave themselves This cruses the children to feel nervous and frightened most of the time, which makes them resent him. I've noiicnd the resentment growing lately Abby. how- can I let him know that the spanking alone is sufficient punishment and his constant threats are neither wise nor necessary 7 And how do you like this kind of behavior from a man who has two college degrees and a father who used to beat have your husband examined physically and mentally . Two college degrees dont give one immunity from him up7 -- HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF DEAR HISTORY: History need not repeat i'self leli Father that his punishment is cruel and excessive and its damaging the relationship between him and his children, so to cut it out And it might not hurt to told her foreman she to see if she could wanted just see what her father saw in that lady that made him flip his lid and hurt me so much She What can I do about this'1 I don t want my daughter to see this woman. Worrying about it has made me a nerious NIGHTMARES IN' wreck - Come See Bayberry Tapers Hand-Dippe- d R I DEAR NIGHTMARES: Aou can't stop your daughter from trying to aatisfy her curiosity. So what if she does see this woman? The affair is over, so put it out of your mind and don't make a federal case out The Old-Fashion- Way ed fey "PRICILLA" of it. chen our DEAR ABBY which misbehave children isnt very often, mv husband spanks them sevtrely And 1 Rules for bridal stories Follow these rules to place uedding pictures in the Des errt News mean he really lays a to their. of an en4 Publication gagement or wedding picture on a cenain dav ( AN NOT be guaranteed - a $1 chaigt for 5 There each picturt b The Deseret News car not -t or for he responsibl damaged pictures OF COLONIAL CANDLE Olympus Hills Wed. Dec. 5 Foothill Village Ttiurs. 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