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Show Ml . WM WIWMt W 1 W does By Dr. Elliott La&Iaa Professor of child development, of Utoh to Americans ""Competition is like apple pie. Competi-2lio- n has made us what we are 23Aday. Competition kills the fSpirit! Competition engen- JT.' Each of these statements 23iaS some truth in it yet the iJeal truth about competition Jics somewhere in between. where? ' . Permit me to make some statements that I know to be irue about human growth and development, and then lets ee where we are with the "whole competition issue. The word SOME is probably n 'tthe real key here. SOME thrive on the challenge goffered by competition. chil-jlre- 3 In my book, You and Your Childs World (Deseret Book Co., 1967), I reported on the "very bad sibling relations that "developed between two broth-jjer- s because their mother con--2 tinually compared them. In fact, so bitter was their childhood that relationship J those bad feelings persist I today.; i involved, I would say that 20 percent would not be adversely affected, and 80 percent diswould be consideraoly Today's Family turbed. In and of itself, competition isnt all bad. An indrddual childs response to competition should be the altimate criterion by which parents decide whether or not to foster it. For children who seem to f thrive upon pitting themselves . Vihh against others, I would say DR.EU.IOTT that a reasonably competitive atmosphere could be highly motivating and advantageous. In other words, a child's re(X; the other hand, I know a sister team where the older sponse to the competitive environment should be carefully thrived upon the keen competition engendered by the famistudied, and then a decision ly. Indeed, one might fairly regarding the use of competisay that she became" be- tion can be more intelligently cause of the competition be- made. tween the two. Let me give an example If I were forced to commit from my own familys experison myself to an actual percent- ence. I have a age split between the innate who has taken tennis instruclove of competition and the tion from some of the Wests deleterious effects of it, I great professionals. At twelve would say that 40 percent of he really caught on and was all children will thrive on reaplaying beautifully. Since we sonable incenbelong to the Tennis Club the competitive tives, and 60 percent will be competitive tennis environment is very much around us. hurt by it. At any time of the day and When intense competition is night one can see earnest parents who never made the grade in tennis stardom, and parents whose names are legin Western tennis endary grooming their children for LflflDflU Lose Ugly Fat With Eat Weir Losing Plan ... t.- Its simple to know how one lose pounds of unsightly fat -- right in your own home, iust go the drug store and ask for the ' :X-1Reducing Plan. 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In some cases their children is grueling more applicable! never forget the bitter tears of his opponent When I spoke with my son about the experience, when I placed that information into a fathers computer, which had been for twelve years registering the emotions of a boy, I realized that this child was not built for intense rorupetition, and I have never since stressed competitiveness. There is much talk about the fully functioning person indibeing an vidual. More simply put this means that the best adjusted human beings dont need to have others prodding them to inner-dire'te- tion may be excellent Some forms of competition may produce anxiety beyond measure, even trauma. It Is not unusual in Japan to have many suicides after the announcements have been made about those eligible for r universities. The the competition is so severe that it cracks some human beings. Regardless of the type of child you have, here are some four-yea- general rules to help a family live best with mild competition. First, try to stress the joy of rather than accomplishment the victory. Help children to savor It is the most powerful known. character-builde- r ice tea area of endeavor must not be equated with personal worih. Finally, if competition is the order oi the day for your child, be as certain as possible that it is therapeutic competition wherein the victory over other human beings does not and end-abecome the be-all ll HALF GAL. Your Neighborhood HEBER VALLEY MILK DEPOTS fits Sueeul Eats Si, fept 30k 35 Next, never make your love and approval totally dependent upon victories over others. High-levachievement in any d our designer fur collection The bald truth about the matter is that only the unusual child scours the heme when asked. to dean. 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