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Show STAN BRONSON, UTAH SOLDIER Abby Says: This Couple Needs Would of He's The Orph ans' Hero Women 8T Satu day, January 30, 1971 i Communication By PATTY; CANNON Deseret News Staff Writer Two years ago Stan Bronson was a G.I. By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY: I recently built an office for myself in our hoipe; which I find very convenient because I can now spend more time at home than in my downtown office. My wifes apparent annoyance with this new arrangement has become obvious, and that is my problem. It is very depressing to be asked the first thing in the morning. What is your schedule today? (What she means is, Are you going to stay home all day and get in in Korea. Today, hes a hero. And all because he stumbled upon an orphanage in Seoul and stopped to see if he could help. . When the director of the girls orphanage saw the altruism in this 66 soldier from Blanding, Utah, little did she knew that he would change the lives of hundreds of children. t A clerk-typi- at Army Headquarters, duty at 5 p.m. and visited the 1 my Stan was off orphanage daily. way?) Due to the emotional tension of my work, I often jog in the morning and nap in the afternoon and this displeases my spouse no end. I figure that this will keep me in good physical condition and possibly increase the number of years J will be around, which I suspect is another source of annoyance to her. I thought of a solution : Suggesting that she go back to work, teaching school. Or have you a better idea? We have been married for 19 years and have three lovely children. SENSITIVE And. what did he have, to share? Somemusic and an thing every child needs abundance of love. With guitar in hand, Stan taught them to and many other childrens sing favorites. BOTTOM OF LADDER - Korean orphans are at the bottom of the social ladder and they know it, said Stan. But singing in a chorus changed the lives of meet of these children. They realized, for the first time, that they could do something worthwhile." But loving and teach: the children every day for three months wasnt enough for Stan. He wanted to do something more. DEAR SENSITIVE: Quit guessing, and ask your wife some pertinent questions: Why are you unhappy with my home office setup? Why do you object to my jogging in the s.m. and snoozing in the p.m.? Would you like for me to ' just drop dead and get out of your way entirely? Dont fight fire with fire by trying to get HER out of Hie bouse. Yon two need a good healthy truth session. Then came the wonderful idea. He would make a record album of the orphans choir and sell it in America to raise unds. (All proceeds to go to the orphanage.) Upon his Release from the army in June of 1968, Stan promised the children he would return some day with the record. noNo, you wont, said the children, body ever comc-- back. Utah's own Stan Bronson changed the lives of 90 Korean orphans when he organized them into a choir. Since his release from military service there, he has set up a foundation for hundreds of needy children. s Childrens Tender Apples Foundation. Children are like tender apples. They must be handled with care and have strong roots to help them grow, said Stan. Once at the orphanage, a tiny girl came ' crying tc Stan. Whats wrong, he asked. I want a mother, the girl sobbed. But she will probably never have one, Stan said. HE RETURNED But Stan did return, having spent hundreds of dollars and hours in production of the album. While in the states, he sought help from friends and relatives in setting up a foundation for the orphans. His brother Steve devoted endless horns e of service, and a friend, Mike Hurst, pledged full support. The aim of the foundation is to change the attitudes of the orpnans to convince them that SOMEONE cares. Other organizations just give money. "We not only send funds, tut loving care in the form of letters, said Stan. Any interested person can become a sponsor, which involves building a personal relationship with an orphan, sending $12 and warm letters each month. non-prof- it life-tim- Our primary function isnt adoption, because adoption isnt always best for the child. Our purpose is to help them with what they already hove in Korea, he said. ... THEYRE BETTER OFF Many children in Korean orphanages were abandoned by parents because the orphanage could offer them more in the way of hospitals, shelter and education. In some ways, the orphans are better off than poverty-stricke- n children who still have par- ents. NEEDS MONEY A special school for these unfortunates is also subsidized by the Tender Apples Foundation. Though the orphanage desperately needs the money, the children really .red love and friendship. Thats why we named our campaign the All of those working for the foundation are volunteers. No one receives a salary or is on an expense account. We plan to keep it that way, said Stan. Contributions go directly to the children. Our books are open to inspection. Thats why it took awhile for Stan and Mike to make the expensive trip back to Korea. When they arrived, they stayed with a poor family and slept on a hard floor for a month. SECOND V ISIT It was during this second visit that they met Milton Fletcher, who now works full time for the foundation in Provo without pay. Now that all of the fellows are back in Utah a proressional music director is continuing the orphanage choir. Bob Hope and Art Linkletter were much impressed with the singing during their respective visits to Korea. In fact, said . St m, when Mr. Hope first heard the choir, tears came to his eyes. Both celebrities used the choir in special filming. Medical Advice One thing about Korean children, said Stan. they are all beautiful and they all can sing. of And the children (and grown-upKorea think the world of Stan. In 1968 they recognized him as Koreas big brother of the year. ,His benevolence has carried over in America, too. He is employed as a social worker for Indians in the Blanding area. s) All the while, Stans dream is to bring the Korean orphans to America for a tour. With the proceeds, the children will help not just temselves, but needy children in other orphanages connected with the foundation. Why? Because the Bronson altruism has rubbed off on them. Because sharing brings joy, and love is contagious. In order for the dream tour to come true, the foundation needs help. To become a sponsor, purchase a record, or just share in the cause of these Utahns, write the Childrens Tender Apples Foundation, Inc., P.O. Box 1331, Provo, Utah 84601. fund-raisin- g nroTnmrtnrii DEAR ABBY : My daughter is engaged to marry a young man she went with all through high school. He w'ent overseas, but was sent home before his hitch was up because he had been having blackouts. He spent several months in the hospital under observation, and was then discharged, but he still sees a psychiatrist once a month at the V.A. hospital. He has stxuck my daughter several times. Once I saw him slap her hard across the mouth and I really gave him a good piece of my mind. What worries me is that after they are married they will be living in another state and I am afraid of what he may do to her. How can I get her to postpone her wedding until I am sure he is all right? Or Should I just leave, well enough alone and hope for the best? She told me herself that he is no more the boy she used to go with than the man in the moon, and shes, afraid of c ' hi-- , at times. ' . I dont like to interfere, but I cant sit and let my daughter make what could be a serious mistake. Do you think I should contact the boys doctor and ask him some T WORRIED questions? DEAR WORRIED: I think your daughter should postpone her wedding until after SHE has talked to the boys doctor. In fact, she should ask to go with him on his next visit to the doctor, and together they should get an honest report on his condition. No girl should marry a man of whom she is afraid. CONFIDENTIAL TO ANDREA: Dont play games. If y n want him, say yes. While you are playing hard to get he may meet somebody else and decide its love at first sight. YOU AND YOUR HOME rtnrrtnnnnnnnrmTrtnnnrir Add Drama To 7- - - - c y . . JunSor's Room For You By BARBARA BARNES By LINDSAY R. CURTIS, M.D. DEAR DR. CURTIS: I have been pregnant for six and a half months and at times my baby has been so active my husband refers to it as the chipmunk. Lately, though, it goes for a whole day at a tme without moving at all. Is this normal? I cant help being worried. --MRS. D. W. DEAR MRS. W.: Whenever you see a newborn baby squirming in its crib, kicking .and stretchipg its arms, remember that similar activities often occur within the prospective mother as well. Remember also that this same energetic newborn must even though certain sleep haggard parents may contest the fact at times. The baby within the worno sleeps, too. Furthermore, having fewer distractions, suffering no hunger pangs because of constant nutrition, it may well sleep longer and more soundly than its counterpart the big, outside. in This long jacket is so versatile; looks great with pants or a skirt. KNIT A VERSATILE JACKET By LOIS HOLMES This is the new long jacket you have been waita perfect topper for ing for swea.-- f pants or skirt. The graceful slenderizing cables are flattering and elon- gating to the figure, with functional pockets. Its just the right sweater for that chilly day and will give you a costume look. This is a good basic style suitable for any age 'group, for daughter will love it and its just as :uitable for Grand- ma, too. The Reverse of the stocki- - nette stitch is the right side and the interesting detail in the stitch pattern is very intriguing. Four ply knitting worsted or synthetic can be Sizes Small, Medium, Large are ALL included in EACH pattern. To order: Hand Kit-65CABLE JACKET send $1.50 in currenorder to cy, check or Lois Holmes of California, Box 6002, Deseret News, Inglewood, Calif. 90301. Please print your name, address, ZIP code and pattern number plainly. Send 15 cents for EACH pattern for first- used. 3 DOUBLE-BREASTE- mc-.e- class mail and special handling, or 25 cents EACH for air mail. DEAR LOIS: How do yor determine which is the right Mrs. G.L. side of ribbing? DEAR GLADYS: When beginning a garmeit with ribbing, always remember that the first row worked after the cast on stitches is the wrong side of your work. Thus, if pattern calls for an even number of rows of ribbing and then follow with stockinette stitch, the first of stockinette stitch row would be a purl row. rumbling world In short, a days inactivity on the chipmunk's part is no cause for alarm. Two or three consecutive days of the same, however, especially at this stage in the pregnancy, offers reason for concern. A check with the doctor would be wise in this latter case. By means of a he can check the babys heartbeat to determine whether there are any problems. HighProtein Foods Substitute For Meat With trie ever-risin- g cost of meat, smart homemakers use foods inexpensive as substitutes. For instance, peanut butter, eggs, cheese, and beans can step in a.: main courses for meal. A any high-protei- n d If you have an attic, put it to use for Junior and his friends. Make an opening in the floor and install a firemans pole that leads to the room below. When your fireman (junior grade) can sleep in the attic and slide to his y room he will have all the more fun. The pole must extend from attic roof to the floor of the lower room to keep it stable. It can be constructed by a plumber from a piece of pipe, preferably brass. Wood was also used in old firehouses. If joints are necessary they must be carefully smoothed. Firemen no longer have poles except in outlying areas, but oldtimers recall that they were polished, not greased. Make sure Junior is old enough to grasp the idea before he tries it. ; : playroom-workroom-stud- ubo Buga ana BBBttaitaiiagBagc a A BBBBBiimBB8m)P'iJniii.mBBiBBBBag8BaBBBJumBBBmni pbooboiho 0000 ooo i? Teach Children How To Work By DR. PAUL POPENOE Director. of American Family institute Relations Boys must look forward to work for a living. The best preparation for this is to learn what work is like, rignt here and now. If they dont learn this theyre going to have a hard time growing into successful manhood. So Dr. Martin Loeb of the USC School of Social Welfare concluded in a study of adolescents. He decided that perhaps the greatest problem of boys in junior high school was that of successfully developing their masculinity. One factor of masculinity is strength, he pointed out. And another certainly is being able to manipulate the world around you. Working is good for boys in this respect but the kids today need to be more work oriented. Boys should get the idea what various jobs are- - like. They should be put in work situations. Its not enough that Dad take the boys out to the movies or a ball game. Boys from 12 to 15 should be acquainted fully with what father is required lo do to make a living for the family. They should find out what his place of work is like . . . and get the feel of it, if possible. Moreover, as Dr. Loeb insisted, boys should be given the freedom to point toward a particular job or field if they wart to. It has been said that at least 25 per cent of all men who graduate from college have no definite idea of what they want to do in llfe. Rare is the boy who has a definite idea from childhood of what his life work must be, but x few boys always have. If young men are exposed to as many different kinds o! work situations as possible, they will gradually build up a wise choice. Believing that boys must develop initiative if they are ever ,to be satisfactory men, Dr. Loeb is sharply critical of some present practices. He doesnt like as athletics such little baseball. He thinks league that the boys sport should be supervised by older boys, not by fathers or paid proiession-a- l coaches. provide field trips to give boys work experience and let them get a better idea of what the work of the world is like. He urges that service clubs GOLDEN WEDDING GOLDEN WEDDING Frank R. and Helen Slight will be honored by their cnildren at a reception on their 50th Wedding Anniversary on Saturday, Feb. 6, 1971, from will b happy to i till 9 p.m. '. have their friends call on them at Crystal Heights Ward, 23th East and Stratford Avenue, Sail Lake City. No gifts, please. ,y In observance ot their Golden Wedding Anniversary, Laurance Melvin and Reida Merrick Crook, 760 East 3155 South, Salt Lake City, Utah, will be honored at an open house Tues-jaFeb. 2, 1971, at Grant 2nd Ward, 711 Jepsen Ave. (7th E.. 3355 Sojth), from 7 to 9 p.m. Mr. and Mrs. Crook were married m the Logan Temple, Feb. 2, 1921. Thev have resided in Logan, Magna, Garfield and Salt Lake City, Utah. have three daughters, hey Mrs. Ralph (Margaret) Willima, Salt Lake City, Utah, Mrs. Joseph (Melva) Kearns, Utah, and Mrs. Joseph A. (Sharleen) Heiner jr., Perry, Utah, 18 grandchildren, 21 great grandchildren. No gifts, riease. |