Show alfrom from I 1 ha the american t tim bunker on raising girls ever since I 1 sent you that account of the gai gal hoss race goot mot sot up by col lawson last fall I 1 have been thinking inking t about the way girls are brought up in this country indeed I 1 have had considerable many ideas on that subject I 1 ever since our sally was born and the matter has baa been brewing as mrs bunker says of her beer for well nigh twenty years last ga t winter when I 1 was down south I 1 got some more ideas and I 1 am now so full upon this topic that I 1 shall boil over unless I 1 dip out a little into your paper I 1 count a well grown well behaved and well educated woman as the very blossom of creation she was the last made reserved for the last because beat best As there is bothi nothing so good and beautiful in the world as a good woman so there Is nothing so bad as a spoiled woman and now I 1 am sorry to say that very many girls are utterly spoiled they ari are aru not well balanced and well adapted to the work that woman has to do the most are brought up with such notions that they go through life ilee discontented and unhappy 1 there is deacon smiths daughter eliza a fair sample of the kind of bringing up I 1 mean they T hey are very good people over there but they see bee seem beem to forget that children have got to grow up and cant be playthings forever they did not teach her to do anything when she was a little girl she pretended to go to school bu but bub t it was only when she took a notion to t 0 go there was no habit of study fixed and so she bhe 7 got discouraged and disgusted with all kinds kinda of books that required any thinking she sha had as little discipline of body as of mind could not sew saw well did not know how to make up a bed or to darn a stocking could not broil a fish or boil a pudding some how her mother seemed to think these everyday matters were not worth attending to she said sald she was going to make a lady of eliza and marry her off to some rich man who wound not want a wife that knew how to work she was going 0 in g to have her heriard herI herl larn the y rh arn ornament ornamentals als as she e e called c all ail them music painting embroidery dancing cin and ani such like sail sall sally saily y used to say that she he ald aid did not know elou enough h about the lessons to last her over night wren when she left the academy and I 1 do not think she has learned much more about the common branches since she was wa sent off to a fashionable boarding school in your city when she was vas fifteen where they ao do nothing but put the polish on to young women but bat I 1 should like to know w what koune at is the he use trying t ry in to polish a woman before you have nave got a woman acoman to polish you can put the shine on to a leather boot for there is some substance to it but you might rub brown laper with the best of day DayA mantin martin fartin till doomsday and not get a bit of gloss there aint substance enough to hold the blacking and you an ian put pat the polish on to marble and am bring out leaves eaves and flowena flowers fl owera and all sorts of ornament al things thin thing 9 x upon u 0 n the surfaced surface but you might as vell well uise undertake to polish hasty pud pudding puddings dingas ag to 10 anything with soapstone soap soap boap stone it wont va athold hold hoid the stroke of the chisel or respond to the touch of pumice stone and it is ii jest so with sending a woman in the gristle to a fashionable boarding school A girl wants to be solidified by home duties and solid studies before she is fit to be sent away to take on polish something ought to be done for her physical education to make her body fit for the responsibilities of housekeeping and I 1 dont know of anything better than to have her help her mother A woman has no business to be married until she has shown her capacity to keep house the they y should know how to do every thing from washing dishes emptying slops m making a ki ein tin s soap boap 0 and yeast cakes up to the nicest kind kin d of of coo cooking aa 11 a and needle work if they are ignorant of these things accomplishments ments wont save them from mortification and domestic unhappiness they will be as bad 09 off as poor eliza was at her first dinner party after she got gt into her new house she had not been married to dr sturgis more than two months before she shei invited a company of their friends to dine the deacon i and his wife were there and quite a number of middle aged and elderly people like mrs bunker and myself there was a great display of silver ware and fine linen upon the table forks cas tors spoons napkin rings and fruit dishes that you could see your face in and china plates platters and vegetable dishes with gilt edges and nos nosegays nose gays gayb in the middle so handsome and natural that you could almost sn smell the perfume of the flowers there was an air of triumph upon the face of mrs deacon smith ag as we sat down to dinner as much jauch as to say now we shall see what it is to have a daughter educated at a fashionable french boarding school and keep house in style 11 there was considerable unction about mr spooners ners grace before meat as if he had got it up for the occasion the company were in the best of spirits and dr sturgis was slicing away at the turkey turkeys Ps breast when attention was suddenly arrested by sundry corn oats and buckwheat slipping out of the undressed crop of the fowl the women folks at that end of the table put theirl their handkerchiefs to their noses as if they had got wind of something that did not smell like the roses on the bottoms of their plates mrs deacon fidgeted about in her chair as if she was on pins eliza looked as crimson as a I 1 beet clear to the roots of her hair the i deacon was at the other end of the table very bus busy di licud discussing cun CUD the last sermon or election with mr spooner and did not see the trouble our sally looked wicked and winked across the table to josiah and there was a twitching 9 about Jo siahs mouth that I 1 should say was waa wicked also if he was not a minister dr sturgis got over the matter nicely by remarking upon the undone condition of the turkey and calling a servant to remove the dish fidelity to truth I 1 suppose did not require q air e him to tell whether the rawness pertained t to the cooking or the dressing of the fowl or the houskeeper that lay back of both fortunately a liberal allowance had been made for the dinner and the boiled fowls purchased ur chased of a farmer who married a housekeeper leeper as well as a woman did duty for the roast turkey cooked with his crop in now I 1 suppose a good many of your readers among women folks will hold up both their hands in astonishment at my standard of a good housewife I 1 say it is a shame and a disgrace for an american woman not to know how to do every thine thing thin that is done or ought to be done in her kitchen there is 18 just as much merit and womanly worth in knowing knowin how to bring a turkey upon the dinner table so that it shall not be offensive to the smell and taste of her guests ag as there is in singing aln ain ing a good song or in dressing in good taste it adds very much to the comfort of a woman to know how to do everything from fut tut garret arret to cellar the polish is all well enough but iut let there be something in the first place to put the polish on to this akis doll work in the liace ilace of a good old fashioned wife that knows what she is about is poor businesses now what I 1 want to say to all parents that are ire bringing bri Aging up girls ia is just this thia do not be afraid ifrain of putting them into the kithen kitchen that school of womanly virtues and keeping them there here till they can tell the difference between i churn and a tea kettle till they know how scour a skellet black a stove wash a floor cook a turkey yours to command TIMOTHY timotny bunker BuNic 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