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Show Page 10 Helping Children take risks By Margie Memmott USU Extension Home Economist For childrens growth to occur, parents need to create a safe climate for risk. Because whenever people perceive that there is the threat of the loss of love, pride, or the of Margie Memmott threat blame shame, it is real or and imagined-the- y stop learning and This can practice take the form of avoiding, deer self-defens- e. nying or rationalizing. tinue. So even while the accomplishment is being epjoyed as a source of saying youre somebody there is the underlying threat that without such accomplishments youre nobody. 2. Qualified Positive Regard. Sometimes we say to our children Im disappointed with you. Alsuch mesthough send the sages message that I like youam pleased with you when you do well, but I am dis- pleased with you when you do poorly. This can create a lot of threat for a child to live with the possibility of the loss of love and positive regard from parents. 3. Generic Approval but Specific Criticism. It seems that we offer rather general approval to well-meanin- Eimxs-efp- Nephi, Utah a Wednesday, September 28, 1994 attempts as well as accomplishments.. 4. Inviting cooperation rather than demanding obedience. 5. Showing trust and con- Message from Margie... guilt-wheth- W-l-e , g, Thomas R. Lee, Ph.D., Family children with statements like and Human Development Spe- Good job or Way to go" but cialist at USU states that chil- then we give quite specific critidren usually use these three de- cism. Look at this messy handfense mechanisms in order. writing. You didnt even take Avoiding takes the form of being time to erase your mistakes. sick, watching TV, or withdraw- This tends to make the criticism ing in some other way. If chil- more believable than the apdren feel more threatened it proval. leads to denial of there being any STRENGTHENING CLOSE-NES- S AND TRUST problem or issue that needs to be so is Parents The confronted. threat mistakenly believe to too even is its the that that it risky things they do for strong show they love is a there children that that probacknowledge lem. Avoiding is recognizing the them. In reality, its the things problem but not dealing with it; children do for themselves that denying is not acknowledging make them feel unique and valuthat a problem exists. More able. The more we do for chilthreat leads to rationalization of dren, the less they feel needed. behavior children know to be When we do things with children, wrong, but justify because they rather than to or for them, we see parents, school, or their situ- help them feel that they are makation generally as so threatening ing a unique contribution that that it is really everyone elses gives them a sense of belonging fault that they are doing things and significance. With that in mind, we can establish trust wrong. SOURCES OF THREAT: 1. by: L Listening to children with Use of External Indicators as respect and taking their ideas who vou are. When grades (or seriously without shock, put salary in adults), athletic accom- downs or minimizing. 2. Checkplishments, or looks become the ing out their feelings about somesource or identity there is a built-i- n thing rather than assuming we threat that this wont con know. 3. Appreciating efforts and reduces the level of trust the child has and makes him or her feel even more defensive. The child is then more likely to avoid, fidence. deny and rationalize. The parWhen a child is avoiding doing ents then respond with more something, or denying that a things that make the child feel problem exists, or justifying his threatened (i.e., unloved, or her own bad behavior, we can ashamed) and it goes around and know that her or she feels threat- around. ened. For example, when a child When children feel less threatis lying to us, the child is saying ened, there is less need for de- I dont think I can trust you. fensiveness. Then they feel safe Sometimes parents and children enough to take risks, make misget into a vicious cycle. The child takes, and grow. does something like lying and the parent responds in a way that . . Hunting is not a nUlQICdtJ right says Legion will consider hunting a right or a privilege? If you say its your right, youre wrong, according to Terry Messmer, Utah State University Do you on October 1st, jo in up Extension wildlife specialist. It is not a right guaranteed by The American Legion will start' the constitution, he said. As its new year October 1st, and dues are now due for the year 1995. The years come and go quickly, and the American Legion will continue to be a watch guard for the freedom we enjoy here in DWR will be checking hunters America. Veterans, who have served in the Army, Navy, Air Force, or Marines during any of the wars, are eligible for membership in the American Legion. Legion dues, of $21.00 per yeap include $1,000 of insurance, the American' Legion Magazine each month, and other benefits. The American Legion encourages all veterans to become Legion members. Please contact Bill Sperry, post adjutant, or Dale Worwood, post commander. The District 4 American Legion Convention will be Thursday, September 29th, at 7 p.m. at the Eldredge Center in Provo, 270 West 500 North. For more information, contact Bill Sperry or Dale Worwood. All Legion and Auxiliary members are invited. at roadblocks throughout the IN NEPHI: v - . not-so-pret- ty state land-own- er vested wildlife at various checkpoints throughout the fall hunting seasons. Roadblocks will be placed on state highways and county roads at various times of the day and night. Law enforcement officers use roadblocks to control the illegal transportation of wildlife. They check licenses, tags and hunting equipment, and collect biological information from harvested animals. choices would you make? Some drinking when hunting. dow. Shooting game in a highway Sharing the harvest with road ditch. landowners. Picking up refuse left by oth- from ers. roads. Hunting Leaving gates open if you inDressing in Rambo attire. Armed on a farmers porch to tend to return soon. ; ask access. Competing in heaviest bag Displaying bloodied game in contests. public. Pursuing tagged wildlife for Smoking while walking cover. prizes. Throwing away harvested Using electronic calls Posting your land and hunt- game. Competing in big buck coning on others. test. airfrom Spotting game Setting up a decoy spread 100 planes. feathers or entrails yards from others. Leaving d vehicle Random in public view. Repairing broken fence wire. travel. j As a hupter, you must conHunting with(large parties. Hunting upland game with tinually ask yourself, what if someone else behaved the way I dogs. for waterfowl. am, would I still respect them? he said. The more hunters who for game. any Party hunting can answer yes to this question, Bragging in public. Measuring the success of the the greater likelihood their code of ethics meets public expectahunts by the bag. fishand tions, thus assuring the future of Assuming hunting same as the are sport hunting. ing regulations . off-roa- 7:30 p.m. October 4th at Eureka Memorial Hall 7:00 p.m . October 5th at the Mona Fire House 7:00 p.m. October 6th at the Town Hall 7:00 p.m. October 11th at Nephi Fire House IN LEVAN: . Here are some examples crops. Messmer gives of behavioral Checking in with the choices that Utah hunters must when leaving. wildlife often He said make each the year. Reporting flagrant Utah Division of Wildlife Resources conservation officers will list contains examples of good law breakers. Shooting from a vehicle winbe checking hunters and har- and bad conduct choices. What . Everyone is invited to come to my town meetings and talk about their concerns and suggestions IN EUREKA; IN MONA: 1 , anti-hunte- rs USU wildlife specialist start new year such, future opportunities to en- signs to sight in your rifle. Shooting hawks and owls bejoy sport hunting in this country will depend on the hunters pub- -. cause they compete for game birds. lie image. Assuming you have permisHunting today is under the gun the public gun more than sion to hunt private land this ever before. Opponents would year because you' had permission like to see sport hunting, trap- last year. Have adequate maps of the ping and even fishing eliminated, ! land you intend to hunt. Messmer said. " to Its unfortunate, but hunters pattern Taking the time themselves continue to provide your shotgun or sight in youx the paint for the brushes that rifle.- ' ' ' create the Taking the privilege to hunt pictures that could ultimately result in for granted. the loss of hunting privileges, he you should be Driving when ' said. Hunters may be their own walking. ? because worst enemies. shortcuts Taking Messmer said hunters, both your vehicle can go anywhere. I as Dismissing beginners and veterans, should ask themselves why and how extremists with no real base of I they hunt. Personal ethics and support. clean to codes must be considered stangame Refusing help dards of conduct considered mor- because you didnt shoot any. Making sure you are preally right. Hunting by its very nature is pared to retrieve' waterfowl over i a matter of choices, he said. If water before you shoot. in' firearms loaded to is a remain Carrying hunting legitimate use of the resource, the choices a vehicle. f : with deer made must reflect the highest dogs! Hunting standards of ethical behavior. Seeking permission to access ' For instance, you may techni- posted land. ; access to Seeking permission cally ignore an old tire hung over a fence with faded lettering on its land that isnt posted. sidewall saying no hunting al-- , Using lures or attractants. lowed because it doesnt carry Using steel shoot on upland ' the owners name. Lawfully, you : game. can probably enter, but ethically, Pursing game with vehicles. -, inShooting at running big game you really know the owners t tent and need to respect it, he at 300 yards. said. Walking through standing Sky-busti- last year. Shooting at game before legal hours. Properly caring for your harvest. Providing a good example to young hunters. 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