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Show lii The Daily Herald He would never know was gone I My husband, the sports lover, had to work over Labor Day Weekend. It's only fair. It was his turn to pull a holiday shift and I knew it was coming. Usually this entails a few hours on Sunday night. However, this time it entailed working all weekend because, unbeknownst to me, he traded his day off on Saturday for someone else's Monday so he could play in a golf tournament. That means he worked Tuesday through Sunday, got today off, (the day mat I had to work) and then will work another week. Since we only really get to see each other on the weekends, I could see right away that this weekend wasn't going to be one of those where I saw him very much. In passing I said, "Well, then, maybe I'll go to Idaho and see my family." We didn't make any plans, though. The whole thing was still tentative. That was on a Tuesday. m. mji Shelly Jlorman fin : ' ti ffJ Hw - Confession of a sports widow The next day he had golfing tee times scheduled for the whole weekend sandwiched in between his work. I know I sound like I complain a lot, but he had already been golfing three times last week, before the weekend even arrived. I think that's a lot. By GARY KRINO Orange County Register IMaybe he doesn't like my reaction of, "You can't; you have to da something with me." If he's going to be golfing nearly every day of the week, he needs to get on the pro tour and start getting paid for it I've seen the kind of purse money in those tournaments. That afternoon I announced to my husband that I was definitely going to leave the state for the weekend. He had the audacity (or wisdom, I'm not sure which) to pretend like he would miss me. ''What! You're going to leave me all'alone?" he said. He almost said it with a straight face, too. Truth is that if I hadn't told him I was leaving, he wouldn't have known that I was gone. ; The rest of the week it was like he was trying to ease his conscience by giving me a guilt trip. Then he would give me the speech about how he didn't want me to go; he was just thinking of me and wanted me to have fun since he was going to be working so much. (The fact that he was golfing in his every spare minute never came up.) ' What I should have done is reconsidered; after all. he seemed to I be. so saddened by my departure. if I done have would wonder what he home. had decided to stay Maybe I'll tell him I did stay he'll never know if I was home there or not and then he won't be able to say that I left him all alone. ronmental consultant and (that's an entirely different story), recently did a of some of the principles of feng shui (pronounced fung shway) at the home of Fullerton, Calif., interior designer Dorian Bau-bi-olog- run-throu- On one hand, cold reason told me to forget it. On the other, intuition kept chanting "Why take the chance?" I'd just been told that because the front door of my house and the back door are in a straight line with nothing to impede the flow, I was risking that my good luck and fortune would come in the front and run right out the back with no stops between. Now, if I'd gotten this bit of information from a fortune cookie .... But it came from Katherine Metz, a practitioner of feng shui, the ancient Chinese art and sci- ence of designing in harmony with the environment. Metz and Mary Cordaro, envi Home owners may have to disclose radon Knight-Ridd- Newspapers er Home owners, you'd have to tell prospective buyers if your building has been tested for radon and give them the results, under a measure passed late last July by the U.S. House of Representatives. The bill does not require mitigation or even testing, but lawmakers say the disclosure requirement is designed to forewarn purchasers and get them to demand a radon test before completing a transaction. Critics of the bill say it would essentially require sellers, in most cases, to conduct tests and correct the problem. The measure now goes to the Senate. By JEANE DIXON For Sept. 6 ARIES (March 19): Do not give up on a misguided friend. Eventually this person will return to the fold. Evening favors a discussion of personal finances. A television show gives you new insight regarding an old problem. TAURUS (April 20): Take charge of the budget; you have the to make wise decipractical know-hosions. Considerate behavior will show loved ones that your heart is full of love. Remember, true intimacy cannot be rushed. GEMINI (May 20): A friend may arrange for you to meet VIPs In the near future. Show your appreciation in tangible ways. Job changes can be upsetting. Put more fun Into your life by attending social events. CANCER (June 22): Go along with your mate's plans and you will have a better time than anticipated. Write a letter to someone away at college or in the military. A young child captures your heart. LEO (July 22): Wait and see what others want to do before offering suggestions. A newspaper or magazine article provides a terrific idea for turning a profit. Follow through; you could make a bundle! VIRGO (Aug. 2Wept. 22): Wealth or job anxieties could have an adverse effect on your social life. Confide In one or two trusted friends. Your negotiating skills are better than you think. Try to get a more profitable deal. LIBRA (Sept. 22): Your coworkers could be pretty tense today. Avoid bringing up touchy subjects if you want to avoid a fight. Complete a complicated, multipart project now in order to get it out of the way. SCORPIO (Oct. 21): Your a powers of persuasion are at a peak big plus for your financial aspirations. Your ability to influence public opinion augurs well for the future. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 21): Consult experts if thinking about expanding a business. A new partnership could bring tremendous success. An visitor is like a breath of fresh air. CAPRICORN (Dec. 19): Once you pass a financial hurdle, it should be smooth sailing for dating and other pleasurable pursuits. Live closer to your ideals. Happy romance depends on your finding partner who shares your viw Hunter. They were preparing for seminars on the topic scheduled for Design Center South in Laguna most thought-provokin- g Niguel and revealing. Feng shui is a cerebral concept, rather foreign to Westerners used to dealing in concrete concepts and facts. But in Asia, where the workings of the mind and the subconscious come more into play, feng shui is a fact of life. Even though super-moder- n fortune As the United States, especially Southern California, becomes increasingly multicultural, so will the use of feng shui skyscrapers soar above Hong Kong Harbor, an estimated 80 per cent of the British colony's 6 become more common. million Chinese use feng shui to choose an apartment, site a factory or get that extra edge in business, according to an article in Smithsonian magazine. shoppers. There's power in place and the art of placement, Metz said. Here are four ways she suggests that you can begin to arrange for your good fortune. As the United States, especially Southern California, becomes increasingly multicultural, so will the use of feng shui become more common, Metz and Cordaro said. As an example, Metz pointed For clarity, place a brass wind chime just inside your front door. For insight, place books where you will see them as you enter the house. For peace of mind and body, place your bed and your desk so that you can easily see the door. Avoid being in direct line with the door. To cultivate good luck, place to Southern California home builders interested in cornering a g part of the Asian market. She said builders are coming to her in increasing numbers seeking advice on how they can use feng shui to make their projects more appealing to Asian home-buyin- flowers in the bedroom, study and kitchen. Oh, and should you be wondering, in the case of my bad door lineup, intuition won out. I placed my piano so it breaks the line between the front and back doors. Hmmm. Think I'll go out and buy a lottery ticket and see what Gary Krino covers design for the Orange County Register. He can be reached at The Orange County Register, P.O. Box 11626, Santa Ana, Calif. 92711) Readers say an affair's not the answer Dear Ann Landers: I have been thinking for weeks about the starry-letter you received from eyed "A Romantic in Florida." She complained that her married life was dull, and she wanted to have an affair with someone who would bring her flowers, give her compliments and make her feel feminine. That letter has been keeping me up nights. I now know that I will not rest until I tell you my story. I had an affair after 15 years of a very good marriage. Like "Romantic," I wanted a man who would give me complimenls and make me feel wonderful. The man I selected was our clergyman. After six months of sneaking around, the affair ended in disaster. We had planned a rendezvous at my home in the afternoon when the children were in school and my husband was going out of town. His flight was canceled at the last minute, and he came home and caught us making love in the living room. The details are too painful to go into, and the results were a nightmare. The clergyman was forced to leave town, and my husband started divorce proceedings. I had to get down on my hands and knees and beg him to forgive me. He finally did, but he barely looked at me for three months. I am in counseling now, trying to out of you to write. Keep reading for another one: Dear Ann Landers: I, too, am married to a guy who describes himself as "lackluster." Mean- Valley, Ariz. Dear Chino: What a sweet "Hfe while, I am an incurable romantic I would love to live life to the hilt. Yet we have been married for 14 happy and full of energy, and years. Landers h. my bike. He does the dishes every night so I can rest up from my day, even though his might have been tougher. And he is a fabulous father to our three children. "Romantic in Florida" can have her sizzling affair. I'll take Chino "lackluster" any day. able road. Although he doesn't send me flowers and love notes, and there are no dinners by candlelight, these things pale when judged against the total person. This wonderful guy got up at 5 a.m. last week and put new tires on Dear Ann: This is for that "Romantic in Florida." I, too, wanted some excitement in my life and thought an affair was the answer. Fooling around with my brother-in-law cost me my marriage, my children and my It's been three years, and I might as well have a scarlet letter on my self-respec- t.' Advice Columnist This lackluster guy is solid, sane When I come and up with harebrained ideas, he tactfully steers me onto a more reasondown-to-eart- ALADDIN by Cathy Guisewlte WHV BACKPACK.. HAT... KIOS 6AP SWEATSHIRT... 6UE&5 DKrtW SHOES... BARBIE LUNCHB0X. THINK, OTHER HONEW ? Wll KIDS THINK! THERE'S LlfE THAN WHAT THE OTHER KIDS THINK ! MORE TO j Life A Fool Somewhere in Canada Dear Canada: Thank you for a letter that must have taken a lot HANDWORK g. Mil ID S. CLASSES Join us Saturday, September 10, 1994, at a conference for women who have questions and concerns about mid life. Four professionals will share their expertise as it relates to women in mid life. AT HEINDSELMAN'S t. 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It was the dumbest thing I've ever done in my life, and I'd give anything if it had never happened. ii Ear Better jd tuDiniese airirainige ffor On Wednesday, the wife of my husband's golfing buddy told me that she heard I was going to Idaho. I told her that's what I had heard, too. I told her I hadn't really decided yet, but I was under the definite impression that my husband wanted me to go. She agreed. "I think he wants you to go, too," she said. Apparently her husband had told her he was going to golf all weekend with my husband because I was going out of town and he needed to keep my husband company. Great story, but we wives know better. Truth is, they just want to golf and are making up excuses to get away with excessive time on the course. I guess, to them, even a bad excuse is belter than no excuse at all . 3 wonder what it is that my hilsband dislikes about the straightforward approach of, "Honey, I'm going to go golfing , AG AIN . 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