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Show Thursday, March Eereavemect - Uh tr till pT 1 Kaye and Jeffrey S. Applegate, professors at the Graduate School of Social Work and Social Research at Bryn Mawr College in suburban Philadelphia. include men's changing attitudes toward family and cuts in governmental aid for elder care, they say. Kaye said in an interview the study was intended to address the special needs of male caregivers. "In no way are we trying to cancel out the dominant role no question it's a dominant role played by women," he said. "We just believe that they cannot keep up at this rate. We need to Bernard Stricoff, Idt, sits be able to turn and be willing to consider alternative routes to take when we talk about family caregiving." The study is based on surveys of 152 leaders of caregiver support groups and 148 male partici- - - d ' groups provide a and vulnerable with nowhere to go to share their feelings or deal with them. Participants share much in common. "You don't think you're the only one in the world who this has happened to," Ms. Hansen says, "and you come to feel more in control of your feelings and your life. Grievers tend to feel victimized by the death of a spouse abandoned, unprepared to go on. with bis wife, Edith, who has Alzheimer's disease. work while providing care and resisted joining support groups, preferring to "go it alone" or fearing participation would Le an admission of failure. In general, the men felt most competent at such tasks as pay- - "Why do I have to go to a group for? Sit there and listen to them. What are they going to tell me? I'm living with the damn thing. I know what it is.'" Bernard Stricoff pants in such groups across the nation. The research, supported by a grant from the Andrus Foundation of the American Association of Retired Persons, also included interviews with 30 male caregivers and nine elderly recipients in the Philadelphia region and surveys of a national expert panel. Seven of eight men in the study considered themselves primary caregivers, and more than a third were sole care providers. Only 20 percent said they were helped by more than two relatives. Four of five cared for people with Alzheimer's, the progressive brain disorder that causes premature senility. The men often continued to children. Many times parents are not home and everyone needs to be prepared to handle the emergency. Having a supply of cash in small bills readily available. In e teen-ag- Herald Correspondent With the specter of an earthquake along the Wasatch Front, Mountain View Hospital offered a seminar on preparedness and planning for such a disaster. lieutenant Gary Clayton, Utah County Sheriff's Dept., and Marguerite Kay, R.N. Head Nurse at the hospital emergency room, gave insight into what could and would happen to residents of Utah County. Clayton told the audience that zone for "we live in a high-ris- k earthquake, but have done little to prepare for it," He noted four stages in the incidence; preparation, planning, response, and recovery, "The preparation and planning stages end when the earthquake begins. We can no langer prepare; the time has past." According to Clayton, during a quake, the body goes into "sensory overload" because so many things are happening at once. When the ground moves, the energy is directed through the ground similar to a ripple effect in water. Many buildings are constructed to support vertical weight, but not horizontal. "A person doesn't have to understand the dynamics of an earthquake to do something about it, however," he said. Some areas that require attention before a quake are: ; Securing the water heater to wall studs so it doesn't fall over. This is accomplished with a plumber's strap. Knowing how to turn utilities pff. This means everyone including PAYSON Bereavement valuatle service to the grieving person. Because of living in a death denying culture, grievers are given strokes for being 'brave," "strong," and "a brut." But they will tell y ou that inside they are AP LMTJ)K ing bills, taking people to doctors and helping with telephoning arid letter-writinThey felt least competent at helping with grooming, bathing and dressing. The study is limited by its size and by the fact that caregivers surveyed were primarily white, married men over age 60, living with and caring for wives, and relatively secure financially. Mimen tend nority and less than white, middle-clas- s men to join the support groups from which the sample was drawn, Kaye said. Eloise Rathbone-McCuaprofessor of social welfare at the University of Kansas, said she had not seen any evidence of an increasing number of men provid g. low-inco- n, Earthquake preparedness topic By CARIN GREEN ' pain-fille-d three-fourth- Other factors I I " "Men's roles as caregivers have traditionally been mini- mized, if not virtually dismissed, by the professional and lay public alike," they write in their study. Although women comprise two-thirs to of an estimated 7 million caregivers nationwide, a significant number of men "have been willing to commit a substantial portion of their lives, both in time and effort, to this challenging task," the researchers said. More men are doing so largely because women are stretched to the limit by careers, other family demands and the rising number of elderly, the researciiers say. ' IVty Or) C imer's disease. But Stricoff hums old songs the couple one danced to and sometimes thinks she murmurs his name as he hugs her in the morning. "You don't throw an injured child out of the house because the child is injured," he said. "Why should I do that Is my wife?" A growing number of men are W. group began Wednesday at their office at 1C75 So. State St., Orem. The group meets once a eek p m. for six etks under the direction of gnef counselor, Phyllis Hansen, MSW and Don Rosenbaum There is no charge and anyone who has suffered loss may attend. Enter the north door and go downstairs to the conference room. S help-Peopl- Lenard groups 1 1 sometimes suggest a nursing home. They say Edith Stricoff, former bookkeeper and mother of three, is a burden at her advanced stage of Alzhe- caring for aging and infirm wives, parents and other relatives, according to a study by support because they help grievir.g people feel normal. You le.ro that A u okay to feel Lke you do and that it doesnt have to rule your hie. Bereavemetit grocps don't allow you to sit around and cry. The group offers practical counsel as well as emotional support. work By TED DCSCOMEE Pre Mnter PHILADELPHIA API E&Xh StfvaM once loved to daae and lo travel, but now cannot even brush her oo own.. Her husband, fkrnar cleans house, cocks,' does laundry, tidies his wife and helps her use commode in 9 comer of the living room, where a hospital bed contrasts ida colorful Peruvian neavmgs from a vacation a dozen years ago. Stricoff, 65, said be cares for his wife up to 20 hours a day, on call even through the night, shea a groan from downstairs will rouse him to see if she's cold or her arm is stuck under her body. For four hours a day, he has hired THE HERALD, Prove, Utah, other areas where earthquakes have devastated cities, grocery stores opened to a few customers at basis. a time on a Securing cupboards ahead of time with fasteners, especially fruit supply or storage that are contained in glass bottles. Clayton suggested storing fruit bottles in the cardboard containers the jars come cash-and-car- in. Making a list of things you want to protect and securing them. Water is critical to survival. Clayton recommended that one gallon of water per day per individual should be stored. Families with young children require more. Store enough water for two weeks. People in attendance commented tlut the two-litpop containers make excellent storage containers. Electricity is the first element followed by that should be shut-of- f gas. A rule of thumb is that if the earthquake was severe enough to break dishes in the cupboard, it's time to turn off the utilities. Clayton told of other precautions to take. "When the earthquake is happening, hold onto something and if possible, cover your head. An earthquake on the richter scale of five or more is likened to a pinball machine. Your house is the machine and you are the steel ball. All you can do is ride it out. Stay away from windows; glass has a tenden er cy to explode. And don't run outside." He said that if you can go over in your mind what you could do beforehand, you have a conditioned response and it helps. He said he plays a game with his children called "What if ..." It helps instruct children and conditions them to respond in a helpful manner. Clayton also explained that although law enforcement and medical personnel will be out in full force, they can't take care of everyone, so citizens need to be prepared themselves. "Don't count on others to assist immediately. They will do what they can, but with severe destruction, it may take days." Marguerite Kay told about injuries that might occur in the event of a large earthquake. "Emergency Medical Technicians are excellent, but with land, building, and natural destruction, it will be hard for them to reach so many people; thus, the responsibility of first aid medical care will fall to family or neighbors close by." She suggested checking the person from head to toe for injuries and noting medical problems. It takes several days, she explained, for medical personnel to reach stranded people because of the loss of communication and damage to roads. ing elder women and aging will force men to be The 15th Annual Northern Utah Women's Conference titled "Woman To Woman ... Growing Together" will take place Saturday, March 24, at the Ogden Park Hotel. Sixteen workshops and a keynoter will present a program geared to women of all ages, covering a broad range of personal and professional interests. Linda Galindo, vice president of Innovations Consulting, Inc., will be the keynote speaker on the topic "Success Skills for the WM." She will discuss what women need to do confronted with many new roles," especially caregiving. Robyn Stone, a research fellow at the Ui. Department of Health and Human Services' Agency for Health Care Policy and Research, said the study could help draw more attention to caregiving in general, which has often been viewed as a women's issue. "From a political perspective, since it's still primarily a man's world, there may be more of a serious focus on this problem," she said. Stricoff, who prided himself on being able to work things out himself as his wife grew more ill, resisted joining a support group sponsored by the Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders Association at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital. 15-3- But his children and other relatives kept after him. "And I went, and surprisingly enough, it was fulfilling," he said. Now he tries not to miss monthly meetings, because of the tips he picks up on ways to help his wife and the moral support. PLEASE APPLY IN PERSON AT 1555 NORTH FREEDOM PR0V0, CIRCULATION DEPARTMENT to 12:00 NOON. BLVD. IN MONDAY THRU FRIDAY, 9 AM "Before I lost 70 lbs. 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I know what it is,'" Stricoff said. locked inside me I cant thank the Nutn System counselors enough They really with underreached out to me standing and support learn ho and hart " A man to captain himself in the home; prepare meals, do laundry, shop for needed items, and learn to pay the b; 'Is if his trie has performed these taks prior to her death Men in our culture emotionally bond only to their wife and when she dies, they have a ttfficult time with Loneliness Subsequently they remarry earLer than widows Women who have been dependent on their husbands for many decisions in their lives feel vulnerable when he dies. By participaUng in a bereavement group sie will tarn how to become more assertive in taking control over her life and in making knowledgeable decisions in areas of concern. Bereavement groups are more than a place where y ou sit around and feei sorry for yourself. You learn that you are not alone and that this period of life can be a t;r;;e cf great personal growth. "The goal of good grieving is to learn to deal v th your loss and louk forward to going on," said Ms. Hansen. One member stated. "Wi;en you go into a room full of people who have gone through it. you feel as if you've come home you've met people who really understand." Hospice of I HC bereavement groups provide a community service for anyone who lias suffered a loss For further information call Ms. Hansen at V'JLK. wMimmmBism&m 'Why do I have to go to X E3 Annual women's conference in Ogden tare. But slie agreed that "the demographics of "I said, - Pae Bereavement group starts moJ More men are caring for the elderly AM-tate- 15, ISW I I I k A i I pre-existi- suggested knowing how to treat injuries by enrolling in medical or first aid, or first responder classes. She J Is p V (()) Reading groups can label kids for life NEW YORK (AP) - Divid- ing kindergarten children and first graders into reading readiness groups is insidious, says an education professor at Claremont Graduate School in California. In "Learning to Read: the Quest for Meaning" (Teachers College Press, 1990, $22.95), Malcolm P, Douglass says reading groups based on supposed ability carry with them "all the odious d segregaqualities of tion policies." Groupings of kindergarten and real-worl- first-grad- e children, Douglass says, are usually based on tests that give an "incomplete report on reading ability or achievement." Yet, teachers and administrators use these tests in a mistaken belief that children learn best when they learn with others of the same ability. Some teachers even designate groups with names such as "bluebirds," "yellowbirds," and "crows," Douglass says. "Even small children know that everyone would rather be a bluebird than a crow," he says. In reality, Douglass says, with young children just learning to read, differences in ability are slight." Yet, he says, once these groups are formed, they are likely to label students in a way that will last beyond their elementary school years. He says the effects of such groupings can be seen in junior high school, high school and even later. Studies have shown that when a child moves from one group to another, he generally is shifted to one of lower expectations, not higher. "Early on in the child's school experience, then, we see a system that assigns each boy and girl to an instructional group that carries with it either the sweet smell of success or the sour one of failure," Douglass writes. "From the beginning, each youngster is assigned a status, an implied sense of worth, one that, because of its relative permanence of the groupings thus formed, will be reinforced as years go by." 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