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Show .Page THE HERALD, Provo, Utah, 42 Sunday, November 6, 1988 Fathers need to take their turn at feeding, burping, changing baby Fathers who shy away from taking care of their infant children are susceptible to an immediate loss of .emotional involvement with them and may build walls that later are difficult to bring down, says a Brighan Young University professor of family sciences. "In these days when we're talking about who takes care of the children and what the parental role ought to be, it is interesting to note that a father's emotional involvement with his children is directly related to the matter of caretaking," says J. Craig Peery, who has conducted research on the issue. : ' - "The more fathers took care of their children in our study, the more emotionally involved they were. They also looked at their children more often and touched them longer and more often." Lori Peery and A. Roggman of The University of Texas published results of their research in a recent issue of the journal "Early or 1 Lnild Development and Care." Caregiving is described as taking care of an infant's ;daily needs, such as feeding, , burping, changing, rocking, nurturing, holding and playing with a child. While mothers most often are considered the primary caregivers, says Peery, fathers should not assume they are not needed by the infant or vice versa. "Indeed, our results indi- cate that greater father involvement in infant caregiv ing themselves of an emotional experience and that they become more emotionally distant, which changes the way fathers behave with their children. That's clearly an implication of this study," he says. First-tim- e fathers may be confused about their role in an infant's life, says Peery, 1 there is an early physical distance, there will likely be more emotional If distance over the long range. ing is in fact associated with differences in other positive aspects of the father-infarelationship," notes Peery. Fathers who do not help take care of their infant children, or who, by the nature of their jobs or for other reasons, are unable to particnt ipate in caretaking tasks, should be sensitive to the potential problems their physical absence could pose to themselves and to the child in future years, says Peery. "I'm saying that by giving up care of an infant to someone else, fathers are depriv- - with many feeling as if it's the mother's role to nurture, while fathers should be the "good timeslet's play" kind of parent. "From the father's per- relaspective, the long-terhis child with he has tionship begins very early in life. And it's going to be difficult, I suspect, for both the father and the child to make some radical, emotional adjustment at some point in time way down the road. What you do in the early months will influence the whole relationship." 0 Dividing infant care between parents isn't the Her illness started in cancer obsession By NANCY SHULINS AP Newsfeatures Writer It's called obsessive-compulsidisorder and is as an- swer or the issue, Peery says. The point is to help each parent understand that touching and caring for their infant is a critical element in trying to build a healthy parent- unpleasant as it sounds, forcing victims to irrational repetitions of such mundane tasks as cleaning and washing. "Telling a person to stop washing or stop checking is like telling the average person to stop breathing," says Jenny, a wife and mother who says OCD stole 15 years of her life. Like others who agreed to discuss their illness, she isked that her last name noi be used. Jenny's illness began with a cancer obsession that sent her scurrying from doctor to doctor. "I began having relationship. -child "If you're a young father with a new baby and you're saying, 'Gee, I'm sorta feeling like this is a strange visitor from another planet here,' then one of the things you might consider is getting more involved in the caretaking," Peery advises. "Change some of those diapers, take your turn at feedings and these things may burping very well help to facilitate your feelings that this really is your child and that, yes, you're committed. Those two things go hand in hand." hysterical reactions, like worrying so much about getting a bump on my tongue that I would actually get a bump on my tongue." Abruptly, those fears vanished, replaced by something worse: relentless, incapacitating fears of losing m 50-5- And if you're the mother? "Be aware of the needs of the other parent. We may very well be talking about long-terimplications when we speak about father-infacaregiving. If there is an early physical distance, there will likely be more emotional control and stabbing her children. "I had my suicide all planned," Jenny says. "I was going to lock myself in the garage and turn on my car." Instead, Jenny sought treatment at a Yale Univer- m nt over the distance long range." 'Behind prison walls' to be forum topic prison opened the door for the many women employed there today. In 1978 Peck was appointed director of the Women's Prison and served in that position four years. Since then, she has been director of community education and recreation at the prison. In their professional capacity, Carlisle and Peck have spent much of their working lives at the Utah State Prison, dealing with the men and women incar- Prison Walls" will be the topic of discussion at the Algie Ballif Forum on Saturday at 2 p.m. in the Provo City Center. The speakers will be Dr. Al Carlisle, staff psychologist at Utah State Prison, and Adele Peck, Director of Community Education and Recreation at Utah State Prison. Dr. Carlisle received a B.A. and an M.S. in psychology from Utah State University in 1961 and '62 and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Brigham Young University in 1972. He was licensed as a psychologist in 1972 and since that time has taught psychology at Montana State College, San Bernardino State College, and Brigham Young University. Carlisle has served as staff psychologist at Utah State Prison since 1971 and as head of the Psychology ." Dept. since 1984. He has 1 been a consultant for the " U.S. Army Medical Dept. at ; 1 , MOINES, More than 3.5 million women in America own their own businesses, government statistics show, and many are in traditiona- lly ' DES WEST occupa-- . male-dominate- tions. Susan K. Terry, 36, a former secretary, is founder ; nd president of a construction company here with 30 employees. Dugway Proving Grounds, for the Rape Crisis Centers in Salt Lake City and Provo, for the Peace Officers Standard and Training Posts, for the F.B.I., and for the Federal Postal Inspectors. Besides authoring numerous articles on hypnosis, rape, violence, and criminal behavior, he has conducted workshops dealing with Terry was 23 when she started building houses, followed by a small office building. Her firm now grosses more than $1 million annually. Her plan is to reach $10 million. She and four other women entrepreneurs are winners of "Women of Enterprise" awards organized by Avon Products and the U.S. Small Business Administration. five-ye- ar and in South Carolina, Arizona, and Pro- these problems vo. Peck received her M.A. degree in social work from University of Utah in 1976. She has worked at the Utah North Haven, Conn.-base- d an educarefer-and information tion, ral service she founded with a small group of patients. fear Jenny's obsessions of disease and fear of harming others are among the most common, as are fear of death, dirt or germs; of harming oneself; of uttering obscenities or insults; of OCD Foundation, of discarding something great value. (Tomorrow: Other obsessions) GIVE A LIVING GIFT Flowers & Plants ter. For Every Occasion Dr. Wayne K. Goodman is chief of the Disorder Clinic at Yale. In three years of treating OCD, "I have seen it go away, although most people are not totally free of Obsessive-Compulsi- ve NfCl Nil CARD R ill Orem Carlisle will also comment interaction with some more notorious Utah inmates on death row, both past and present. A question and answer period will follow the program. State Prison since May, 1967. 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