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Show Pape 4 THE HERALD. Provo, Utah. Monday. January . . .' S7 Don't be afraid to hug someone, says therapist Swede can learn he said. Like Risberg, many people come h families and culfrom tures. "To be touched when you were leaving in my house you had to have suitcases." High-touc- h cultures include Italy, Latin America and Spain, where people might touch a close friend as often as 120 times during an hour of normal conversation. "If a By LISA MOTE Herald Staff Writer to hug, anyone can, Are you afraid to reach out and hug someone? If you are, join the crowd of people who hold back their hugs and touches for fear of rejection, misunderstanding, etc. Greg Risberg, a clinical social worker and educator in the fine art and importance of touching and hugging, was in Provo recently helping people overcome their fears and inhibitions in hopes they will be happier, huggier people. The seminar at Valley Care Center on "The Importance of Touching" gave participants first-han- d experience with the good feelings that come from hugging anyone even a complete stranger. After using 40 seconds to hug at least four fellow workshop atten-der- s, not one of the 30 participants felt worse. In fact, all said they felt warmer and better. "You see, our body doesn't care who good touch is from," Risberg said. "Touch is really crucial." Risberg described seven basic hugs people can use: The hug. The shoulders are barely touching. "A poor skiier could ski between us." d The hug. The huggers have close contact at one shoulder. d The hug. Both shoulders touch but the lower torsos are still apart. The shoulders-to-wais- t hug. The huggers' bodies touch from shoulders to waist. The shoulders-to-pelvi- s hug getting closer. The shoulders-to-knee- s hug almost there. The hug. Complete body contact is reached. "This hug wins top honors. To have a fair day, most people need four or more hugs of the onesided or better variety, Risberg said. A good day requires eight and a great day, 12. Most people need hugs each day to maintain a good emotional outlook on things, he said. For those involved in a relationship, low-touc- t h f j 1 o ov . - j I Vii England, Germany and most Scandinavian countries have cultures where people touch only about three times in an hour. In Chicago, the average is 2.8, he said. In all his travels, Risberg has found few people who do not feel a need for more touching in their lives. Fear, however, often prevents people from reaching out. "For a lot of people in our society, touch is related to sex, romance or aggression," he said. "If you touch someone of the opposite sex, you are accused of coming on; if you touch someone of the same sex, you're accused of being low-tou- - r BH j ' gay- - one-side- two-side- 8-- A demonstration of the however, one hug. ts hug will four-minu- do. Risberg said often people arrive home from work tired and tense. Generally they need a transition period to relax. With the e hug, however, the transition is cut to five minutes. The quality and intensity of the hug, of course, also makes a difference. "There are hugs and then there are hugs." Touching has been proved very important to people's he said. For example, up until the 1940s, children died in U.S. orphanages for no apparent reason. four-minut- well-bein- Riseberg demonstrates the Riseberg teaches to be unafraid. One researcher tried to find the answer. He visited a poor orphanage in Mexico where, amid poverty and deprivation, the children thrived. He discovered the secret women in the village would come in each day, pick up the babies and feed them. "They were loved and held." The man returned to the United States and told officials that children in U.S. orphanages were lacking that personal contact. Another example of the importance of touch is in Washington where a nurse started a new program of having "touchers'" come hug. in to hold the premature babies, helping them survive. Touching is also crucial for the g of critically emotional ill patients, he said. Risberg got involved with education on the importance of touch after he had an experience with touch and his father. His father was dying and the doctor told Risberg he had 10 minutes to get to the hospital and say man. goodbye to the Risberg rushed to the hospital, threw his arms around his father and told him "I love you." The hug was a first for the father and son, well-bein- Obituaries Margaret Brown .Margaret Thelma Ritchie Brown, Saturday, Jan. 17, 1987 hospital. She was born Aug. 11. 1902 in Charleston. Wasatch County, to died in a Salt Lake City 84, 1 Tressa Wilson Ritchie. Ernest E. R: Brown July 31, 1952 in Elko. Nev. The marriage was later in the Salt Lake Temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-da- v Saints. I He died July 13. 1985. She as an elementa- - j ry school teacher in Margaret Brown Wasatch. Carbon. Salt I.ake and Granite School Districts for many years. She was an employee of the Utah State Tax Commission at the State Capitol. She was a member of the LDS Church. Survivors include two brothers, one sister: Clifford W. Ritchie. Hurley. Idaho: Leon J. Ritchie. Heber City: Mrs. Peter i Ellen ) Rogers. Salt Lake City. Services will be Tuesday at 1 p.m. at Olpin Mortuary in Heber City. Friends may call Tuesday 11:30 a.m. until lime of services. Burial will be in the Charleston Cemetery. DID YOU KNOW? Water Workouti Are A Soft Exercise With POWERFUL RESETS. Berg f Mortuary Pacific States Cast I Li U.S. Steel in Hills. Penn. He returned to Provo in 1961 and worked for Pfizer Corporation in Provo until his retirement in 1980. He was a member of the Community Congregational Church and was a member ol the Board of Trustees. He was a member of Story Lodge No. 4 and was Past Master of Story Lodge. He served as Scout Master and received his Silver Beaver Award. He Baseball and worked with Pony served as preside".' for many years. He also worked with the girl scout organization in the Provo area. He was a member of Riverside Country Club and was marshal for the golf course. He was a member of BPOE No. 849. Survivors include his wife of Provo: two sons, four daughters: Franklin James Zwick-ey- . Lake Crystal. Minn.: Franklin Henry Frederick. Provo; Mrs. Charles i Francis Joyce i Reimers. Monks Corner. SC.; Mrs. James (Gwendolyn i Gramnes, Diamond Bar. Calif.: Sherry Jean Frederick. Laylon: Deborah Ann Blevin. Sandy: 11 grandchildren; six three sisters: Mrs. John i Virginia i Kennedy. Ajo. Ariz.: Mrs. Victor iManei Dumb. Tucson. Ariz.: Mrs. Alice Cone. Stockton. Calif. Memorial services were today at Berg Drawing Room Chapel. Provo. .. Kathrvn Jeanette Foster Bolyard. 77. ol Lehi. died Saturday. Jan. 17. 1987 in Ameri can Fork. She was born Sept. 25. 19U9 in Port Ange les. Wash., a daughter of Charles Decauler and Leola Goldie Beal Foster. She married Harold Laymon Bol yard June 5. 1931 in Port Angeles. He died Sept. 15. 1986. She was educated in J 6-- 8 Walter Howard Draper Funeral services will be held Wednesday 12 noon in the Oak Hills 2nd Ward Chapel. 1600 N. 900 K Provo. Friends may call at the Berg Mortuary of I'rovo Tuesday p.m. or at the church Wednesday 1 hour prior to services. Interment Wellington Cemetery, Wellington, Utah. 6-- 8 ill h Tavcee RaeJean w.me. infant daughter ol Kevin Ray and Holly Wilkin Winters of Vernal, died Thursday. Jan. 15. 1987 at Utah Valley Regional Medical Center in I'rovo. She was born Jan. 15. 1987 in Provo. She is survived by her parents of Vernal, grandparents: Mr. and Mrs. Norman R. Winters, and Mr. and Mrs. Jerry R. Wilkin, Mrs Hose all Lehi; Wilkin. Lehi. Burial will WashV J ington Slate Teachers Kathrvn Bolyard College in Bellingham. Wash, with a two year degree in 1927. She then attended Central Washington Teachers College. Ellensburg, Wash., graduating with a BA in Education. She taughl school in Port Angeles and Ellensburg. In 1940. she and her husband and three children moved lo Yakima. Wash., residing there until 1959. at which time Ihey moved to Lewiston. Idaho. In 1984 they moved to Lehi. Survivors include one son. two daughters: Mrs. Jerry Sandra I.isantti. Klamath Falls. Ore.; and Mrs. Lloyd i Linda Brooks. Lehi. Robert Michael Bolyard. Seattle. Wash.; live (wo grandchildren; four sisters: Mrs. Norman Clyde i Baitinger. Auburn. Calil.: and Mrs Alan lEvai Murphy, Port Angeles. Wash. Services will be Wednesday al 11 a.m. in the Wing Mortuary Chapel. Lehi. Friends may call prior to services Burial in Mil City Cemetery Walker M O K h:, .wiis. I PKo I A K V r.v)N Ethel Crist Funeral services are pending. be Tuesday in the Ihi Gerald Nielson schools. She graduated Sr v died Jerry Nielson. Nephi Jan. 17. 1987. He was born to August and Emma Overson Nielson on May 11. 1910 in Leamington He married Rutli Sudbury Oct. 25. 1934 in Sail NEPHl-Ger- ald garet Jane Hendry Stuart. He married Caroline Irene Brown 23. 1924 in the I Logan Temple of the ol Jesus Christ Church of Latter-da- v Saints. She died Oct. 15. 1981. He was an active; member of the LDS Church and served al mission to the West ern States, worked in the Elder's Quorum, the Sunday School orRussell Stuart ganization, and the bishopric. He was an ordinate worker in the Manti LDS Temple for seven years. He worked lor a trucking company, Juab County, was a businessman and a farmer. Survivors include a daughter and a son, Helen Barnes, Lufkin. Texas: Russell Kay Stuart. Nephi: eight grandchildren; 24 greatgrandchildren; two sisters. Z. Helen Cottom, Chicago. 111.: and Mildred Brown, Wellsville. Services will be Wednesday at 10:30 a.m. in Nephi Fourth LDS Ward Chapel. Friends may call Tuesday, at Anderson Funeral Home. Nephi. 6:30-- 8 p.m. and at the church prior to services Wednesday. Burial will be in the Wellsville Cemetery at 3 p.m. Wednesday. Jan. LP Shawn Carter son of Shawn Micheal Carter. Tina Marie Carter of Lindon. died Saturday Jan. 17. 1987 at her home in Lindon of Sudden Inlanl Syndrome. He was born March 22. 1986 in American Fork. Utah to Tina Marie Carter. The mother is a member of the Lindon Second LDS Ward. services will be Tuesday. Jan. p.m. in the Berg Mortuary of Orem. 500 North State Street, where friends one hour prior to services. may call Interment will be at Timpanogos Memorial Gardens Cemetery in Orem. Funeral at i 76. in Lake City. He was a member ol the LDS Church. He was a tanner and cattleman and was selected conservation tanner lor 1963 in Ihe Millard County Soil Conservation District. He was a member ol the Utah Cattleman's Association and a member ol the Elks Lodge in Provo 849. Survivors include his wile, a daughter and son. Susan Linda. Price; Eric R.. I.ynndyl, a sister and brother. Arvilla Dean. Sail Lake City: Kenneth Nielson. Leamington. He was preccedod in death by two sons. G. Wardell and Stacy L. Services will be Tuesday at 11 am in the Nephi Fourth LDS Church. Friends may call at the Anderson Funeral Home. Nephi. Monp m. and at the church Tuesday prior day lo services. Buii.il will be in the Vine Blult Cemetery. Nephi. AV7 obituaries By The Associated Walter Howard Draper, 77. died Sunday. Jan. 18. 1987 at Utah Valley Regional Medical Center in Provo Services will be Wednesday, noon. Oakhills 2nd Ward LDS Chapel 1600 N 900 E.. Provo. Friends may call Tuesday. p.m. al Berg Mortuary ol I'mvo or at the church Wednesday one hour Burial will be in Wellington prior to services. Cemelerv. Press George Thalben-Bal- l Sir George Thalben-Ball- . LONDON APi a lauirite organist ol the royal family and the lirst man to sell 1 million copies ol a record ol church organ music, died Sunday. - He was 90. Thalben-Bal- l s 1927 recording of Mendelssohn's "Hear My Prayer" sold its millionth copy 36 years later, earning him a gold record at ihe age of 67. RenaloGutluso HOME APi Renato Guttuso, a distinguished Italian painter also active in politics as a Communist Party member, died at his home Saturday alter a long illness. He was - 75 Guttusu entered politics alter World War II and was a Communist senator from 1976-8He developed a Cubist style in the 1930s under the influence ol Picasso but returned lo a more realistic style with the onset ol World War II. Philip Young ARLINGTON. Va. (APi Philip Young, a lormer ambassador lo the Netherlands and chairman ol Ihe U.S. Civil Service Commission during the Eisenhower administration, died Jan 15 alter a heart attack. He was 76 Young began his government career in 1934 with the Securities and Exchange Commission, where he was a business economist and analyst. Four years later, he joined the Treasury Department, where he became an u assistant to Treasury Secretary Henry Jr. - but it was not the last. His father, being stubborn, pulled through the illness. Later Risberg asked his the older man if they could hug everytime they said "hello" and "goodbye." At first his father rejected the idea. Finally he gave in. The two practiced and learned how to hug each other. Then, one morning Risberg was leaving the house late for work. He rushed out and was climbing in his car. Suddenly his father was at the front door yelling, "Hey, we forgot to do that.. .thing." "He didn't even know what it was called." Uinta Forest volunteers like support efforts By JOSEPHINE ZIMMERMAN Herald Staff Writer Persons interested in forming a volunteer organization to assist and interpret programs of the Uinta National Forest gathered Thursday at Utah Technical College for an organizational meeting. While no offers were elected, the group reviewed a proposed constitution and bylaws and outlined some suggested programs. Matejko, Uinta National Forest public relations officer, was Ann in charge of the meeting, aided by Loyal Clark, who is in charge of ' volunteer programs for the forest. Suggested names for the volunteer organization were "Friends of Uinta" and "Wildlands Interpretive Association." The organization would be completely autonomous from the Forit est Service, and tax exempt, but would be a support organization for the forest. Similar volunteer organizations in other states have been particularly active in building trails; taking over management of the campground encessions; selling books, maps and other materials related non-prof- - SPRINGVILLE Group reservations for camping or picnicking at Kelley's Grove, Jolley Ranch or Rotary Park this summer may be made March 2 and 3, according to Mike Bartholomew, head of the Springville city Parks Department. Bartholomew said reservations will be taken starting March 2 and will continue the next day at the Springville Civic Center, 50 S. Main Street. After those two days, any person can make a reservation by appearing in person at the center. After the first week, however, reservations should be made by calling Kelley's Grove between the hours of 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. Monday through Friday. Group use of the camping-picni- c facilities will be by advance reservation only. Fees must be paid at the time of reservation. PROVO FLOWERS console ond comfort, simply and beautifully. FLORAL Jeppson's Floral JO.". to the forest; conducting programs, seminars, and interpretive activities, and raising funds for special programs. Some suggested programs for the local organization proposed by the group include: 1. Conducting workshops with speakers on the environment, y skiing, birding, fishing, regenerating forest areas, etc. cross-countr- 2. Physical activity projects, such as planting trees or working on trails. 3. Conducting a 'trash-a-thon- ," or drive under the Take Pride in America to cut down on the amount of litter in the forest. Conducting school writing conon the environment and recreation. 5. Organizing public education programs and nature workshops in the schools. 6. Conducting an education campaign on forest user ethics. 7. Interpreting the rehabilitation program at Strawberry Reservoir, including information on streams and stream habitat. Next meeting is scheduled Feb. 5 at Sundarice in Provo Canyon. 4. tests Group reservations for Kelly's Grove area to be taken March 2 SYMPATHY Death notices . 2 i City Cemetery. Friends may call at 830 W. State home Tuesday Rd.. at (he grandparents 30 a.m. Services are under the direc10:30-1tion of Wing Mortuary. Lehi. the Port Angeles - 20.1987 Taycee Winter i Katnryn bolyard I from Western Robert William Goodall Funeral services will be held Tuesday 10 a.m. in the Orem 1st Ward Chapel, 225 E. 200 N.. Orem. Friends may call at the Berg Mortuary of Orem. 500 N. State. Orem. p.m. or at the church Monday Tuesday 1 hour prior to services. Interment Orem City Cemetery . ...yi Iron Pipe Co. in Provo I IX L and then worked forFrankjn E Fredcrk.k 1 i I Technical College in I Provo. He worked fori Marv Lavier Baker Snow. 91. died Saturday. Jan. 17. 1987 in Salt Lake City of a massive stroke. She was born June 6. 1895 in Teton. Fremont County. Idaho to Jesse Merritt and Sarah Ann bowdie Baker. She married Eldon Stallord Snow Oct. 6. 1923 in Los Angeles. Calif. The marriage was later solemnized in the St. George Temple of The Church of Saints. He died in Jesus Christ of Latter-da1954 in Los Angeles. She spent her early years in Idaho where she attended and taught school. She moved to Los Angeles where she was married and raised her familv. moving to Salt Lake in the early 1970 s. She was active in the LDS Church working in the Reliel Society She was active with the Salt Lake Senior Citizens Survivors include two sons: Sidney Richard Snow. Davis. Calif.; Donald Ray Snow. Provo; six grandchildren; three one brother: Ralph Doris Baker. Salt Lake. Services were held today at noon at the Larkin Chapel. 260 E. South Temple. Burial East Lawn Memorial Hills terv in I'rovo. 373-184- 1 Franklin E. Frederick, 69. of Provo. died Saturday. Jan. 17, 1987 at Utah Valley Regional Medical Center in Provo of natural causes. He was born Oct. 17. 1917 in Ardmore, Okla. to Henrv Franklin and I Bessie Weeks Freder ick. He married Mary f V I G. Sherrv Julv 10. 1948 in Collingswood. N.J. He received his eduin Ardmore. Okla. and also at Utah Mary Snow & Russell Stuart Russell Hendry Stuart, 85, died NEPHI Jan. 18. 1987 in Nephi. He was born March 3. 1901 at Wellsville to Robert Glen and Mar cation v A V Bob Goodall Robert "Bob" William Goodall, 38. of Orem. died Friday, Jan. 16, 1987 at his home in Orem of cancer. He was born Aug. 23. 1948 in Dearborn, Mich, to William Glen and Marjorie "Jean" Bryan Goodall. He married Mirta Espan-o- l Jan. 10, 1972 in the Salt Lake Temple of The Church ol Jesus Christ ol Latter-daSaints. He moved with his family to Thunderi Bay. Ontario as a!I young boy. where he received most of his Robert Goodall education. In 1965. they moved to Utah where he attended Provo High School and Pleasant Grove High School. He served a two-yea- r mission for the LDS Church to Argentina. He was an active member of the LDS Church and served as a branch president, in the bishopric, as an usher during general conferences at Temple Square and many other positions. He had also been active in community affairs. He graduated from BYU with a Masters degree in Spanish and a minor in Latin American studies. He worked at BYU for almost nine years, as an administrator assistant in the key office at the Physical Plant. Survivors include his wife of Orem; one son. three daughters: David Goodall. Anne Marie Goodall. Cindy Goodall. and Michelle Goodall. all Orem; his father: Glen Goodall. Williston. N.D.: his mother: Jean Goodall. Pleasant Grove; one brother: Ted Goodall. Pleasant Grove. Services will be Tuesday at 10 a.m. at the Orem 1st Ward LDS Chapel. 225 E. 200 Y. Orem. Friends may call at the Berg Mortup m. or ary of Orem. 500 Y State, tonight at the church Tuesday one hour prior to services. Burial will be in the Orem City Cemetery. i James and Annie I I Franklin Frederick Lane Critser Photos "As long as I don't touch someone of the same sex or the opposite sex, I'm OK," Risberg said. He said one time he was speaking to some senior citizens. Most said they did not get enough hugs because their spouses had died. When he suggested to one woman that she hug another woman in the audience who also did not get enough hugs, she responded that people would think she was gay. Risberg asked the group if they agreed with her feeling. They did. A booklet on hugging says: "Hugging feels so'good that a lot of people confuse hugging with sex. ..Sex and hugging are two different things. A hug is a hug is a hug and people must stop thinking about hugging as a means to an end. Hugging is a wonderful, beautiful, loving end all by itself." from Everyone needs touch the time they are in their mother's womb until they die, he said. 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