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Show are inherently shy. Single File so thev must battle their natural reticence to fulfill their role. He's Just A Shy Marine One of the great signs of progress in these '80s is the easing of this expectation and the permission being given the woman to aggress and initiate. I like It Providing she does it in her own good style and not in a belligerent or demeaning way, the more assertive wosaa wU! help the shy svercome By SUSAN DEITZ his temporary' disadvantage by making DEAR SUSAN: I am 21. stationed the first move. here as a military policeman in the There is a book that deals in active Marine Corps. My problem is that I will be 22 soon and I've never had the guts ways with the phenomenon of shyness, to ask a girl out. Whenever I find giving specific exercises to counteract someone attractive I get nervous The its harm. While you are reading, remore attracted to the person, the mule mind yourself that al! of es are ihy; some cover it better than others: nervous I become. "Shyness: What It Is and What To Do Part of the reason I joined the About It," by Philip G. Zimbardo marines is I assumed if I got through (Addision-WeslePublishing Boot Camp I could do anything 1 was Mass. 1977). wrong. I see my friends marrying and My own research is uncovering many I've never even kissed a girl. Since high men who share your condition. They school I've been so shy around women are usually the more sensitive, feeling I freeze. I can't even strike up a con-- , people of their gender. I rather like a versation. Cpl. J.M., Decatur. Ill shy man. The woman who finally comDEAR CORPORAL: Unfortunately municates with yon will be fortunate In our society the male ii burdened indeed. with the role of initiator and aggressor in most social situations. Many men PEAR SUSAN I'm 35 and divorced sa y - Sunday. February 15. 1981. THE HERALD. Provo. girl of 30 who has her reaction to me infatuated and not have done almost everything to prove I really love her. Diarsie Ely an .Albuquerque N M sent her flowers and candy taken her housewife models because "I enjoy it out and done whatever she wanted I very much, it' nice to pick up extra might add she goes out with other guys money and it gives me time for my which really bothers me I don't know children, who are6 and 9 years old if I can go on being friends with her this Hamette Smith 16. a Douglas Ga way. W hat do I do now Forget her and high school student, is a runway model lose her? Am I wasting my time'' -- and hasn't made up her mind about a Henri G., Lexington, Ky career. Eva Carr. 45. a registered nurse in DEAR HENRI: Yon cannot lose what was never yours. Clearly your Prince George British Columbia. woman is not very interested in you (or Canada, began runway modeling for possibly any man) on a serious basis at small town stores "just for fun'" and this point in her life. Ye raeae! ftslt because she could get duiiiing discounts and gift certificates Mrs. Carr. her for that. I suggest yon take vacaa nursing educator by day and mother tion from her without explanation of and see if that elicits tome Interest of three grown children, is a modeling school and teaches night from her. A bit of reverse psychology can work more wonders than flowers classes there. For every Brooke Shields and Shelley-Hacand candy. Try it. there are hundreds of women (Susan welcomes letters from like Mrs Ely. Mrs Carr and Miss readers from and will print them Smith Most live far from New York whenever possible. For a personal rep- City and other metropolitan areas that are centers for career modeling Most ly, write to her in care of this newstudy modeling and work at it for spaper and include a stamped, fun or extra among other things envelope i (cl 1981. Los Angeles Times money or to gain poise and and in love with a never married But is that I am just really in love 1 Utah-P- 43 age Second Careers in Modeling Their reasons are as varied as the students themselves says Nancy Bounds, outgoing president of the International Talent and Modeling School Association, whose members are independently owned firms Ms. Bounds a former model herself, operates an Omaha Neb based model school and agency chain with her husband. Mark Sconce. "The attractive woman of 35 to 45 who wants to model will find chances almost everywhere but the citv of Nev. York Ms Bounds said in an interview during the association's annual convention in New York City. "The bulk of our -- bookings are for housewives, high school and college students. "Every city in the world has advertisers who need models from a tractor manufacturer in Omaha to young clothing designers in California "We don't just have beautiful people," she added. "We have children, grandparents, character people " Ms Bounds thinks the trend toward models in sexusing young teen-ageually provocative ads and television commercials "is absolutely ridiculous and harmful to the girls " Such ads and commercials, she said, "encourage girls who are too young to be thinking about sex to try to become sex objects " She is highly critical of model agencies, designers and photographers who sanction the use of very young girl models for such ads She said the trend is being discussed as far away as Milan and Tokyo where a mode! agency recently asked her agency to send on assignments d Her answer was negative. "1 told them we could send but only if they were They are setting a trend I truly believe must be stopped if this trend continues, "we're going to see nude Playboy years." in she said, in the next two or three d Not all children modeling careers are looking tor Kids As Television Junkies O EVE I . . . CHICAGO (UPI) -Children who cannot do without a daily dose of Sesame Street or Bugs are television Bunny junkies and Patty is out to Rooney-Rebec- k help them break the habit. The DePaul University clinical psychology graduate student has started a program she hopes will enable parents to help their children r v ISIJS rs$i other rediscover f&es& VXia MMiX r , f TTA . pastimes. "What we're going to do is help parents use what they already know." said Ms. Rooney-Rebec- k, 25, a Des Moines, Iowa, native. "What we're try- ing to do is reduce the amount of time children spend watching TV. We want to do it by helping parents take charge. "What we're hoping it will achieve is to change habits some kids have developed. There are as well as qualitative diff- quantitative erences in the way some kids watch TV. "Some use it as substitute for their own ac- tivities. Others can take it or leave it. "There are kids who sneak TV. 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