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Show r THE LEADER-GARLAN- 1. TIMES. February D 1977. Page 3 ii Reunited After ill :' 20 Years cont. iron) page one And she had always believed her mother had die when she was born, she added. "1 was c urious why my mother died. She had wondered, "Was I the cause of it?" But she found out her mother had actually died when she was about three years old. Some time after that her father had been involved in a car accident, lost his legs, and became an alcoholic, she was told. F'or Mrs. Smith, that signaled the beginning of a trail of foster homes. Initially, she went to stay with an aunt in Morgan w ho eventually gave her up to the welfare people because of . .PALL PALI OF Tremonton (at left) and Jay Hardy of El wood walked away with top honors at the recently concluded state Young Farmer Association convention in Salt Lake City. Pali was named Young Farmer of the Year and is past president of the state organization. Hardy won first place in the beautification project. Paul Pali American Party Named Top Young Farmer Is Dinner Slated The annual banquet of the Box Elder County American Party will be held Feb.' 18 at 7 p.m. in the Bear River Junior High cafeteria. Guest speaker, Jackson Pemberton, of Salt Lake City will discuss the nation's founding father, George Washington and the U. cont. from page one He is an active supporter of the Future Farmers of America program. beautification award in 1974. The young farmer award is the "highest recognition" which can be given a Young Farmer member by the state association. All entrants, who must be under 36 years of age, are visited on their farms by a committee of agricultural people in late summer. The judging also includes a personal interview and inspection of farm records, including a financial statement at the time of the convention. Contestants prepare an elaborate book presentation describing their farm operation for judges. 734 acres of irrigated . Pall operates ground in the Bear River" Valley. He has served in nearly every capacity in the local chapter starting as secretary arid moving to vice president and president in 1971 and 1973 before becoming state vice president in 1975 and state president in 1976. He has been a member of the Box Elder County Fair Board, chairman of the Box Elder County Fair and Rodeo as well as holding numerous other positions on farm organizations. Constitution. Farming Frontiers And he was once asked to be a guest to the Brigham Young University Agriculture Econ- lecturer speaking omics graduating class. He, his family, and his operation have been featured in the U&I Inc. "Cultivator" magazine which is mailed to sugar beet growers in Utah. The Palis and the Hardys played host this week to the president and secretary of the Ohio Young Farmers Association. John .Vogle, president, and Rick Borland, secretary, attended the state convention, toured the Salt Lake Valley "with Noel Critchfield, regional manager of International Harvester, then spent two days in the Bear River Valley with Hardy and Pali. Local businesses supplied a complimentary luncheon for the Young Farmers at the state convention. Participating were Bear River State Bank, Mineral Fertilizer Co., Bank of Brigham City, Jones Equipment Co., Barnes Equipment Co., Utah-Idah- o Golden Co., Sugar Spike Equipment Co. and Taylor Farm Services. S. Show Set Farming Frontiers '77 depicting the latest in agricultural developments in a program prepared by the John Deere Company will be presented Feb. 10 at Taylor Farm Service, a local dealership in Tremonton. A morning show will be presented at 10 a.m. with lunch at noon and an afternoon show slated for 1:30 p.m. The day's activities will also include the awarding of door prizes. The annual event attracts about 600 farmers and their wives. Because "problems." She eventually lived in two other foster homes. She was removed from one because of "child abuse." She recalls incidents of being hit and one incident where she was "thrown" into a shower and had two front teeth cracked. She left another when her foster mother developed cancer. But, when she was in the third grade, the Nielsens adopted her and she has been their "only child" ever since. "...to me, my parents are Earl and Afton Nielsen," she said. "I have no memory of my mother whatsoever," she added. Both her sister and welfare officials suggested she hot look up her real father who lives in the Ogden area, she said, and she has no intention to do so. Mrs. Smilh said she has had a "desire" to trace her sisters and "find out just where they were.. .but never thought there would be a way. My (adoptive) parents never even knew what my real name was." At one of her foster homes, Mrs. Smith's first name was even changed. She was originally named Jackie. She recalls being given the choice between Tina or Sheri "and I picked Sheri," she said. She had also always thought she was a convert to the LDS Church but found out from her sister that her parents ' had been members. ' Her visiting sister brought along a geneology sheet which she copied. Mrs. Smith still doesn't know "exactly how"' her sister managed to track her down, she said. And now, for the first time in 20 newiywed has a years, the picture of she and her sister. ' cont. from page one In one incident cited by the funeral director, a family chose not to bring f child to a meeting their i prior to a viewing in which he talks to will and what death about youngsters i take place at the mortuary. A few months after the child was two years old, another relative died and the child asked, "Who's going to tend me?" That was his concept at that age, t ; ' of death. "We've really built up a misconception that it's a weakness to show your I emotions," Taylor said. When he first meets with the family of a dead relative, Taylor said he discusses how they feel and how the j j children or grandchildren feel. "I remember where I was when my Grandpa and Grandma died.. .home being tended," he recalled. Taylor encourages the family; tb bring the children from about age two on up to meet with him a half hour or 40 : minutes before the viewing begins He recalls his own first experience death of a dog he loved with death,-t- he so much he recalls crying at times, because he didn't want to go 6n vacation and leave the dog behind,; He recalls a nauseous feeling and lack of appetite and explains to the children that their similar feelings "are natural." He also discusses natural "guilt" feelings children may have about not having been to visit a grandparent who died or for miny other reasons. When talking to children who are members of religions that have Concepts about life after death, Taylor gives them a chance to discuss what j f they think has happened. "Most of the little kids say he's up in i f heaven," he said. With Mormons, Taylor might point out a concept taught by Joseph Smith that the spirit of the deceased is allowed to remain near, watching over the body until it is buried. Since most people in the Bear River Valley have a concept of life after death, Taylor often explains to children that the deceased's spirit, is now free from ailment and disease. Children are even briefed oh the operation of the casket, told about what will happen at the funeral and the various prayers there and ; at the i ; graveside. "They understand why youy go to cemeteries," he said, as a result of the discussion. "If you don't go through that process and you say "Grandma's buried over there," all they see is a ,! 1 (iAAzMiK3 asked question concerned death. "We've taught them more about sex than death," Taylor added. More and more classes dealing with death are showing up in high school and college classrooms, c At .. Bear River High, counselor Preston Checketts plans to implement, a section of study in his psychology classes dealing with death. Taylor will provide much of the resource material for the class. UuvJL liJ At Special Someone we're extending our deadline for starter certificates ! headstone and it's inconceivable" to them. Taylor also tells grandchildren, for instance, that they don't have to kiss their grandfather before the casket is closed, but they can if they want. Besides reassuring the children, parents are able to see that their children might have real fears about touching the deceased. It prevents a parent from grabbing an inwardly frightened child at the last moment and saying, "You want to kiss Grandpa?" and in the process "scaring the kid to death." Taylor also explains to the children that if they do kiss the dead relative, they'll find him "colder"... because his spirit is not in his bodv" and that he or she will "appear to be more firm." The funeral director recalled the reaction of one youngster when he was told he could kiss a dead relative. It went something like, "Yuk, I'm not going to touch him..." But the same youngster after having touched the deceased, later told Taylor, "You know, it's not that bad." The youngster had had a problem dealing with death for eight years since his uncle died. Taylor says there are signs people are attempting to deal with death on a more realistic basis. Tuesday evening he showed a group of youngsters from the Bear River City ward through the mortuary, including the embalming room, answering their various questions. "We tell the kids there isn't anything they shouldn't know and there's nothing we're trying to hide," he explained. "A few years ago we just got boys," Taylor added, "Now we get girls too." Taylor even gets letters from people thanking him for his discussions with them and their children. One letter read, in part: "You'll never know how much it meant to me to hear you talk about death... and encourage our youngsters toattend..." The funeral home director recounted a survey in which the most frequently $2 l You have 18 more days to take advantage of our starters. t A &r . solid SAFE investment. While your Logan Savings account is earning the highest interest allowed, it's protected by the Federal Savings and Loan Deposit Insurance Corporation, so you know your investment is SAFE. If you open an account of $10 or more at Logan Savings and Loan, Tremonton office, we'll add another 12 to your account. Simply fill In one of our $2 Starter Certificates, available at the Tremonton office, and submit it with your deposit. 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