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Show Park Record Thursday, September 17, 1987 Page A9 soorm q vmas Wow acapnia limited applications W children ea aft-5 wars. Half-aW icWl AajA "full dajopcnhgs avalWbl Hours bij opointmrh 1?eserre a space new. Learn to observe and prevent emotional disorders early in your children DRESSMAKING Design Creation Fit Transformations Restorations Finest Handwork Classic Tailoring Design Studio, Old Town, Park City Appointments 649-2860 - Ruth -ohm'-m mm WfffM MASSAGE Massage Therapy Robert Fournier Therapeutic Massage Genesis Athletic Club Available anytime by appointment House calls. Female Therapist available. 649-1233 649-6670 TRAVEL SERVICE Summit International Travel We can help you with all of your travel needs Ticket delivery available (even to SLC) 649-0550 1 662 Bonanza Drive Open Saturdays from 9 a.m.-l p.m. by DOROTHY SOLOMON Record guest writer Editor's note: We are pleased to offer of-fer this informative piece by Park City author (In My Father's House) j Dorothy Solomon, who also works' part-time at Rivendell Children and Youth Center. Jeremy was not a young man who would strike you as being "emotionally "emo-tionally disturbed" or "behaviorally disordered." Platinum-haired, athletically-built, of superior intelligence, in-telligence, Jeremy seemed to be on top of life. But in truth, Jeremy had spent much of his young life creating the impression of exceptional control. In fact, the syndrome was intrinsic to Jeremy's problem; he had become compulsive about pleasing others and seeming to be in control, while inside he was slipping downhill, fast. During his freshman year, Jeremy began to feel overwhelmed by the challenges of high school and he sank into a deep depression. For a time, he was withdrawn from friends and family, and he became increasingly anxious about school. His parents urged him to press forward, for-ward, and tried to talk him out of his worries. He found ways to avoid school sleeping too late, getting sick, and eventually stuffing most of his classes. He failed miserably, and observed the end of his first year in high school with dismay. His parents sternly questioned him how could a person as bright and gifted as Jeremy squander his time so carelessly? Jeremy shrugged and was silent. Midway through the summer, Jeremy became restive and erratic. He was sullen with family members and unpredictable with his few friends. He began to disappear at suppertime, and returned at dawn to sleep briefly in the morning hours, repeating the pattern day in and day out despite his parents' protests. He and his new girlfriend a high school dropout were seen necking on street corners. He parents chastened him: Didn't he care what the community thought of him? Of them? Jeremy sloughed off their counsel and continued the new pattern, pat-tern, sleeping and eating very little, ignoring the household rules, and generally disregarding the efforts of people to make him accountable. At one point, his parents brought up the possibility that Jeremy was involved in drugs. Jeremy denied their accusations almost hysterically, hysterical-ly, reminding him how deathly bored he was at school and how he couldn't sleep nights. Life was hard enough. Did they have to make it harder? he complained. Jeremy's parents wanted to believe him, wanted to believe that he was just "going through a phase." So they did. They backed off, and left Jeremy alone, just as he had asked. It wasn't for another year, when Jeremy was arrested for using cocaine and qualudes that Jeremy's parents began to confront the truth: Jeremy had troubles which must be immediately addressed ad-dressed or his life would continue in a deepening spiral, into prison andor the grave. Jeremy's problem wasn't simply drug abuse. The psychiatrist who examined ex-amined Jeremy determined that his problems had arisen from longstanding long-standing "attention deficit disorder" comlicated by an obsessive relationship to peer and parental expectations which compelled com-pelled him to alternatve between depression and hypomania. In other words, Jeremy would concentrate briefly on meeting the high standards stan-dards which other people expected, based on his intellectual gifts and magnetic personality, would try to make up for lost time with spurts of well-intentional velocity, and would despair of ever realizing his potential, poten-tial, which started the cycle all over again. When schisms in relationships and personalities occur, we often mask the cuts and pretend the nerves and emotional sinews were never severed. We have a tendency in our culture to respond to symptoms, placing band-aids over wounds instead in-stead of exposing them to remove the foreign matter and stitch things properly into place so that wholeness can be regained. Life inflicts wounds in variety of ways: divorce, death, the departure of a loved one, even quarrels can cause cuts that are inflamed by fear and infected with worry. Even the healthiest children lose balance in the throes of life's storms. Those children who are especially vulnerable, whose ecosystems are particularly delicate, such as those with Dysthymic (mild depression), Cyclothymic (mood swings), or Attention At-tention Deficit Disorder, and those living in disrupted family or cultural environment have an increased likelihood of systemic breakdown. When we, as parents, see the symptoms of breakdown, it's important impor-tant to address the causes. It is tempting to focus energy on the external ex-ternal factor the manifestation of the problem, rather than to the problem pro-blem itself. Drug abuse, for instance, in-stance, may be changing a youngster's behavior and distorting his personality. But often, the substance abuse results from a youngster's attempt to self-medicate, self-medicate, try to regulate his own chemical imbalance, to try to pull himself out of depression or to calm himself down. Shoplifting and truancy can be cries for help directed at the role models in the offending child's life. Running away from home or refusing refus-ing to obey family rules may be strident stri-dent pleas that the family structure be scrutinized and that indigenous problems be addressed. Anger, resentment, sullenness all may be a result of a child's fear that life will not improve, that the cuts will never heal, that the situation will continue to degenerate. What a child needs when he is seized with anxiety and caught in the clutches of depression is a place of healing. Depression in children and adolescents often doesn't look like depression in adults. While adults lose energy, seem listless, sad and withdrawn, the child or teenager may manifest his depression through destructive behavior-damaging behavior-damaging property, himself and others in his attempt to call attention to his despair. As Jeremy's parents were made aware of Jeremy's root problem, they followed the psychiatrist's council, selecting Rivendell Children and Youth Center to catalyze Jeremy's rehabilitation. Rivendell's approach to emotional and behavioral disorders involves a multi-disciplinary team to diagnose and deliver treatment. Jeremy's psychiatrist worked closely with a psychologist to conduct extensive tests and interviews. A social worker inquired into his family and school milieu, and made recommendations recommen-dations for Jeremy's growth and development. An occupational therapist tested and analyzed Jeremy's aptitudes and abilities, reinforcing the Rivendell educator's finding that he was, indeed of superior intelligence and strongly inclined toward liberal arts. A pediatrician and a dietician addressed address-ed Jeremy's physical needs, which were monitored by a fulltime nursing nurs-ing staff. Weekly family therapy sessions ses-sions and parent training seminars augmented Jeremy's treatment. The goals adopted by Jeremy, his parents and the staff were aimed at developing wholeness harmonious integration of Jeremy with himself, his family, his peers and his community. com-munity. After three months in Rivendell's highly-structured program, Jeremy was released. He was calmer, happier, hap-pier, 'drug-free and optimistic. Now, six months since his Rivendell stay, Jeremy reflects the 70-plus success Bank Are Pleas imber p o n s o r .30 A.M. Jlloons launch and begin daily impetition. :30- 11:00 A.M. illoons land; live entertainment on e field. 0:00 - 7:00 P.M. 'Jtumn Fest at Karl Winters Middle :?oo. Folk dancing, live entertain-ent, entertain-ent, bazaar. II field events ere free and open to e public at the Park Meadows Golf id Country Club. For more informa-on informa-on call the Park City Chamber of ommerceConvention and Vistors Jreauat 649-6100. 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He proudly discusses his goals long and short term: To save the money he earns after school and on weekends; to attend at-tend a good college; to marry when he is ready, rather than as an avoidance of family problems. Occasionally Occa-sionally he panics or gets uptight about school and his high expectations expecta-tions of himself. But he has learned to confront his feelings rather than avoiding or fantasizing around them. He is letting his lift unfold, rather than strangling himself on its tight coils. It has been a hard road to emotional emo-tional health for Jeremy. He and his parents muse that the path would have been easier had they recognized recogniz-ed the problems sooner and addressed address-ed them earlier. The crisis provoked by law enforcement intervention might have been avoided. In the spirit of prevention, Rivendell is holding its First Annual Fall Conference on Children and Youth to address root causes of behavioral and emotional disorders to assist parents and professionals in recognizing problems before they get out of hand, before lives and families are thrown into chaos. Experts Ex-perts from around the nation will present 20 different sessions, including in-cluding Dr. James Alexander, noted family therapist and University of Utah professor, who will offer the keynote speech, entitled "Don't Ask for Trouble," or "How to Lower Resistance in Family Therapy." Other topics for discussion include "Eating Disorders in Children," "Head Injury in Adolescent," and "How to Effectively Discipline Teenagers." The Fall Conference is offered free to the public. Parents are encouraged en-couraged to attend, as are profes-sionals: profes-sionals: Psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, therapists, school counselors and teachers may earn Continuing Education Units toward recertifica-tion recertifica-tion or licensure. The Fall Conference will be held Friday, Sept. 25, at the Salt Lake Sheraton from 8 a.m. (registration) till 6 p.m. Call Laurie Rhame at 561-3377 for details and to pre-register. Pay your fines The library will begin more strictly enforcing its policy on overdue charges for audio-visual equipment which is returned late to the library. All AV equipment is loaned on an overnight basis and is due back in the library by one o'clock the next day. An overdue over-due charge of $1.00 per hour or any portion of an hour will be charged when equipment is late. This policy is necessary to ensure en-sure that those who have booked equipment will have it available when they come to pick it up. Use of the equipment has steadily increased in-creased and the rate of failure to return equipment on time has also increased. The library has the following items available tor loan to registered borrowers: carousel projectors, 16mm film projector, projection screens, slide sorter, overhead projector, opaque projector, pro-jector, Polaroid cameras, and a portable video camera, restricted to use by non-profit groups. PEOPLE SHOP OUR I CLASSIFIED I FOR j; ALL THE THINGS 1 i THEY CAN'T FIND ANYWHERE ELSE. I ook high, look hm. Vui won't Imd .i Ivili'i pl.uv lo shop tor something urn ie.ill need . . .or to sell somelhing oti really iloti't need .immoie. Oui i.l;issiliul p.iis .ne ilk' hggeM shopping eeniei .nouiul. lo sell it, hu it. I ti nt i! oi i;el t'kl of ii , ,ull lis. Sell it in 4 liivsiiUil! |