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Show The Newspaper Thursday, September 16, 1982 Page A7 Group counseling sessions offered to single and remarried parents By Morgan Queal A child's sense of well-being, well-being, experts agree, is based on the emotional state of his parent or parents. Happy moms and dads make for happy kids. Encouraging single parents, step-parents, and their spouses to recognize, and take care of, their own needs as well as those of their children and stepchildren step-children is the goal of two workshops starting this month in Park City. Sponsored Spon-sored by the Family Counseling Counsel-ing Institute, the weekly group sessions will explore the problems inherent in single parenthood and remarriage. re-marriage. "Sometimes it's scarey to seek help, and a group situation can be threatening at first," said Nancy Cow-her, Cow-her, counselor at the institute. insti-tute. "But this will be just a group of friends talking about their problems and providing support and reinforcement re-inforcement for each other. "We want people to understand under-stand that if things are not going exactly right in their lives, they should not blame themselves," Cowher said. Sharing in the counseling at the Institute is Marion Ayers. "Single parents both men and women are usually so busy that they tend to neglect their own needs," she said. "They're trying to both raise and support their children. There's guilt involved, and they feel they have to give so much to their kids. 'I've heard single parents say their child is their whole world, and that's unhealthy. Adults should have adult relationships, and the child should not have to feel he's the center of his parent's life," Ms. Ayers said. There are heavy responsibilities, responsi-bilities, she said, that come with being a single parent and these responsibilities, such as trying to assume the role of both mother and father, can create stress that neither unmarried or married mar-ried persons experience. "If the single parent doesn't have a good adult support system, sometimes the child takes that on," Ms. Ayers explained. "The child can pick up on the parent's stress and because he cares for the parent, he'll take on a parental role himself." Ms. Ayers noted that single fathers are becoming more prevalent, even in Utah, and men are finding themselves in a strange, new role. "Single fathers might be the ones who would benefit most from a support group, but they may be the most reticent to join," she said. Ms. Cowher noted that seeking support from those with similar problems doesn't say you're not doing a good job. It's just that the job can be made easier. The second support group involving families of remarriage re-marriage is geared toward those who are bringing one or more children into the new marriage, even if that child is not living perman ently in the home. One of the main issues to be confronted in such an arrangement, Ms. Cowher said, is the relationship relation-ship between the children and the step-parent. "What you have is the joining together of two systems the parent and child, and the step-parent. said, must be solidly united in their relationship because children are keen to pick up on parents' uncertainties and confusion, she said. "Again, the single most important factor is the well-being of the custodial parent, and the quality of the relationship between the set by the individuals within the groups, depending on the problems they might be having. The single parent group will be meeting at 7 p.m. on Wednesdays, starting Sept. 29, and the remarriage group will gather on Thursdays, at the same time, starting Sept. "I've heard single parents say their child is their whole world, and that's unhealthy. Adults should have adult relationships. rela-tionships. " Marion Ayers The challenge comes in uniting into one smooth system," Ms. Cowher said. Among the problems likely uncertainty about how to relate to the child whether to be a parent or a friend, or how to deal with a child if he becomes divisive or manipulative. mani-pulative. Children also become confused, con-fused, wondering if love of the step-parent means disloyalty dis-loyalty to the absent real parent. Parents, Ms. Cowher parent and child," she said. She noted that it is also in the child's best interest if the divorced parents can maintain main-tain a consistent lifestyle a structured life so the child doesn't need to make constant adjustment. The overall goal of the groups is to help people establish better relationships relation-ships with their children, their spouses or other adults; specific goals will be . he welcome mat is out. 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The Family Counseling Institute is a private agency headed by Ms. Ayers and Ms. Cowher, both of whom hold masters degrees in social work. The agency has an advisory board of directors direc-tors whose members are Nancy McComb, also president presi-dent of the Park City Board of Education; Mike Smith, program coordinator for the Utah Department of Social Services; Dr. Bud Keye, of the University of Utah medical medi-cal school; Howard McQuar-rie, McQuar-rie, a gynecologist; and Tina Lewis, Park City council-woman. council-woman. Those wishing to register for one of the groups may call the Institute at 649-5989. THIS AD HAS NO NAME -BECAUSE WE HOPE BY NOW WE DO! We were possibly Park City's most popular dinner-time-only restaurant. But now we're OPEN FROM 11:00 a.m.-10:30 p.m. 7 DAYS A WEEKS We use the finest fresh fruits, meats, and vegetables available. All meals are cooked to order. We serve a new luncheon lunch-eon special every day. 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