Show sm tea a young lady who had just come back from a months honey moon called on me how do you like matrimony I 1 asked I 1 am utterly wretched she replied I 1 asked her why because I 1 did not try it sooner and that speech of hers frivolous as it may appear sounded the keynote of the marrying question tar more truly and resonantly than could the sneering epigrams of a world full ot cynics I 1 bear unqualified testimony to the fact that the man who passes his life in what Is mi single blessedness has missed most of life s pleasures life at 20 even at 30 may seem pleasant enough to a man without a wife to share its triumphs and failures the world Is young there Is much to distract and amuse home perhaps seems a place to go when all the other places are closed friends are plentiful relatives and immediate famely are about him but when a man reaches middle or old agea friends are not so many nor perhaps BO forested as at 20 old time pleasures lack their zest blessed thrice blessed then la the man who has home wife and children to ease that last at life s long most miserable of mor Is be who must look forward to a loveless and lonely old age annexing a wife and family in youth Is merely A higher and wiser form of putting money in bank no other investment yields such interest in later years let a man marry just as soon as he can sup port a wife the youth who puts ob this great step la order that he may search through the world for an affinity Is foolish in the search he Is more than liable to pass by his true affinity and to choose at last a wife whom no stretch of imagination could twist into an affinity for any one the traditional man who wandered for days through a forest looking for material tor a cane and who at last picked up a crooked stick was fortunate it that crooked stick did not turn out to be a snake A roan Is just as likely to hit upon his ideal earll in life as liter on my advice then as the supposititious mans lawyer Is dont wait marriage halves ones privileges and doubles one a troubles Is an idiotic saw probably invented by a bachelor there Is too much talk of this sort men speak of matrimony as a millstone tied about the neck bojt youth the lives of the world 8 most successful men give the lie to this fallacy search the lives of the men who have made history ot the toen who have achieved true great ness who have won fame who have acquired wealth the vast majority of them were married of these the greater part married oung their wives instead of transforming themselves into shapely but heavy millstones and dangling about the galled necks of their elege lords have in nine cases out of ten done more than all other influences combined to crown their husbands lives with success nearly all great men who have been married would confess they owed much of their fame or wealth to their wives there are of bourse obstacles to happiness in married life so also are there reefs and shoals in the atlantic but the sailor does not for that reason become a landsman lie studies the sho Us and learna to avoid them the pitfalls in matri mony can far more eisley be studied and avoided by adv couple possessed of a moderate degree of sense my belief from observation Is that 75 out of marriages are happy and that not more than five out 0 that number are unhappy apart from love itself there Is a companionship ln married life that draws closer and more beau as the ears go by during my last visit to europe I 1 met a man who expressed the deepest interest in our country why do you not visit us then I 1 asked him it you have sp kindly a feeling for america and anici leans vl because he replied simply my wife could not stand the voyage and I 1 would not for any personal per bonal or selfish reason be responsible tor one da a separation from her the couple had been married 40 years again many a man or maid postpones marriage because in neither s heart has downed that won darful creation of the novelist known as love at first sight this Is a mistake propinquity is the most powerful factor in biking two hearts beat as one many women form their ideals of a husband on novels and plays disillusionment Is bound to follow they find that the once idealized husband Is only a common mortal without even a pin feather on his shoulder blade then the alto feels ehe has been deceived so she has dut by herself not by her husband another grievous blow to many a wife Is that her husband docs not always remain her lover she forgets that he la tolling every day tor her welfare as no lover would toll she forgets also the wide between masculine and feml nine nature man loves but not quite as woman while a man may become so wildly infatuated as to spend his business hours jn drawing cu elds all over his letterheads et love can levei permanently occupy so large a in bis lotfi as it does in woman s ills life Is too full toa active too varied in its interests concession on both sides Is the sovereign remo d for domestic differences it you were to drop two strange cats into q barrel and then clap on the lid you would no mirvel at the ensuing sounds of wrath nor at tha heating upward of arant scraps of fur yet when a man and a woman reared alon different lines and in separate environments d not agree in every particular the world aghast at the tale of marital infelicity whereat a little a careful study of each oth cra moods and fallings will soon reduce ahli strife to a minimum I 1 believe that no couple who began by loving each other and had the right consideration to each other ever came to serious trouble tha effort of each to please the other leads in a lettla while to not having to try because of the sm pathy between them i kiss and make up Is good lule it the couple do not properly consider their loca there ft 11 ba a good many kisses but fir more necessity of biking up copyright by ft rt |