Show t I A IlY BY AMY ADAMS t SOME ISSUES CANT CAN'T BE FORCED Dear Amy After an unsuccessful l marriage atthe at the age of 15 I have a boy 24 years old 19 now and am working 61 hours bouts a week trying to support the child and myself I left leCt my husband when the baby was only 5 months old and prior to my divorce we made an agree agree- agreement ment for him to pay only a small amount of alimony in exchange for his seeing the child regularly So far I could count on my Angers the times hes he's been over and that's only because I call beg begor or threaten to have the alimony raised I come from a broken family and aDd dont don't want the child to suffer by by being completely left out or grow up thinking Dg he e has a no- no noa a good father how can I get him 1 4 to Lo become more interested in his gown own child fin on his own accord Perplexed Dear II 11 your husband has hili lost inter inter- interest Inter est cat in the Ule child there le Is y you D can ean do about It The courts cannot compel him t to make reg reg- regular ular alar visits but th they y can compel shim him to pay the iI If he rails falls to In arrears I You will have to mae make the best tf of the situation by giving him the love love and discipline of a mother and II a father Dear Amy Please print my letter tetter I bet plenty of men have my problem My wife spends money like it was going out of style I have two jobs but its it's not enough for her I bring in the money by the spoonful and she spends it by the When I worry about the bills she says Dont worry dear and hands me some pills so that I dont don't lose my composure What JS is a guy supposed to do I Constantly Broke DeAr Broke Boy do you have company I IMan's Mans Man's eternal str struggle Is to keep his bis earning capacity up to his wife's yearning capacity and never Dever the twain shall meet If Ie you think you can do better try your hand with the finances and put her on In a budget Should she lose her composure feed BElt nEtt the pills S 'S Dear Amy Dick and 1 became engaged engage d several months ago and he told I me our wedding date aate would have bave to wait until next year Later he be J said he would like to be married In September then still later I heard he had told his family the Ule date was set for December I would really like to know what his plans are I are are- I left the date en en- entirely up to but him he la Is very confusing Dicks Dick's Fiancee Dear Dur Fiancee There are some things a woman doesn't leave entirety entirely up to a man and t this ls In iD one of them Apparent Apparent- Apparently ly 11 DIck has bas to be Dick to If you dont don't dont don't want to remain In o I a constant state of 01 contusion confusion S SI Dear Amy I am a respectable working woman Three months ago I started dating a man I 1 had known casually for about a year I will soon be 41 and he Is 49 lie He prom prom- promIsed me a home and said be didn't want me to work Am I wrong to feel that any woman my looks for security We have been married five weeks and I find out his car Is mortgaged he owes one company and he borrowed for the wedding All I have received from him is one months month's rent for the apartment which was mine to start with We argue about money and I dont don't feel the same towards him since he lied to me lie He says I should help pay his bills since Im I'm his wife lie He Is insanely jealous for no reason and has a tierce fierce temper Three days after We were married he got drunk and hit me I had two black and blue marks for a week lIe says he will move when his rent Is up Im I'm so nervous I cant can't sleep Please help me Taken Dear Taken You Vou are not wrong Every Enry worn wom- woman an wants security and compan Since he has neither to offer you park pack his bags and let him move out permanently Before a woman considers mar mar- marriage with any man she should know him more than just casu ally PERSONAL TO Mr Watson Its It's elementary my dear dur Watt Wat- Wattson Watson son iI if speeders knew they y were driving to 10 jail they wouldn't be ill in such a hurry I For a personal reply enclose II a stamped self addressed envelope Please address all letters to AMY l IY ADAMS d o c o TIllS |