Show a J Y AMY ADAMS THERES THERE'S JOY IN GIVING Dear Any Amy My dear friend a dowager dowger has me rather upset at what she is doing Her lIer home is overflowing over with rare and beautiful antiques flu friends cds and even strangers who call upon her for forone forone one reason or another are taking advantage of her good nature Whatever anyone admires In her home borne she gives them Ive I've had numerous discussions with her over this but she continues cs to give these Ulese priceless old posses posses- possessions of hers away She says her children dont don't want them and she cant can't take them with her so she may as well give them away low How can I 1 stop her foolishness On One Ming vase was worth about 1660 1000 dollars and she rhe gave It to the milkman Leanore Dear Leanore eanore Its It's unfortunate that you cant can't see It but there Is nothing coolish iu in wanting to bring happiness to others And II a person who derives pleasure by giving of 01 themselves or their possessions has bas reached bed the ultimate pinnacle ul of earthly happiness God bless herl her Dear Amy My husband and parents do not get along at all I wish that they could My husband and rather father went so far as to get Into a list fist fistfight light fight I 1 stood up for my husband which Is only natural I believe the fight could have been avoided if they Ulcy would try to like each other but they wont won't Now my parents are angry at both of us usand usand and they wont won't come to our house and we dont don't go to theirs We dont don't live close however but my parents haven't written and ray my husband doesn't doesn want me writing them I 1 feel we all said saida II a lot which we regret perhaps oot my husband and l I do not not be hove lieve to In fighting The world Is In Ina ina a turmoil enough without It being wu III close to home My problem Is what should I 1 Ido do Listen to my husband and leave well enough alone or go ahead and try to patch up A Wife and Daughter Dear Vear It would be a losing battle to try w LO patch things up when your bus hus band and parents are unwilling the they are your parents and you should ke keep p In touch with them as of often tell as you wish without your husbands husband's knowl knowledge edge if necessary Dear Amy Tint other day I asked my mv mother if I could buy my boy boyfriend boyfriend friend a sweater Sh said that It 11 would be In bad taste and it would be better If 11 I didn't When I asked her why she said that we haven't known each other long enough and well enough Weve We've liked each other evet evel since last October I f am 16 Should i walt wait One of my girlfriends girlfriend's boyfriends bought her a beautiful green and write w lite knit bulky sweater and I thought t It was very nice of him They haven't been going together very long In tact fact not much longer than Phil and I have U it does show bad taste why U if a sweater Isn't suitable then what would be Shirt Shirl Dear Shirt Shirl Your mother Is right Teenagers ers era shouldn't exchange gUts gifts of 01 any real monetary value I For e r one thing they fall In fa and out of 01 love so often It can get to tobe tobe be an expensive pastime and a lit tie embarrassing My Illy son and his friends give token gifts for special occasions and send cards for all occasions This way everybody everybody's happy Including the moms Dear Amy After reading let lei leiter letter ter I 1 had to write and tell her through your column to contact Non ANon Family am y Groups Even If she cant can't attend meet ings Inge or her husband Isn't ready for AA God bless It it It might help her to converse with other women In the Ule same plight over ove the phone at her discretion AA and Non Al-Non have been able to work near miracles ith tam fam famIlies dies who have also been plunged into the despair and t of 01 alcoholism I am sure that jj it she will Just give it a try it will willbe willbe be of et enormous help and it cant can't hurt Much good luck to her Grateful to AA Please address all 1 letters to AMY AJ n I o c TillS SI N For II A reply 1 en se a t cd CUO |