Show Ir nY BY AMY ADAMS t SUCCESSFUL SECONDS Dear Deat Amy I read with interest tIle the plea from one of your readers concern ing second marriages es I would like to tell her that it Is just as easy cuy to make a mistake the sec oDd and time as it is the first Let et her take stock of herself Marriage as you so aptly put rt It sometimes Is a one dea-one one deal person having baving to bend a little littlemore littlemore more than the other r Kindness IC consideration and respect are in In- In which are a must for a successful marriage be It first OR t R second U If one mate doesn't Lave ave aB these qualities the other must supply them and hope they rub off There is no guarantee guarantee- only the chance for happiness I ISo So if Lonely Widow wants to remarry she should I did and Im I'm not Dot sorry Mrs RJ Detroit Dear Amy Books on marriage say that men and women who have had successful marriages want to marry again because of pleasant memories It is only an unhappy first marriage that leaves a per son sou unwilling and cautious to marry again But dont don't take this as gospel Im I'm only a Psychology major and marriage problems are part of the curse course Lynn Boston University Dear Amy Second marriages DO bO work out out This Is my story My first mar mar- marriage was founded on love lo and mutual respect We weren't kids but rather rathel In our twenties mid After several years of married bUss bliss I wanted to start a family and that's where th the trouble start start- started ed My wife did not want a tam tam- fly Dy She had enjoyed a carefree life so long that she didn't want to be tied down Many ments followed till In desperation I sued for divorce orce t I thought that would shake some sense into her It didn't The Roman Catholic Church granted me an annulment a rare thing but the civil courts gave me a hard time It took many years ears and I wasn't getting any younger to finally win my civil liberty During those hard years I gave my estranged wife no DO cause ause for counter suit because I kept my social l life above reo re- reproach When my divorce became a certainty l I met a woman almost my age She understood my alms aims in life and as soon as the final papers were wele served she consented to be bemy bemy my wife We married purchased a comfortable house and are liv ing in complete Soon I expect the arrival of my first born Mr MI CM Phila Penna Penna Pear Dear Amyl Amy 1 thought you and the Lonely Widow might like a mans man's view on a second marriage After Afler suf suffering fering Use Ule pangs and loneliness of being a widower for Cor nine years I had bad the good fortune of meeting what Is commonly called an old maid school teacher But time proved her to be an unclaimed jem We soon will celebrate our sev I anniversary She had he her problems an old mother and I 1 had mine two two children But we worked our problems out because i we cared enough for each other I to make our marriage work I Wizen WIlen we think of the obstacles we had In our path and how we both rolled up our sleeves and pitched In we are extremely proud and happy Mr Parma Ohio e eDear Dear Amy Though I 1 myself am not mar mar- married ried I 1 have had experience with second marriages Unfortunately my parents were divorced when I was about 12 and shortly there there- thereafter after remarried Both Bolli second marriages were blessed with happiness and have withstood the test of time friends and me I speak of myself because I could have been a thorn in the side of either of the Ule marriages but all four adults accepted l and loved Javed me and therein lay the se se- se secret cret of the success of these mar mar- marriages I feel I have grown up well ad- ad adjusted adjusted because I was secure in inthe inthe the love Jove of not tw twO people but tour four I Alice Vernal Utah e For a personal It reply end enclose S a stamped self addressed envelope Please III all letters to AMY AMY ADAMS ADAMS ell do TIllS NEWSPAPER |