Show a You and Your Marriage By Garth Harrison Uintah County Mental Health Clinic Another cause of conflicts as aswell well wen as obstacle to their resolution is fatigue Abuse of alcohol improper eating and poor nutrition excessive continuous continuous' hard work without adequate rest and recreation infectious illnesses all cause fatigue Some people quarrel only when tired Frayed nerves and shortened tempers make it easy to lose los control especially by the weekend CONSIDER SETTING s a a. a curfew be beyond ond which discussion discussion- rii of negative accusative matters matterS matterS' is forbidden then spend the rest of the evening watching nga a good TV show or movie listening to good music while working on a hobby atten attending ling achurch a achurch achurch church or civic activity or getting some rest Some people take advantage of weekend leisure to tackle problems under more relaxed conditions A A few months ago we seem seemed d incapable of settling little disputes stated one person If one or the other was tired we got into trouble We had to avoid disputes by postponing them until we were in the right mood so I suggested that once a week we sit down over refreshments and discuss things that had 6 6 J. J come between us Now whenever I start getting critical all Jerry has to say is Alright hold it until our bull bull- session For smooth running marria marriages marriages mar mar- ria es problems are are best settled on on the spot Couples plagued by quarrels may need off cooling periods But post- post must not become indefinite with the assumption That hat the conflict has been r resolved solved The promised time for r resuming suming discussion must be ber r respected d or resentments will willbe be added to previous resentments resentments resentments resent resent- ments until alienation and unwillingness to communicate and cooperate in all matters characterize the marriage DA DAY DAY y SAiNT SAINT pea peo- their traditional tF frt Hoine Evening have an 1 id a aly opportunity to resolve not all aU conflicts in conjunction with other more positive shared experiences After combatants children or parents have have cooled off and a spirit of or goodwill is facilitated b by the the scheduled spiritual discussion with shared recreation and refreshments ever everyone one is is' usually more conciliatory Constructive review of the past conflict and learning of lof more mature b behavior havior is then possible A Ap p pastor stor of a local church r recently stated that only five p percent of hostility between individuals is legitimate and 95 percent is simple childishness b based sed upon assumptions f failure to fo communicate feelings |