Show batug i I 1 author of 4 HOW TO WIN FRIENDS and 1 N W lieberman of brook lyn N Y thinks I 1 om am wrong when I 1 assert that one should never say no youre v ou 1 wrong drio ajl he thinks there are n times when v when man should 1 be told definitely finitely dc hsi colbs that lie he i is wrong well note that I 1 say you must always agree with A man though I 1 did say for you yot not to say no youre wrong it is the phrasing that is important it you are arc tactful careful in your manner you can say practically anything to a man without offending him or even ruffling him dr lieberman says and I 1 am sure xou you will agree with him as ido I 1 do do that there Is an art in saying no and this art Is based on the oldest law of human relationships respect for tile the other fellow I 1 but cut let s let lot dr lieberman tell ien his owl ll 11 version someone comes to me an idea toli i davs v nr dr r loe ioe lor nian 1 I ask him it 0 sil sll spill it and a I 1 as s oon as possible I 1 agree to some minor point of his I 1 tion on then T hn I 1 ask hini hinl n un toome tooma to come b ack back after a few days or a week vilen when we both will have had tune to think over the matter if when lie he returns my iny answer is still no I 1 say sav no but I 1 g nive give i reasons rs for ny my c conclusion av nd I 1 T attempt t to raise raise his i own self i alty ats esteem by suggesting a tute idea not too far from his s own before 7 I 1 end tile lai lat ba praise hi him hini for the value of hl his idea ca and ask his opinion about some other matter about which I 1 know him to be well weil c informed you ou will nt that dr lk elber LK ber I 1 man nian tactfully refrains from ar that lie is is honest in his treatment and that he shows the man mail the respect that every one craves and you can be sure that dr lieberman has many more patients than lie he would have if he put up an argument with them on oil matters in w which aich the they are not wholly in in accord if lie shouted no you youre re wrong when they did not i agree lie would be sure to of fend the se sensibilities risi bili ties of if some sonic of those patients with wu the le result sun suu i that they would not ot care to have further association with him so oti you oil see after all dr I 1 lieberman and I 1 do agree |