Show I Why We Behave I Like Elu Human man Beings By 7 GEORGI GEORGg DORSEY DORSET PhD Ph.D. G Gushy Girls Waste Sex Seat Emotion T THERE pHERE are many histories rles of marriage mar- mar in three large volumes Is a m mere re sketch and aud was out of ot date the fay it was printed New marriage customs have been In in- vented Marriage does not stand still sUlI It I I grows grows backward backward forward up and j I down There are arc as many forms of at marriage behavior as there are marI mar mar- 1 I vied couples Possibly more some j I l I solve and rind remarry Marriage laws i j vary ary tJ fi om am state to state nation to nation nation na na- tion age to age Can marriage behavior be be- havior be generalized or reduced to law v I There Is no biologic excuse outside I structural deficiency for tor unmated nd- nd nit human beings Many human societies societies societies so so- respect that law Other communities com com- flaunt It disregard puberty I Indefinitely postpone mating or mate casually and make th the best of ot children children chil chil- dren as they do Io of at other accidents In other words we ve get little light lighton on human marriage behavior from the mind of at the ameba or the social instincts in- in instincts of the anthropoid apes Human marriage behavior Is a as distinctly and pec peculiarly human as Is a sewing machine machine ma ma- chine or of the Wedding March of ot ro Loh Loh- The mate instinct must be bethere bethere bethere there Is there If It we are born whole we we have it the capacity to seek a n amate amate mate the Impulse to find one If It it takes us us' us overseas Why then a world of sexually unadjusted unadjusted unadjusted un un- un- un adjusted divorces oft- oft courtesans prostitutes homosexuals homosexuals homosexuals hom hom- IO loveless eless marriage childless marriages Endless kinds C e e eTwo Two general observations 1 J. J Europe's topes tope's population has doubled in U ins e last ast l hundred years despite the enormous enormous enormous enor enor- losses from wars disease Infantile Infantile infantile tile mortality and drains overseas The mate hunger is not Impotent 2 We hear only of ot the tiro sexually ju d. d There are millions of happily mated couples In America Now ow for the other side i the behavior behavior be be- be- be havior hauler of at the mate mate Impulse It leads many to marry The marriage falls fails drunkenness hi ss cruelty infidelity desertion desertion deser deser- desertion tion etc The courts recognize many grounds Why does one man be become ome omea a n drunkard another beat his wife Marriage Itself Is no more responsible for such misfits misers than is business for tor arson or banking for defalcation Theman The Theman Theman man who beats his wife probably beat his sister er or his mother The man who drinks because or In spite of ot his wife would turn to drink under any other situation to which he could not adjust himself e e e Between the age of fifteen and t twenty live are ten long years During t these hese years the mate hunger l impulse cannot be put to sleep as one does docs a achild achild achild child or locked In a closet as one does does but hut should not not not-a a naughty child It is Inevitable that huge amounts of energy be diverted But where What Is to be Its outlet Raise the Raise the standard of ot mens men's morality morality mor mor- allty 1 But not by talk Work will do doIt It i t. t Many a boy Is so hard at work he lle has lias no further energy left The boy or girl who for tor ten years chases pleasure as the main business of ot life may be pure but neither will willbe willbe be likely to acquire any socially useful habits during that time Both Doth men and women can become such habitual flirts that they are abnormal they are sexual sex ual perverts The normal sex-complex sex can he brol broken en In many ways disappointment in love no response on the part of ot the tha mate ate etc The sex-complex sex thus becomes becomes becomes be be- comes conditioned to abnormal methods methods methods meth meth- of response tendency to avoid or be disgusted under conditions which are neither disgusting nor to be avoided prudishness sloppy sentimentality sentimentality senti senti- mentality morbid interest In the extern externals ex ex- tern ls or accessories of ot sex conduct The sex complex thus tUns comes to mean for tor one Individual one thing for another another another an an- other quite something else It comes to be as varied as behavior itself What It Is at any anyone one time depends on on the lessons It has learned its experience experience experience ence Its habits No m man n or woman sex sex- ente enters into marriage with a sex com plex plea slate on which something has not been written Until recently It was vas likely to be too little on the part of the woman an Ignorance so ingrained that learning was painful too much on the part of the man more than he could rt rub b off ort Foundations of at habits which means character are re laid In homes Nine Nine- lne- lne tenths tent s of the girls that enter Juvenile e courts leave bad homes As Thomas I puts It many a girl cannot be said to fall because she has never risen j She Is not immoral but amoral Tho The mate hunger Is turned into love for adventure clothes theater attention distinction freedom And some discover dis cover coyer that the only means they have flays to realize these acquired appetites I la is their sex They use It as they would wouldn n a coin to buy huy advantages ad and pleasure Thomas cites Dumas Dumns as saying that girls In Paris lost their virginity as aa they lost their milk teeth they could give che no plausible account of the loss Or they marry with that same colt clr or buy entree to the stage or a trip trill to Paris Having chosen the easier ensler road rond they soon soon become habituated to It Until re recently women had hac al almost al most no Incentive or opportunity t to ti attempt achievement In n male Why should she when for every ery nonan woman non wom an there was Vas a purchaser for some iome many bidders 0 c by George A A. 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