Show I I I I Marriage With flitt Divorce in View Is Scorned by lIon Honest est People D DEAR FEAR EAR MISS DENE I have been L' L going with a girl for tor five years and love her In a certain way She loves me and has given up everyone else In the world for Cor me I feel that It Is my duty to marry her and Intend intend intend In in- tend to do so But 1 I want you to tell teU me If I am doing the right thing I know that I can be happy with her alone but none nono of my friends like her her and and she docs does not fit Gt In well wen with the people Ive I've always gone with She and I have agreed to get married and then If things do not work out well vell to separate after a Do ayears ayears years year's time I think this Is the only onty fair thing to do P. do-P. P. P M. M D. D ANSWER The ANSWER The lady must be toe all- all fired anxious for matrimony if she's willing to make an agreement of this sort For even the most infatuated infatuated infatuated in in- sweetheart would be loath to undertake marriage on such a cold basis It seems to me youre you're asking for trouble in planning a date on which you will separate by mutual consent consent consent con con- sent If it things dont don't work out well weD Under the circumstances they're bound to work out badly With both bothof of you watching the calendar and reminding yourselves that every everyday everyday everyday day brings you nearer the possible moment of separation you will wil hardly have time to get used to each other other other-or or to learn how to com com- promise After Alter five years P. P M. M D. D you should know whether youre you're happier with the girl you ou love love or or with the friends whose opinion worry you Surely by this time your our allegiance to your sweetheart has lies alienated the tie affections of your our imitation friends and left let you OU which relationships rela rela- with a pretty good idea of are most precious The f friends friends' who have stuck to you in spite of their being opposed to your our fiancee are aTe going on with witla their loyalty loyalty- I through your our marriage and everything else cIse You have no cause to worry about them Neither should you worry about the crowd you know whose standards standards standards stand stand- ards demand a different sort of sweetheart for you Their praise or blame cannot affect you you except except su su- su- su There is no case on record record record rec rec- ord of a mans man's giving up his true truelove truelove I Ilove love in order to please the opinion of some superior group group and and finding finding finding find find- ing that the crowds crowd's approval al compensated compensated com corn him for his loss of a sweet sweet- heart 1 EAR DORIS DENE I 1 have havo D DEAR quarreled with my husband anc and left him because he prefers his mother to me We lived with his mother up till last week and then I I left My ly husband Is still with her Ills His mother cant can't stand me and made my life lire a torment I 1 love m my husband and want him to be with me always But apparently he doesn't care caro enough for forme me me to give up his mother S. S. S T. T ANSWER Just ANSWER Just a minute minute just just a minute Youre You're jumping to conclusions conclusions conclusions so fast you haven't time to see where youre you're going Because your husband doesn't desert his mother in order to follow you is no indication indication indication indica indica- tion that he doesn't love you There There may be any number of reasons for tor his behavior and you ought to consider consider con con- sider some of them before forming such an unfavorable opinion of your spouses spouse's brand of devotion In the first place he may feel quite rightly that you sho should Id have havet t talked over the situation with him reasonably before flouncing out of the house in a temper Your sudden sudden sud sud- den exit may have hurt him so so sUd 1 that his pride prevents his following you Did you hon honestly give him a chance to understand how strongly you felt on the subject Now the man of the house may argue that you knew before you married that you were scheduled to live with Mother Mother in in law and and that since you married on that understanding understanding under under- s standing anding youre you're not playing fair now in walking out on the job Isn't it true that you knew what you were in ln for when you married a aman aman aman man who perhaps had bad to support his mother And i if f your husband is his mothers mother's mothers mother's mothers mother's moth moth- ers er's only standby he can hardly be blamed for refusing to desert his big responsibility without responsibility without a good deal of 0 consideration and planning Wouldn't t tit it be selfish of him laim to throw over his mother and fly after alter you Oll regardless re ra of 0 her feelings If 1 you'd been visa you OU wouldn't have created a situation situation situ situ- in which your husband seas lias leftin left leftin leftin in such an awkward position with both contestants The romantic lover of fiction might have dropped everything and torn after his departing wife wile pleading pleading pleading plead plead- ing with her to return But the sensible everyday man who feels his duty toward his mother keenly who believes in fair play and reasonable reasonable reasonable rea rea- treatment treatment treatment-is is slow to forgive forgive for tor- give the tempestuous darling who has thrown his life into info chaos with her abrupt departure He may love her her deeply and tenderly yet feel that her own action has made it impossible for him to help her immediately If It you honestly feel teel S. S S Tf T. T that the right is on your side and that your leave taking was warranted from every point of view have no fear since tear since in that case your husband husband husband hus hus- band will assuredly come after you to make peace Life alone with mother will not prove a satisfactory satisfactory satisfactory tory substitute for the devotion of ofa a loving wife And the man left lett to endure such a dismal substitute will have a chance to figure out the rights and wrongs of the case 0 BeU Syndicate Service |