Show GETTING c A C A ET FING A STAR r by j NATHANIEL C FOWLER jr j i iwuc 1518 1915 by the mcclure syndicate robert and william were chums they were wera junior salesmen both had made good in a moderate way and both gave promise of ultimately becoming successful ive something to tell you said robert one day and it its a in strict confidence fi Il 00 go ahead bob im thinking ot of getting married thinking ot of it or have bavo you decided im pretty close cleao to the finish I 1 guess have you asked the girl no but ive iva about mado made op dp my mind to propose think shell say yes asked william with a smile GUSS guiss so BO yola yoa want my advice it replied robert ill toll tell you who eve la 18 11 not just yet my boy lets discuss it upon general principles first and afterward aro are you sure you ou lot e 9 the girl do you think id propose to her it I 1 sure eure exclaimed robert no but you may think youre sure without being so be dut but how pan I 1 bo be surer my aly dear fellow replied william earnestly marriage Is the most act solemn contract you or anybody else can mako make it requires more consideration th than anany any other action you can lease a house and sublet it it if you want to and you can change your job if you dont like it but you cant get rid ot of a wife so easily it is a lifelong life long prop n or should be you say you love her if you had selected an automobile to you could probably give a dozen or more definite reasons why you had bad mado made the choice can you give me six elx real definite solid reasons why you have picked out this girl to be your wife robert frowned dob bob resumed william lets get down to brass tacks im your friend the best friend you have give me tho the first reason why you want to marry this girl because im in love with her all right give me one reason why you are in love with her in what particular respect does she appeal to you ashes pretty ashes she sweet and dainty and hang bang it man I 1 love herl her ill admit ashes pretty but beauty ja in itself remain net in the matrimonial market and sweetness Is 1 relative what Wha have you talked about principally since you met honestly I 1 dont old boy dob bob it you had many things in common you remember something you talked about do you love her or are you infatuated with her love carries with it companionship and community of interest a desire to work together as well as to play together lias has this young woman shown any interest in your work would you b be 6 happy with her it if you were to see no one else for the next 40 years well honestly replied robert 1 I cant remember that she ever did show any particular interest in my work As for being alone with her the rest of my life I 1 shall not have to I 1 havo have other interests it this young woman Is sufficiently in lovo love with you to marry you she ought to be at least somewhat interested in tile the work which Is to be a means of livelihood for both of you nobody expects a man to see sea only his wife but it if he does not feel that he would be willing and ready to and that he bo could be happy with her alone he be has no business to marry go home dob bob write out what you want your wife to be irrespective of this particular woman then ask yourself without prejudice whether or not you have any tangible evidence that she can meet the requirements if you dont know why you want a thing whether it Is EL a motor car or a girl dont take either cither when in doubt walt wait OTHER PEOPLES MONEY rich nich mens son eona and inheritors of wealth havo have succeeded have bays risen above their unfortunate environment and aided by other oilier peoples money mon YI have at times accomplished great r re but tho ilia large majority of men of mark men who are recognized as leaders in their lines reached their goal through their own endeavors and wholly without financial or other assistance si stance A close study of conditions proves beyond a doubt that comparatively few ow i men havo have succeeded 0 except x capt by their own personal endeavors endeavor so much la Is self work necessary for self advancement that sensible and practical men ot of wealth invariably subject their sons to hard training in stead ot f placing them in responsible PosIt positions loo at the start thoy they require them to learn the bushi esi from the bottom up even though it may bo be necessary for them to carry the dinner palls of labor and wear tho the overalls of subordination practically every rall railroad road president began as a brakeman or occupied some borne other mental menial position lie he was a good brakeman before he was a conductor a good conductor before he was the superintendent of 0 a minor division mastering each round as aa he progressed upward nearly all of our great merchant princes began as office boys swept out the store and carried bundles bandl es it Is an economic tact fact not cot subject to exceptions that no man can successfully cess fully or profitably v manage any kind of business or any class of industry unless he understands from experience peri ence the details of hla his vocation there Is no way under the sun of accomplishment whereby one can effectively and profitably command workmen who are doing that which he does not understand or cannot himself do with some proficiency many great men have been born with silver spoons in their mouths but their success Is duo due to eating out of common crockery dishes with iron knives and forks at uncovered ered tables where they come in close contact with the fundamental sub bottom torn of labor from which they progress roas until they are able to command men doing what they themselves have done nothing can be accomplished without experience even ability itself la Is valueless unless it Is developed by experience per peri lence ence seeing other people do things la Is not sufficient to understand how bow to direct you must have been directed to command you must havo have been commanded there Is no other way theory great as it Is without practice Is worth less than practice without theory it you begin at the bottom you may work up it if you begin at the top you will topple over |