Show little problems 0 life 0 0 f 0 0 0 0 dy 0 0 WILLIAM GEORGE JORDAN 0 e 0 0 WHEN THE FAMILY interferes many a 0 good matrimonial hlila with its sunlit cargo of happiness and hope has liaa been wrecked on oil tho the rocky rocks of faill family interference if it were cro customary to erect tombstones to the memory of dead loves tile tho cause of tile tho death ot of carlt marital it hap happiness pines 9 in thousands of homes might bo given in tho the clil selled epitaph dard from fill an overdose of the interference of relatives I 1 it there bo be ono one place in tile world where the justice ot of home rulo rule 1 should bo be unquestioned flint place la Is tho the horne marriage makes tile cou plo pie n now new inn an independent partnership not it branch house hoim under tho management of it parent company it was interference nod imi had davice that spoiled the first marriage started I 1 the first quarrel and broke up tip lie iho first home in tile tho world in those early days long long ago when eden was the only spot on earth that had bad even a aunine this was aa tile first lehon lc onon to man and now after sixty centuries some aonie people linao riot not learned learn pil it yet husband tind abife ife must work out their own on problems in their own any ny tito tho problems leini of two five must lio lie solved by two they need only kindness sympathy a reserve ol of help in emer genales and a free open field nil all tile time there Is no justification for gossip criticism complaint condemnation and incendiary meddling by nion ibers of tho the flin family illy these things should bu put on tho the list of unnecessary luxuries lit in the homo hoino and gently firmly definitely cut off wo we may sometimes bo be privileged to help others to live their lives it la Is arrogant assumption for us to attempt to live their lives for them we ve are anro told that wo we should not bury our talents but there them Is ono one talent unit that of special ness for impertinent management of tho the affairs of others that wo we should carefully wrap in a ri napkin alikin find on somo some dark night quietly bury forever it Is in ili tho the first years of married life that foreign interference Is most trying find and dangerous and it Is this hits very time when it la Is most conspicuous and dominant no need for the family to remind the wife that flint the husband la Is not eighteen karat that lie ho will never lunko a fortune that they fear greatly and then lot let their fear expand into a long catalogue of oc detail that fades away into the dim perspective of tire tho unspoken after tho the goods tire arc bought land find sent homo ionic and cannot bo be returned what Is tho the use of discouraging the purchaser tho the wife may inay think title bho lins hns the fill finest little homo home in tho the world everything seems to her find sho elio lias has even in tire the array off of cooking utensils dazzling and new in aluminum and tin and tho the dishes ranged carefully on oil the pantry shelves silo bho often stands tit lit tho the door and smiles miles ns as she elio looks in iii to ret get the general effect at it a glance when tho the family faintly a lour of inspection tier indiscreet ats sister inny say buy oh what n mile of a kitchen you can only wash the small dishes like cups and saucers in a little box bos like this it hall had never seemed small to her nono none of tho the rooms seemed isi nall they held so BO much lavo nod hope hopa and hup alint the size till did riot not count but now tier her heart sinks and tho the joy note seems gone anti and it a cloud comes over it nil all and silo she begins to compare tier her homo home with that of some friend and it suffers she bho thinks of till all the other oilier deficiencies pointed out by tho the visiting inspectors sho she tries to be brave bravo so she bho will bo be sl smiling when lie ho comes homo ionic but it la Is hard to keep back tho the tears I 1 when her liu husbands shands sister bister tells her in confidence just to put you on your guard so you will know how to handle hundlo him what a temper lio lie has it comes to tier her its ia a surprise anti a grief for it does riot not seem possible lio lie could ever speak a cross word when silo hears still in confidence about the girl lie ha aris so fco much in ili lovo love with two years ago and was going to marry sho she feels twinges of vague jealousy and she bho wants to bo be alone lie ile too tony suffer puffer from tho the early of family faintly interference it if ills his mother begins her maternal vivisection of lila ills wife elie doubts it if she bho will prove a good housekeeper but of course wo we faveto hope for tho the best beat soon the life family may begin a campaign of 0 education on how the should bilm blie honra with the words you surely purely wont let win him stiletto lit in the parlor I 1 you know you can never get tho the odor out of tho the cur enins and that cartridge paper drinks in smoke like blotting paper absorbs ink it she elie assents they increase the dose if site elio rebels they think sho sha Is overconfident and sett setting lur glicr ter right becomes more than it n pleasure it la Is a duty never permit him to be live five ini minutes late at dinner just bissert your independence la Is tho the next shot shoe from froin this peace congress la in the litte interests rests of domestic war tho the husband rony may return home in the evening and rod the wife nervous irritable ri table brimful ot of suggested new ar runge menta ments in the home bowe and repairs hat flint lie ho might make in hi his manners and she does docs not tell him who has been thero there all afternoon but ho be knows it as absolutely broin tho the traces left laft in her conversation ait cs tho the hunter reads the positing passing of a bear from tracks is the mow silo sho may later tell him ot of a chatir 11 to ile bo mode made in one of the r booma 0 ll 11 nod and vo silo glio unwisely mines lindes it the HIM number b of f hr her family who made the motion or he to sustain a position may repent repeat some criticism his mother made they are ara planting fieelds of oe discord lit each oth ors ers minds unconsciously stimulating prejudice and opposition and intensify ing 1119 family interference As aa tho the days go BO on critical ampro allon from the family faintly committee orl n interference may grow brow harder nud harder to bear it la ili depressing cepi casing to llo live under tile microscope of criticism like tin all impaled insert insect there la is often con on detonation where if 1 the ahl facts wf acro t known there would ha a only praise there la Is altogether tou antich judging in tile tho world too much idle intrusive censorship of 0 tile tho nets acts of others it li la it avin fort abl 0 to hear constantly tho you ion ought t to do tills this or you should certainly do that it Is so easy to solve the conundrum of an thira others life tile I 1 ho reason flint advice Is usually of little value Is ia that lint it Is not based on it perfect knowledge of it tile tho infinity of detail that makes make up a condition perfect advice should lit fit tho the situation us as a glove gloo fits the hand most advice does docs riot not get much lenrer than it boxing glove in tile tho mutter matter of fitting that tile tho faintly interference may nilso from interest does not excuse it nor even cn explain it where love lou Is greatest it should bo be most tinder nod most considerate there tire clinos les conle bomo tiny nomo flame of ilsun der ferstanding standing d irises between husband and alfo that a breath of kindly in ill might blow into nothing ness but talked over ly by tile faintly and canvassed anti debated and in grows broa into a under the alio gossip often unthinking of its evil influence a tiny molehill mol chIll of difficulty may become tin nn almost imps rocky mountain Mount nIn range oil la is it ii good thing to pour on troubled wu wit tors hut but it Is poor to put out a 11 iare A difficulty dint originally concerned only n duct now has been made to nf af feet tile whole family hilr it la is easter easier for two people to reach loving hiir har loony than to distribute it among a dozen sometimes tile interference of families becomes even moro more active and aggress aggressive Ivo linn this and because of a fancied grievance or a genuine genuino opposition it actually comes between husband and wife find and by harsh criticism or condemnation seeks to incite strife and discord between them hero instant loyalty of tho the one to the other should assert itself and refuse to listen to tile tho voice in nn an instinctive spirit of prof there should bo be it calm dignified protest against tile recital of what if unessential should vever lo be spoken nod it of 0 serious import should bo be heard only in the presence of the one thus charged with what lie or she should have the opportunity of denying den ing or disproving instantly before the weeds ot of suspicion have hi 0 elmo to root loot them selys in ili the heart of the other la in many homes thero there Is 13 some ono one in the faintly on either side whose visits bring a trall trail of sadness badness sorrow borrow protest bitter opposition tin nn unnecessary lind and intrusion of at a discordant element tending to worry irritate and perhaps even to bring into husband and wife in this delicate situation it often seems a problem lem liow how best to net act the health and happiness of tho the honie home must bo be considered na as of first and greatest importance it it bo be but a trivial inconvenience or jar to tho the domestic serenity the wisdom of tolerance for a time should bo be manifested if it bo be of more serious menace impossible pos to minster by patient ben bearing rIng the privilege of hospitality should no not bo be stra strained lnell beyond tho the bearing point there is it a moment when ceases to tie be a and degenerates into cowardice vice thero there may inny bo be nn an injustice to oneself find to one near and inart dear that hint uila this unwelcome guest hood outrages it la Is not truo trite hospital ity to mask tile hearts continued protest under n smile to submit kurily to an atmosphere flint saps ones lue mental lital find moral vitality lint dulls energy deadens ones finer sensibility and kills tho the joy of life leaving ono one worried worded week weak worn and weary unable to meet na as one should the questions of everyday every overy day living it if wo we constantly suffer injustice that wo we can remove wo are anre slaves to tile tho individuality of another and cowards tol to our own tito thu rankling irritation ot of tho the unjust hearing bearing it 1 continued will penu perit cato our whole ft hole rin linture ture like nn an poison wo we should therefore net act calmly wisely with kindness and dl pally and frankly recognize condl eions and with perfect fairness take tile the gentlest action that will remedy them better it short decisive battle fought to a finish than a constant serles series of petty squabbles and skirmishes wo we cannot connot bo be just to others if wo we are unjust to ourselves if one lives ever 1111 ler tile tho scepter BLi pter ot of the decision of others it la Is not tree free life it la Is slaver slavery Y one cannot keep emotion constantly corked up tip some time that cork will collie coine out perhaps inopportunely true tore fore true companionship true living can helgn in the homo home only as aa there lg Is in the homo nn an atmosphere ot of liberty of individual freet freedom loin in its highest sense sease it there be interference from outside forces whether they be from tho family faintly or others that tends to blight the joy rest pence and calm calin of tho the home that threatens to bring in even the alie thin edge of the wedge of discord between husband and wife that interference should be ellen ced forever the homo home should be a sanctuary ot of refuge not n battle ground of discord it should lo be 10 a place where the angel of love ever swings tho the center ot dpn and nl ealm ana V all 4 WE IN monastery of VER ono one secluded included nook of the 0 turbulent levant still broods bloods the tibetan calin which has enveloped ped it 11 for more than a thotis tind years it Is the promontory of athos at bos the liis tern most of the hie three p extending into thu the A beull r n froni from tile coast coart of macedonia like the gnarled fingers of tit nil aged priest whose liand land la Is raised lit in bonc dhere only 40 miles front from the hie allied war var base dwells dells it monastic community of some souls under a republican form of government which has haa out outlasted lasted the Sara saracena saracens cens the and bids fair to survive the sublime porte borte mount allies atlina the glistening pyramid of marble in which tho the 40 nille peninsula Is 18 visible at sunset from the plains of troy across tho the sea and sh immers into view from the slopes of mount olympus while air ular ies ici were circling above tile ruins of lIe helens leris city anti and the remote founder of tile queen Eli elizabeth told of shells that spanned tile tho peninsula of the monks behind their marble barrier intoned tile chants that were old when columbus on its ills great adventure lind and paced in fit brocaded and cloth of gold vestments which were grooved by sandaled sandal cd feet when the byzantine empire flourished the 1 I ho law of ages seems to forbid wars ars trespass on oil these sacred precincts and the alio monastic deny admittance admittance to any female cradure ere cre iture dure lie ile it boman lien or cow says it writer in the now york tribune tho the un 13 3 y V quadrangle of st Panta lelmon monastery ritten law ln generally hns has been observed perli perhaps nils by geographical accident or perhaps because of 1 alie I c adapt able conciliatory nature of tile lie kindly I 1 folk who lio chilia the sacred mount for their own kut but de pito tile tho strict regulations of tile tho most blessed of tho holy monist and tho the shock of borror which illicit the most humble of the brethren nt at sight of the gentler sex bonien women have penetrated where hero war ar ling has retired to trend tread founded in third century although tho the remote history of tho the colony melts into iniste legend it la Is generally believed that the first bellg lous loua settlements on the peninsula aeto ero made by refugees from the tons of tho the iconoclasts endly in the eighth century tito legends of tho the attribute them thein to tile the ago oi of in the third ani and fourth centuries reference to the exist existence e nee of tho the cluster of religious brother biot lier hooda boods Is antido lit in historical documents of the ninth century tito tho of the monastery of laura founded about tho the middle of tile tenth bentli century by st at Athana to bo be well founded bull to mako make it for historical purposes the most ancient of tile tho monasteries there Is wason to bellev believe that la Is of nl about equal antiquity according to the monastic accounts counts nc of katope this founding it Is 18 the lie most venerable curable of nil lilt tile the twenty inning having been established by Theodosi tig in recognition of tho the providential rescue of his son rom drowning on the coast near by the most recent of the monasteries was founded in 1545 there tire twenty of them thein they aro are situated on the wooded and moun slopes of a peninsula which la Is forty miles in length and from roin four TO seven miles in wildth the total population of tho the pi nin sula Is about three thoin inrid of the inhabitants are and the rest are lay brothers besides the twenty monasteries 0 th re are villages or settlements inhabited mostly by artisans employed fithen fit liln tho abbeys only precipitous afford means of 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