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What is it that those who love loveyou loveyou loveyou you , , wish Wlsh to goodness you would wouldchange wouldchange wouldchange7 wouldchange7The change ' The reason I write of this UIl1 um UIl1versa umversal universal versa versal I situation situahon is because so many manyhomes manyhomes manyhomes homes are trembling tremblmg now on the thebrink thebrink thebrink brink of o ! trouble More than ever everbefore everbefore everbefore before in is our national history peo peopIe people peopie pIe ple are nervous some without withoutcause withoutcause withoutcause cause some with cause Men have havecome havecome havecome come back from the war shattered shatteredID shatteredin in spirit ttrikes IItrlkes strikes are hard on strlk strik strlker striker striker housingbuying hOUSlIlgbU housingbuemg er and employer busmesi busmes . hOUSlIlg housing bU buemg 'lIlg lIlg ' conditions condlhons are not normal normaland normaland normaland and not apt to become normal tor torsome torsome torsome some time tune Constant reminders of ofthe ofthe ofthe the cold and starvation overseas overseasmake overseasmake overseasmake make our hearts heavy and our own ownsecurity ownsecurity ownsecurity security seem something of which whichto whichto whichto to be almost ashamedThis ashamedThis ashamed ashamedThis This bad time can be and will willbe willbe willbe be weathered but not without a de demand demand demand mand for new heroism upon every everywlte everywife everywife wlte wife and homemaker and mother 'I I ' --t t - : 'it 'i i ' : _ - s sw6.ut 9 , . r rI . 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I Io o " thi , h , k kabout about ) > UU uup I > . - - - - HAVEN OF HAPPINESSThere HAPPINESS \ There are many smallcauses small causesof causes causesof causesof of friction frlctton even in the happt happtest happtest happiest est families famlhes Iemay It Ie may be thatthe that thatthe thatthe the wife nags and andwnnes andwhines whines w/nnes w nnes / She Shemay Shemay Shemay may be dulland dull and lifeless even evenIf eveni evenif If Ifshe fshe i f she fulfills all her duties dutiesfaithfully dutiesfaithfully dutiesfaithfully faithfully Some women are areextravagant areextravagant areextravagant extravagant and demandmg demanding demandmgOthers demandingOthers demandingOthers Others are alll always ali > ays companng comparing companngtheir comparingtheir comparingtheir their state with withsomeone someone s selse selse selse else Many lllany husbands seldom or ornever ornever ornever never mention these wifelytraits t1-lfely t1 lfely t1lfelytraits wt - f fely ely elytraits traits that so annoythem annoy them Theytry They Theytry Theytry try to go along , realizing realzZlng , thattheir that thattheir thattheir their Oll oitn ozLn > n faults may be pretty prettyhard prettyhard prettyhard hard to endure too Ifevery If everywife every everyulfe everywife ulfe wife could look 1001 loon looninto . into mto her hus hits husband's hitsband's husband's husbands band's bands ' ' mind mmd mmdonce mindonce once a year says saysMISs saysbliss saysMiss MISs bliss Norns Norrzs Norris she probably probablywould probablywould probablywould would be surprIsedand surprised and andstar star startIed startied startied tIed tIedat at what tdlat iohat she would dls dis dlscover discover discover discoverDuring cover coverDurmg coverDuring During Durmg these trying trymg postuar postuaryears postuaryears postuaryears years when nerves ore are sull still sulltense stilltense stilltense tense little lzttle irritations Irrztatlons grow growmto growinto growinto mto into serious senous quarrels The dt di divorce divorce vorce courts are fullof full of hus hits hitsbands husbands bands bandsand and andwrves andwives wives wrves who tdw got on oneach oneach each eachother's other's others ' nerves It is every everytute everysafes everywifes tute safes s duty , counsels Mis JUIS Nor NorrlS Norris Norns rlS ris to try to make ma1.e ma1e . her home as aspleasant aspleasant aspleasant pleasant as she can It should shouldbe shouldbe shouldbe be a little haven of happmess happiness happinessin happmessIn In a distraught world It Is upon us uswomen -women women - that the heav heavlest heavlest heavlest lest responsibility falls and in our ourhands ourhands ourhands hands lies l1es has the cure We must stop stophoping stophoping stophoping hoping for men to change condJ condi condJtions condilions condltions tions lions to change costs to go down downpaychecks downpaychecks , downpaychecks paychecks to go up and determine determineto to change just one thing thmg ourselves ourselvesI ourselvesChange ourselvesChange ourselvesChange Change from nagging nagglIlg to pleasant pleasantness pleasantness pleasantness I . ness from debt to solvency from fromdisagreeable fromdisagreeable disagreeable criticism and sulky si sl silences sllences silences .1disagreeable .1 1 lences to that amiable confid"nt confidnt confidant confid"ntequaniImty confidantequanimity confld " ntequanimity equaniImty equanimity that is the very essence essenceof essenceof essenceof of peace at homeStronghold homeStronghold home homeStronghold Stronghold of or SecurityMake SecurityMake Security SecurityMake Make home heaven Make it slm elm slmpier elmpier simpier , pier smaller If it you like llke move it itto itto itto to less expensive eupensive quarters cut out outmany outmany outmany many of o1 the things thmgs that you feel feeltoday feeltoday : today you cannot do without but butcreate butcreate butcreate create about yourself yoursel ! and your own ownpeople ownpeople ownpeople people a stronghold of security and andbeglIl andbegin andbegin beglIl begin the process by asking askmg your yoursel yoursell yourself sel sell ! lust Just what what , . , If it you had a chance chancefrom chancefrom chancefrom from the outside you would want wantchanged wantchanged wantchanged wantchangedThese changed changedThese These are no DO days in which whtch to tobe be coldly reasonable and expect expectreasonableness expectreasonableness expectreasonableness reasonableness from others Tbese These Tbeseare Theseare Theseare are days of o1 desperate crisis we weare weare weare are living IIvlJ1g througha through a time tune of psy psycopathlc psycopathic psycopathic hasbroken copathlc copathic strain that ( already llready has broken us down into thousands of ofneurotics ofneurotics ofneurotics neurotics thousands of cases of ofmental ofmental ofmental mental collapse Not all of o1 these theseare theseare theseare are ofthem atthem in our base hospitals many at of them : are Ire at family famlly breakfast tables tablesor tablesor tablesor or selling sellmg things in hops shops ( or teaching orteaching our children in m schools Tbe The Tbeold Theold Theold old world cannot suffer the fevers feversthat that have racked her for five years without yearswithout having to face a long con convalescence convalescence convalescence convalescenceSo valescence valescenceSo So take hold of problemand your own problem and reduce it not safetyand only to safety and sanity but to happiness happlIless and har harmony harmany harmony mony many tobe as well weIl There may have to thefirst thefust be many changes But make the fu-st fu st first - one in m yourself |