OCR Text |
Show - - - - f y Kathleen la ( tllleell N Norris orris Sa Says ys : - The Sfl Stl angest congest Ploblem Pi oblem oblemBen BeU Ben Syndicate SyndicateWNU Syndicate-WNU Syndicate WNU -WNU WNU - I"eaturu Ieaturu reatures " tV . 4 I IZa 'ti ti Za ' < 'tiI Lv r 1 t tp p ( v vr r 41 0 @ . . , 'j- 'j j 'j0 ' - = - - - - : tJ > J - - 0 0 t tf @ a " f f L \I I \ , Lf f - - , I tt 1 l- l lJ - - - E J l r ri i "Keep Keep " Cyrus uuh you Glte hum the nest year uloily reading to hum , doing her Iessons with h hm m " i By KATHLEEN NORRISt NORRIS t " ' / " " 'vUR vUR ' UR problem is a verypecul1ar verypeculiar very "OUR OUR I j pecuhar pecul1ar peculiar one , " , " writes wntes writesy writess s \ ' \-y y \ - Jean Morgan fromHartford fromHartford from fromHartford Hartford , Connecticut "Both Both "BothHoward "BothHoward BothHoward " BothHoward Howard , my husband and I I'are Iare I\ I Iare 'are are \ ' are teachers but butweha\en'tff butweha en'tff entff we ha\ ha hay haen't \ en't ent en'tbeen en'tbeen ' been able to find any solutIon solutIonto solutionsto to this particular puzzle"When puzzle"When puzzle ; "When When " our first born sonwas sonwas son ? was two years old we lost another another an other son an infant mfant Our'r Ourrgrief Our grief gnef rgrief 'r r ' * was great , for an Injury Injuryto injuryto injuryto to me Just ] ust before the child S SbIrth sbirth sbirth bIrth cost not only his l life e but butthe butthe butthe the possible lives of other ChII chil ChIIdrenlmlghthavehad childrenImlghthavehad children drenlmlghthavehad drenImlghthavehad I might have had We de 1 1termned termined termmed termned ) to adopt a baby girl'We girl'We girl ( ' "We We 'We " ' went from place to place placeflndmg placefinding place\f place f \ t placet finding flndmg a great shortage of gul girl gulbabIes girlbabies girlbabies babIes But In one place v . we e dId dIdfinally didfinally didfinally finally find a weazened baby boy ar a r r lew few tew v . weeks eeks old with a mop of fineblack fineblack fine fineHack Hack black hair The unfortunate lIttle littlefellow littlea a . fellow made an immediate appeal appealt t . and we brought him home as a ababy ababy ababy baby brother Tony for or our own ownsmall ownsmall ownsmall small CyrusAs CyrusAs Cyrus CyrusAs As the baby grew the dark hair hairdIsappeared hairdisappeared hairdisappeared dIsappeared giving glVmg way to beauti beautl ) ful ( ul chestnut curls With his rus big black blackeyes blackeyes blackeyes eyes warm brown skrnand skfc skrn skin and irre irre51st irresist irresistble 51st sist ble smile we discovered that thatwe thatwe thatwe we had a child who literally stopped stoppedtraffic stoppedtraffic stoppedtraffic traffic Gay endearing endearlllg intelligent intelligentfar intelligenttar Intelligentfar far tar beyond his years Tony has frOIT from fromthe fromthe ' the beginning beglI1llJllg eel ecl psed Cyrus C1"US C1US ) ' " who whois whois whola is a somewhat tunid tmlld timid quiet childnot child } \ not jealous as far as we know but butwnlhng buti butiwilling l prizesl willing wnlhng to let Tony win wm all the prizesr prizesand prizesand prizes ' . and be captain captam of all the games r \ [ Tony Attracts AttentIon'Howard Attention'Howard Attention Attention"Howard " ' ' "Howard Howard 'Howard and I have scrupulously scrupulouslytried scrupulouslytried scrupulouslytried tried to balance the affect on and andattention andattention andattention attention we give the two but VISit VISitors visitors visitors ors always single smgle out handsome en engagmg engaging engaging gagmg gaging httle little Tony tor for especial especialI especialnotice especialnotice especialnotice I notice He is quite unconscious of ofr ofhis ofhis ofs ofshis r P yearsP hischarmhe his charm-he charm he charm - he is now eight yearsoldbut yearsoldbut years ' old-but old but old - but we feel that there is noi nor no i r ( question that his enthusiasm and andf andh andf f h . Plans discourage Cyrus from makmg making mak makmg mg ing any attempts of his own ownCyrus own.1 own1 owna a . . Cyrus has a lovely generous nature na ture but butist Just ] \ist ist \ of late both his father fatheri i and I think thmk that he be tarries arrles aerries self 3 ) } 3effacement effacement too tar far We want .ant ant . to en enf encourage encourage enf f courage him to self expression and andJ andindividual andi andr r J l butl Individual Interests and friends buthe buthe but buthe he seems already to be e sol tary m in mt int int t , , his tastes S Now my husband is going gomg over overseas overS seas and we are giving glvmg up our bigcountry big ' country place and plan to place the thebos theboys thebos \ bos boys } ) in boarding boardmg schools For Tony TonyBI I have no misgivings mlsglvmgs but I am won wondering wondermg BI " dermg dering it If Cyrus does not need speclal spe clal cial understanding and possibly f spef ? speclal spe - clal cial handling handlmg Our ong orlg nal purpose purposein purposein in finding findmg a 'httle httle 'lIttle lIttle ' ' brother ' * ' . was as to toI tomake tomake tomake , make Cyrus happy it will break breakhath breakboth breakboth I hath both our hearts if rf this very brotherjj brotheris brother . Is the cause of any real injury to his hisSpirit hisspirit hisl tpirit Spirit . When the boys go to school schoolwill schoolgj schoolI I apartmentin will take a five room apartment in the city and perhaps pNhaps find war warwork warwork warwork work to do until Howard comes comesback comesback comesback comesbackKeep back backKeep Keep Kecp Tony from Cyrus CyrusI I think thllIk the time bme has come now nowwhen nowwhen nowwhen when you must separate the boysperhaps boysperhaps boys ' perhaps tor for years certainly certamly tor for along along a along long time timeFind timeFind timei Find the right school for Tonynot Tonynot Tony Tonycot cot not too tOQ near and see that he hasI has"g'T has hasf9J - - . \\f9J\/ f9J \ \ f9Jn , \ ' / n\ n n"y \ 1 " ' \ / I Ij j f'w fw ' ' I ] uncoJcious r . ; jher jherf "g'T gT "g'Tany . " " ! , "Tony Tony " ' - - any "y y " ll IS " Quite unco UlICO " ijcious "ClaUS ClaUS of ofjher hts Ills I f If f ( SON COMES COllIES FIRST rmST 1'IRST 1IRST 1'IRSTSometimes FIRSTSometimes ' Sometimes Somehmes the most gener generous generous generous ous andseenllngly andseemingly and seemingly seenllngly seenllnglysensible seeminglysensible sensible sensibleactions sensibleactions sensibleactions actions result in unexpecteddifficulties unexpected unexpecteddifficulties unexpecteddifficulties difficulties Arare A rare problem problemlaces problemfaces problemfaces laces faces the mother in this article arh arti arhcle article cle She adopted adopteda a baby boyto bo boy boyto ) to be a companion compamon to her littleson bttle little bttleson littleson son then tiio tl/O tl O two / , years ) ears old Unexpected/ Unexpected Unexpectedthe Un Tin Unexpectedl Tinexpectedly expectedl expectedly / ) the little orphan orphanTony orphanTony orphanTony Tony Tonysl:11y Tonysiclly sl:11y sl11y siclly sl:11yand sicllyand sicl ( : ly andundersized and undersizedas undersized as a baby developedmto developedinto developed into mto a ahandsome ahandsome ahandsome handsome andcharmmg andcharming and charming charmmg childwho cluld child clulduho childu u uho zo quite outshone CrusTIlls Cyrus CyrusThis C Crus ) rus rusThis This TIlls mother notched uatched < atched herson her herson herson son Cyrus retiring rehrmg andunsel and unselfish unsel unselfish unselfish fish by nature gradually gIVe gIVeway giveivay giveway way ivay before be/ore be ore / the engaging engagmg little littlewal littleivaif littletoaif wal ivaif ! Tony \ Aow 1\010 1 010 flow Cyrus is lS tenand ten tenand tenand and Tony Tonyeight eight years oldand old and andshe andshe andshe she thinks tlllnJ.s tlllnJs tlllnJ.sIt . it is lS time hme to thinkof tlun think thinkof " 0/ 0 of 0her / her oun son's sons ' best interestsHer mterests interests mterestslIer interestsHer lIer Her husbandIS husband is soon gomg going gomgoverseas goingoverseas goingoverseas overseas andshe and she is lS a planningto planmngto planmng planning to put both her boys in m boarding board boardmg boarding mg ing mgschools ingschools schoolsMiss schoolsilliss schools Miss illiss Norns Norris points pomts out that thattlus thatthus thatthis tlus thus is lS not just the thp right course occasional weekends at home and andplenty andplenty andplenty I plenty of affection and amusement amusementat | at those times bmes tunes In summer put him himm himin himin m in a camp he will always find findfrIends findfriends findfriends frIends It If you can discover before beforethe beforethe beforethe the fall term begins some famlly family familyv famllyv v hose own small boy Is in m that thatschool thatschool thatschool school go see that boy s mother and andmake andmake andmake make with her a financial arrange arrangement arrangement arrangement ment that will mean that Tony Tonyspends Tonyspends Tonyspends spends most of his holidays there thereTIlls thereThis thereThis TIlls This will not be easy at first butyou but butou you > } ou owe it to your own son to see seeIt seeit seeit It through throughDon Don t put Cyrus in m board ng ngschool ngschool ngschool school keep him rom with you G ve ye vehim yehim vehim him this next year wholly read reading readlag reading I ing lag to him doing domg his lessons with withhlID withhim withhim hlID him takmg taking him off with you to the themoun themountains themountains moun mountains tams or the shore in m summer summerLet summerLet summerLet Let him rum know that he is the dearest dearestmterest dearestinterest dearestinterest mterest interest in your 1 fe You may be beamazedyou beamazedyou beamazed amazed-you amazed you - you almost certa nly my win will winbo willb willb bo b > < amazed at the way this shy shybackward shybackward shybackward backward httle lIttle nature will d di.velop divelop . . velop under the stimulus stlmulus of games gamesbooks gamesbooks gamesbooks books work meals with you alone aloneYou aloneYou aloneYou You are fortunate to ha\ ha ha\e ha e hae have \ e this partlcular partitular par particular ticular tlcular titular opportunity to give h m h s schance schance sjAance chance Be car careful ful that the boys themselves them themselves themselves selves have no susp don cion of what IS ISmot ismot ismot mot vating vatmg you and what your ob oh object ohjest objoct ject jest is Above all don t let Cyrus Cyrusfed Cyrusfeel Cyrusfeel fed feel himself an object of pity or orsolicItude orsolicitude orsolicitude solicItude You can simply enough enoughgive enoughgive enoughgive give him h1m reasons why Tony goes to toone toone toone one school and he to another if rf m mdeed mdeed mdeed deed at the age of ten he will ask askfor askfor asktor for any reasons at al all . . . Unwittingly Un.Ittmgly UnIttmgly . you did your own boy boyan boyan boyan an injustice eight years ago You Youwcre Youwere Youwere wcre were in no way to blame In nme nine nmecases ninecases ninecases cases out of ten it would be other otherWIse otherwise otherwise WIse it would be the true son to toward toward toward ward whom favoritism would natur naturally naturally naturally ally turn But real brothers have to tobe tobe tobe be separated soroetin-es soroetin es somebrres sometimes - and these thesefoster thesefoster thesefoster foster brothers will both be better betterapart betterapart apart for a while When you and andCyrus andCyrus I ICyrus Cyrus are alone you 11 ll find your boy boyand boyand boyand and be he will find his motherI mother I |