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Show Ia Kathleen ( thleen Norris Says : Don't Dont ' Dworce Divorce an Unfmthful Unfaithful Father FatherBcll Sell Bcll Synd eate-WNU eate WNU Cato-WNU Cato - Features iH ill illr ( r - , 3 I , I Ir IN + ' r N of ofd d c ) ) / o o o oo o ' I 0 79 d doA oA o 0 tef tefDemo Demo - - :0 0 : po Opp , 0 0 0 0 0o o oooo ooooo o po o o o on n \ J 1 i o 0 0Go /Go Go / 1 1p 1O 00 oooo oooor r In p O / /Il Il / Ilr77i /O O / r77i r77iD ; 4 4y 4All D GLAS RvAN y All rlr.s rlrs tlu tl u . lime my 1 I u-bond u bond 1ubond usband Iusband - , has re80rded regarded AI Ain . , a 11 as $ merely anolher another child childnow now nowhe nowhe he uants her lor hor I J Js 5 s I r I f Ia fa a d has asJ.edme askedme asJ.ed asJed asked . me lor for a d dIOree dforce IOree force By KATHLEEN NORRISI NORRISN NORRIS NORRISDN N the many years durmg during durmgwhich duringwhich duringwhich I DN IN which I have been wntmgthese writingthese writing wntmg writingthese these articles arbcles one ques quesbon question question bon tion has been asked frequent frequentlyperhaps frequentlyperhaps frequently ly-perhaps ly perhaps - perhaps more frequently frequentlythan frequentlythan frequentlythan than any other ItIS It is Is mti infi mtidehty infidelity infidelity dehty delity a justification lustificatlon ] usbficatlOn for dl di dlvorce divorce divorce vorce when children are m in mvalved involved involved7 valved volved ? My answer has m in mevltably inevitably inevitably evltably evitably been no ' The women who have no nochildren nochildren nochildren children don t ask this ques quesbon question question bon tion They simply get their theirdivorces theirdivorces theirdivorces divorces ItIS It is when there thereis IS a small son or daughter In Inthe inthe inthe the fam Cam ( am ly Iy that the agon z ng rig problem problem prob | lem presents itself Itselt and that a worn wom wornan woman wornan an s dec < lon Ion aon to seek a divorce divorcebrmgs divorcebrings divorcebrings brmgs brings mfln Infin infra te to misery to the innocent Innocentas as well as the gUIltyPoss guiltyPoss guilty I guiltyI Poss biy bly lily very high hJgh sp ritual ntual and reI re | 1 I g ous grounds might be cited as asreasons asreasons asreasons reasons against agamst such divorces but butthese butthese butthese these are not the grounds upon uponwhich uponwhich uponwhich which I base my position It IS as ISbased asbased isbased based solely upon human bappmess happiness happinessA bappmessA A woman who preserves the out outward outward outward ward d gmty gnity of her home saves her herchIldren herchildren herchildren chIldren the spiritual spmtual d sturbance of oflosmg oflosing oflosing losmg losing fa ( a th in m their father mam main mamta mainto mainta ta to ns her pos pas t t on as wife mother motherand motherand motherand and house manager despite mward inward mwardheartbreak inwardheartbreak mwardheartbreak heartbreak and d sillusionment sllluslOnment , , , IS ISm isin isin m in the end tar far happ Kapp er than the wom woman woman wornan an who breaks all t t es pulls up uproots uproots uproots roots scars and horr fies young youngm youngm m nds w v . th devastat ng revelations revelationsof of the details of marital mantal failure failureSome failureSome failureSome Some Harsh Uarsh DescriptionsThe DescriptionsThe Descriptions DescriptionsThe The proof of this is all about us usTo usTo usTo To justify herself herselt in m the step she shetakes shetakes shetakes takes a woman describes her faulty faultyspouse faultyspouse faultyspouse spouse as nothing nothmg less than a mon monster monster monster ster Keep check some t me on the therurnber therumber therumber rurnber rumber of o ( your divorced tr fr ends who whodescnbe whodescribe whodescribe descnbe describe their ex husbands as fiends fiendsmental fiendsmental fiendsmental mental cases moral degenerates degeneratesThe degeneratesThe degeneratesThe The r o 0 vn vii mothers can t stand them themThe themThe themThe The r cl-ibs cl ibs clJbs clabs - have expelled them themThey themThey themThey They ought to be in m institut mstltut onsAnn ensAnn ons ens onsAnn Ann I sa d once to a fnend friend fnendwho friendwho friendwho who was m in course of bemg being dl do dlvorced dovorced divorced vorced ho v could you tell tel ! Tommy Tommyand Tommyand Tommyand and Ellen that Tom struck you you7 you7Well ' Well she answered defens ve ye veIy yely vely Iy ly he might as well have struck struckme struckme struckme me as have sa d some of the things thfhgs thingshe thfhgshe thingshe he did didThis This is typ caL The accus ng ngwoman ngwoman ngwoman woman lowers herself herselt she becomesVltuperat becomesvatuperat becomes 'vituperat vituperat ' Vltuperat vatuperat s \ \ e and sp teful Only a ane ame ane ne me v great love accompanied aceompamed w th thunderstandmg thunderstanding thunderstanding understandmg understanding and patience and gen gentleness gentleness gentieness tleness can re restore tore her to a normal normalatt normalalt normalatt att alt tude toward to\\ard to ard \ life We She does not notoften notoften notoften often find tha that t love she is in no nocond nocond nocond cond t on to find fund ItSo itSo it itSo So my advice to her is to st ck to It it It.To ItTo . . To stop susp cion coon to conquer sen senSluveness sensativeness sensitiveness Sluveness sativeness to accept facts Tom the thedear thedear thedear dear attentive del ghtful com compan companton companion pan panIon Ion ton of only a few yearsJast years \ past \Jast Jast loves lovesanother lovesanother lovesanother another woman That part of Ma Mary Mary Mary ry s Itfe Ide life is over the joyous be beloved beloved beloved loved confident part . She has hved lived hvedonly livedonly livedonly only for him adored her son and anddaughter anddaughter anddaughter daughter partly because bccause they were werealso werealso werealso also his It hasn t been enough It Ithasn ithasn ithasn hasn t saved herNoth herNoth her herNoth Noth ng rig can save Mary from the thebItter thebitter thebitter bItter hum 1 at on ot of knowing knov.mg knovmg . that thatshe thatshe thatshe she hasn t been able to hold her herman herman herman man D vorce won t save her that thatd thatd d vorce will only advert se It to the thevhole thevhole thevhole vhole world Divorce hands11 hands " \ ill \11 11 the thetrump thetrump theIrump trump cards to the new sweetheart sweetheartLhe sweetheartthe sweetheartIhe Lhe the latter grabs them eas ly and a aew afew afew few [ ew days after the d vorce is grant granted granted granted ed she marr es c e ; > Tom to his Ius cndur endur cndurng endurng cndurng ng wretchedness and hersMary hersMary hers hersMary Mary is also wretched wr'tched wrtched ( ' Wretcl ed edJf edof edif Jf of she lives hves a lop s ded lonely he life lifewith hewith lifewith ! with the ch Idren ldren sharing their thclr ce cc cereal ccreal cereal real and applesauce Ilpplesauce at six sue o 0 clock clockand clockand clockand ceI I and go ng rig to bed at n ne no More Morewretched Morewretched Morewretched wretched It if she marr es someone someoneho someonesho someone\ho someone ho them \ho ho sho \ doesn t understand them or lovej lovethem lovethem love j THE LESSER El eJ Cl IL ILThe ILThe The uomaJ uoman uomaJuho uomanwho uoman 11/10 11 10 uho who / chooses dl de dlvorce devorce divorce vorce as the Ihe solution of her herman hermarital hermarital man marital tal problems runs the ns/ ns risk nsof riskof riskof / . of having havmg to face , , even C1en ten greater greaterunhapplae greaterunhappiness greaterunhappiae'is greaterunhappiaeis unhapplae unhappiness ' s AndIf Andf And f if f there are arec1l1ldren arechildren arechildren c1l1ldren children even rnf infdility m [ dday dcitty ddayIS dcittyas is as iiot iiotsufficient notsufficient ot otsufficient sufficient cause for her to toma.e tomake tomake ma/.e ma.e ma .e e make / . sucha such a choice She must mustface mustface mustface face heartbreaand heartbreakand heartbreak heartbrea/ heartbrea / . andSuspICIOn and SuspICIOn SuspICIOnand suspicionand suspicionand and yet remain remarn rernarn calm She mustnot must mustnot mustnot not let the loss of the con confi confidence confidencc fi fideuce dence deuce and love of the man shemarried she shemarned shemarried marned married disturb the comfort comfortand comfortandserenityof comfortand and andseremty andserenityof serenity seremty of his Ius hsshonne home Thatis That ThatIS greatdeal IS ofcourse of course aShrnga askinga asking aShrng a great deal but by folloiiing folloltrng follourng tl1S this tl1ScOllrse thiscourse thiscourse ! cOllrse course rather than the otherone other otherone otherone one of divorce dworce she sloe will wall willavord wallavoid avord avoid avordaddmg avoidadding avoidadding addmg adding her mistake mlstahe to his hisThe hisThe hisThe The mere semblance ofa of a hap happy happy hoppy py home is bad badenough enough butin but butIn butan In an this tIlls thus case it is lS the lesser lesserevil lesserevil lesserevil lesserevilToday evil evilToday Today s ma 1 I brings me this let leti letter letter letter letterI i ter terI terI I am a woman ot of 34 marr ed edjust edjust , Just ten years I idealized Ideahzed Rob for forI foryears foryears toryears I years before we were married marned and andfor andfor andtor for years afterward We have two twobeaut twobeaut twobeaut beaut ful g ris rls e a ght and five We Wefour Wefour , four have been inseparable lovmg loving lovmgadm lovingadm lovingadm adm ring nng each other al vays happy happytogether happytogether happytogether together Seven months ago there thereI therewas therewas I was a changeThe changeThe change changeThe The girl who has taken my place place1m placein in my husband s heart is only 18 18She 18She 18She 1m She is orphaned my husband sward s sward ; ward She is very beautiful InDO inno InDOcent innocent innocent cent and artless in m manner and andr r ch To Robert the thought of pos possess possess possess sess ng all this lovel ness youth youthcharm youthcharm youthcharm charm and the addedindependence added Independence independenceis 15 is ev dently acting actmg 1 I ke a"1 a1 aM a " mtox mto'c mtoc mtoxcatlng mto'ceating intoxeating ' catlng eating wine wme He is as completely be bew bew bew w tched Alma makes no secret of ofher ofher ofher her pass onate devoton devot on to hIm ham hImS hamS himS S nee nce rice she was very small she has hasbeen hasbeen hasbeen been in m the hab t of k ssmg sling h m mSltt msett msitt Sltt sett ng on h s ! knee mee ruffling rufflmg his Ius haJr hair haJrShe hairShe hairShe She cont nues all this All this t me meunbl meuntil meuntil unbl until now no\\ no nohe \ he has regarded her as asmerely asmerely asmerely merely another child but no v he hewants hewants hewants wants her for his wife wLfe wifeIt wifeIt Itevcr It ! \ Never \evcr evcr Lasts LastsI I know the wreckage ot of his life lifethat lifethat lifethat that would follow th s step Alma Almais IS shallo v flirtatious self selt centered centeredas as most I 1 1 ttle beaut es ot of her age ageShe ageShe ageShe She loves to pout and tease she shewants shewants shewants wants to go to Holly sood \ ood to study studyfor studyfor studytor for the films fllms and he has promised promisedto to take her it If of only Sally will be an anangel anangel anangel angel and nd say yes H s mfatuat infatuat on onfor onfor onfor for her will last only as long as asshe asshe asshe she chooses to flatter him ham and be besweet besweet besweet sweet then some younger yotllJger manV1ll man \V1ll V1ll will V1llcome willcome \ willcome come along and Rob reputation and andI andpractice andpractice andpractice I practice destroyed wife wLfe and ch eh Idren ldren Idrenahenated ldrenalienated Idreaalienated ahenated alienated w U 11 ll be left in m an the rums ruins of ofh ath , h s own life Rob is just 40I 40The 40The 40 40The I I The alternative to my shrieking shriekingat at him hlffi as I somet mes want to do doTake doTake doTake Take her and get out I never neveri neverwant neverwant neverwant i want to see ether c a ther of you Idiots Idiotsagam idiotsagain idiotsagain agam again is the b tter one of [ liv I1v iv ng rig ngw rigw ngw w th a s silent ent resentful man wbose whose wboseI wbosea whosealt whoseatt I a alt tt tude Jude will be that I have destroyed destroyedhis destroyedhas destroyedhis his has one chance for happiness happmess in an We life WeThat lifeThat lifeThat That my own life is destroyed I Iknow Iknow I1-Jiow I1 Jiow know - But there are my girls inno innocent innocent innocent cent and sweet and completely un tin tinconscious unconscIous unconscious conscIous of all this Until very verylately verylately verylately lately the r father s devot on to tothem tothem tothem them from the very hour of the r rb rb rb b rth has been the admiration of ofaU ofall ofall aU all our friends friendsi i I can send Alma away indeed mdeed it itis itis IS already arranged that she is as to togo togo go to a dramat c school in m south southem southera ern em Cal torma forma But what sort of a ahusband ahusband husband would I have after all this this7What ? ' What am I to do do7 do7Divorce ' Divorce w will l only bring brmg misery to toyou toyou toyou you Sally and in m the long r > run rem m to tohlffi tohim tohim hlffi him too |