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Show GOOD TASTE TASTEIi TASTETODAY Ii IiTODAY TODAY TODAYby , 'EMIL EMIL 'EMILY 'EMILPOST ' MILY EMILY by byEMILY Y POSTWorld POST POSTWorld Worlds World s Foremost Authorityon Authontyon Authonty on Etiquette Ef1queH @ Emily EmUy Posto.ece.e.eee.o.eeecoeo Post PostDad's o.ece.e.eee.o.eeecoeo oeceeeeeo.eeecoeo oeceeeeeoeeecoeo . . . . . . . . . . . . . .0 0 . . . . . . . . . . o.ece.e.eee.o.eeecoeoDad's Dad's Dads ' Birthday Party PartyRaises PartyRaises Rai.ses Raises . Note ProblemD ProblemEAR Problem DEAR D EAR l\lrs l lrs Mrs \ . Post : Will you pleaso please pleasowrIte pleasewrite / write a form of invitation forus for forus forus us under the . following followmg circum circvm circumstances . stances ? I am one of four children childrenonly , I Ionly only one of us married , who want wantto wantto wantto to gi-c gi c gi"c gic gI-e e - " - a party In honor of my fa- fa father's fatiter's fa father's - - ther's thers titer's titers ' birthday , although I supposeIt supposoit supposo it would be better bettcr not to mention mentionthc mentionthe mentionthe thc the occasion . We Wc would like hke to wrIto write writethe wrItothe writethe the invititions InvlhUons invitltlons by hand on small smallSlZcd smallsized smallsized SlZcd sized note paper papcr stamped with our ourhouse ourhouse ourhouse house address . While Whilo wo we are ask asking . ing at least lC1.st lC1st Icist . 75 15 ' people we want the theInvitation theinvitation theinvitation Invitation to sound as friendly and andlntormal andInformal andInformal lntormal Informal as possible . Answer . I would suggest that each eachone eachone eachone one of you write notes to your own otvn ownpersonal otvnpersonal ownpersonal personal friends frlcnds , and that thatwhoever thatwhoeverhas , . whoever whoeverhas has most time and perhaps neatest neatesthandwrltmg neatesthandwriting neatesthandwriting handwrltmg handwriting also write those to your yourfather's yourfather's yourfather's yourfathers father's fathers ' friends and relatives , fol- fol following fol following . - lowing lowmg this th1s general wording wording"Mary wording"Mary wordingMary * . "Mary Mary " , Jim , Bob and I are havinga havmga havmg having a party tor for father , on Sunday after after- afternoon afternoon afternoon - noon , January 31st Won't Wont ' you come comein comem in between four and six o'clock oclock o'clock"As oclockAs ' ? " As you notice , I have left the birth birth- birthday birthday . - day out , but this does not mean meanthat meanthat meanthat that I think thmk it improper to write wnte , ' , Mary , Jim , Bob and I are having havmg a abIrthday abirthday abirthday bIrthday party for father . . . "because because " because those who know him hun very veryvell verywell verywell \vell vell well \ and know it is his birthday will willprobably willprobably willprobably probably bring brmg him hun hum a present , , , and andthIS andthis andthis thIS might make others who are arevery arevery arevery very fond of him and would have havehked haveliked haveliked hked liked to remember his lus birthday feel feelthat feelthat feelthat that they have come empty handed handedOn handedOn handedOn On the other hand , in going gomg to a abIrthday abirthday abirthday bIrthday party of any size no one oneshould oneshould oneshould should feel obliged obhged to take a pres- pres present pres present - . ent . . . . A Al Aie , e Parents Obligated Obligatedfor for Children9 Children's Childrens ' s Visits ? D BEAR DEAR EAR Mrs l\lrs l lrs \ . Post : What Is my po- po position positlon po position - sition sitlon regarding regardmg the parents of offriends offriends offriends friends of my daughter ? She Is at atcollege atcollege atcollege college far away and goes home homefrequently homefrequently homefrequently frequently with the girls whoso whose whosohomes whosehomes whosehomes homes are arc closer to the school . She Shesometimes Shesometimes Shesometimes sometimes mentions In iii her letters lettershome lettershome lettershome home that these girls ' parents are aregomg aregoing aregoing gomg going to New York on a hobday holiday holidayand , and as we live In the environs of ofNew ofNew ofNew New York ' I'm Im ' wondering whether it itIs itis itis Is expected that we extend some somekmd somekind somekind kmd kind of hospitality hospitahty to the parents at atsuch atsuch atsuch such times . Answer . Your real obligation obhgabon is in inencouragmg Inencouraging inencouraging encouragmg encouraging her to invite lDvlte these gIrls gIrlshome girlshome girlshome home with her when they have havelonger havelonger havelonger longer recesses or perhaps to let lether lether lether her ask them to come between betweenschool betweenschool betweenschool school terms when they can stay staylonger staylonger staylonger longer But why don't dont ' you ask her herwhether herwhether herwhether whether she wants you to ' show 'Show par par- particular particular . - ticular tlcular hospitably hospltahty hospitality to the parents she sheknows sheknows sheknows knows especially especlany v/ell v ell well / , and wha what t she shesuggests shesuggests shesuggests suggests She knows what type of ofpeople ofpeople ofpeople people they are and whether they theyhave theyhave theyhave have friends m ill in New York , or on onthe onthe onthe the other hand , whether they are aregomg aregoing aregoing gomg going as strangers or whether the themothers themothers themothers mothers arc are likely lIhely to be alone whIle whIletheIr whiletheir whiletheir theIr husbands attend to business businessor , or just what the individual mdIvldual situa sltua situa- situations situations . - tions tlons are . S * . . Note Is Mandatory lIIandatory . r\ r rEAR \ EAR \ Mrs l\lrs l lrs . Post : A man I knowspent knowspent know DEAR D L ' spent a week-end week end week.end weekend - . at my mar- mar marI marrled married mar-nedi mar nedi - rled ried brother's brothers ' house . \ My l\ly l ly slster-m- slster m sister-in- sister in sisterinlaw slstermlaw sister-m-law sister m law - - law bad had let me mc ask him so that my myvisit myvisit myvisit visit would be more pleasant . She Sheand Sheand and my brother certainly put them them- themselves themselves themselves - selves out to entertain entertam us . I feel feelthat feelthat feelthat that the least my friend can do Is Iswrite Iswrite iswrite write her a note , which I happen happento to know he hasn't hasnt ' done . Is there a away away away way I could remind him 111m to wrlto write wrltoher writeher writeher her , because his Ius thoughtlessness thoughtlessnesscertaInly thoughtlessnesscertainly thoughtlessnesscertainly certaInly puts me m in a baa baCl bau light bght ? Answer . I can think of nothmg nothing nothmgelse nothingelse nothingelse else to do except e\.cept e.cept e .cept cept ' \ . say to him , "I I "Ihate "Ihate "Ihate Ihate " hate to ask you to write another anotherone anotherone anotherone one , but my sister in m law never got gotyour gotyour gotyour your letter . " Then he will probably probablysay probablysay probablysay say , What 'What * ' letter7 letter ? ' " and you an- an answer an answer . - swer , "Why Why " , didn't didnt ' you write and andsay andsay andsay say anything anythmg for that pleasant week week- weekend weekend - . end we had ? " And that is thatiS thatiButter thati that ! . . S . Butter Balls RemainDEAR RemainD RemainEAR Remain RemainT DEAR D T EAR . Mrs l\Irs l Irs \ . Post : lias Das Has the voguefor voguefor vogue L ' for "butter butter " balls " gone out outSeveral ? Se\ Se Seeral Several \ eral years ago it seemed that thatevery thatevery thatevery every hostess served fancy desIgns designsof of individual butter portions but to- to today today to today - - day I never see them anywhere . Answer . No , I think butter balls ballsare ballsare ballsare are : ; still hll seen in many houses al- al although al- al although al although - - though it is true that in ill quite as asmany asmany asmany many others butter is simply sunply cut cutneatly cutneatly cutneatly neatly into mto squares The reason IS ISprobably isprobably isprobably probably that of tune time saving savmg since sincevery sincevery sinesvery very few of us have as many serv serv- servants serv- serv servants servants - - ants as we used to One might , in infact infact infact fact , say that comparatively few fewhave fewhave fewhave have any . . . . - Better Late TIian Than NeverDEAR NeverD NeverEAR Never NeverBEAR D BEAR DEAR EAR \ Mrs l\lrs l lrs . Post : Is one sup- sup supposed supposed sup"posed supposed " - posed to be able to hold over oversocIal oversocial oversocial socIal obligations from one ono season seasonto seasonto seasonto to the next ? I should ha\ ha hate hae base \ e enter enter- entertained entertained entertained - tained several new friends last last5pring lastspring lastspring 5pring spring but had no money to give a aparty aparty aparty party of any kuid kmd kind then . I'm Im ' wonder wonder- - wonderlug wondcr-lug wondcr lug - . Ing lug if now , which wIuch Is 15 the first it has hasbeen hasbeen hasbeen been possible , would be l.onsldered lonsldered considered l.onslderedtoo consideredtoo . consideredtoo too late to repay rcpar ; these kindnesses kmdncsses ? Answer ' . Not at all There is no nohme notime notime hme time limit IImit on any return you want wantto wantto wantto to make After Mter all , there are so somany somany somany many reasons \ why \ y we may not be benble beable benble nble able to do v/hat v hat what whate / w \ we \\e e e want to when whenv whenvie whenv.e whenve v . vie . e want toWNU toWNU to toWNU WNU Service I |