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Show WOAIEN WOMEN TflHO H POISON THEAlSELVES THEMSELVES s ' d dp dy y p l f ! I . , , { , 1 b bi i , , t t / , , t , ) I l lid lidi i , ' a - 17 } li 1 1L -j\ j - ' \ ji jEvery L i l Every time lie goes out of the house she czls after him spitefully spitefully"All "All All " right , go to your J'tn Jtn ' " By KATHLEEN KATIILIIN : : NORRISIF NORRISF NORRIS NORRISBF F A bottle of slow poison pOlson stood stoodm stoodin stoodin BF IF m in the medicine medlcme closet of her herhome herhome herhome home , no v . woman oman \ would ould go gothere gothere gothere there hourly and take a spoon spoon- spoonful spoonful spoonful - ful of ItBut itBut it itBut But there is another kind of poi POl- POl POlson poi- poi poison poison - - son , more dreadful dreLldft in m its eITects effects effectsthat , that thousands of women keep on ontLlP ontap ontap tLlP tap and take regularly . It is JS the thepOlson thepoison thepoison pOlson poison called jealousy And jeal Jeal- Jealousy jealousy jealousy - ousy and insanity msamty are first cousmsOne cousmsOne cousms cousmsOne One woman I knew was not par par- partIcularly particularly particularly - ticularly fond of her husband untIl untIlanother untilanother untilanother another woman wanted him Then Thenshe Thenshe Thenshe she writhed whimpered , , foamed foamedI foamedWJth foamedwith foamedwith WJth with all the symptoms o 0 * " ' a disor dIsor- dIsordered disordered disordered - - I dered mind mmd She set traps trdps for him himshe , , she tried to bribe his office nurse nurseto nurseto nurseto to spy on him , , she bored everyone everyoneshe every one oneshe oneshe she knew with hysterical outbursts outburstsof of rage When the other woman was wasmentIoned wasmentioned wasmentioned mentIoned she became actually sm- sm sin- sin smIsler sinister sin sinister - ister Isler , she . knew h.new hnew it for a fact that thatMarian thatMarian thatMarian Marian cheated at cards , she knew knewIt knewit knewit It for a fact that thLlt Marian MarILIn wasn't wasnt wasn'tstI wasn'tsti wasn'tstiaight wasntstiaight ' stI aIght , , , she knew h.ne\\ h.ne knets h.nee . \ \ e\ e et eer e\cri e cri \ er era thing thmg dIS- dIS dISagreeable disagreeable dis disagreeable - - agreeable that could be llTlagmed imagined llTlagmedabout imaginedabout imaginedabout about Marian MarILIn Some one hLlppened happened happenedto hLlppenedto to < : speak peLlk of Marian's Marians MarILIn's MarILIns ' child ' Ha , she's shes ' defective , you know know"said knowsaid " ' " sLlld said the discarded wife , with a alaugh alaugh alaugh laugh ' The poor little thmg'U thmgU thmg'll thmgll ' nev nev- never never never - er be normal " ' " The husband was wasmentIoned wasmentioned wasmentioned mentIoned ' ' I hear John's Johns ' ' weanng wearing weanngcorsets wearingcorsets wearingcorsets corsets and having hLlvmg his face Wted lifted lifted"the liftedthe , , " I the jealous wife wile screamed rather ratherthan ratherthan ratherthan than said , , with peals of laughter . . And this was a quiet qUlet , , apparently apparentlypleasant apparentlypleasant apparentlypleasant pleasant woman who never before beforehLld beforehad beforehad hLld had shown any signs of the volcLlno volcano volcLlnothat volcanothat volcanothat that was ready reLldy to burst forth at the thefirst thefirst thefirst first touch of jealousy JeLllousy jealousyIn JeLllousyIn In the old days , when home and andchurch andchurch andchurch church influences mfluences took care of chil chil- children's chil- chil children's children's - - dren's drens ' morals , gIrls-and gIrls and girls - and Jealousy jealousyis . IS rather a feminine femmme feminme characteristicgirls characteristic , , I Igirls -girls girls - girls grew up conscious that It itwas itwas . WLIS was a pitfall , and determined determmed to tofight tofight tofight fight it ' Look Looh . out , my girls . , " writes the thefather thefather thefather father m 10 in "Little Little " Women , " from a aCIVil aCivil aCivil CIVil War camp CLlmp , "I I " want each one oneof oneof oneof of you to fight her bosom enemy . " It's Its ' an old fashioned phrase , our ourchildren ourchildren : ch children dren drenouldn't \ wouldn't wouldnt \\ouldn't ouldn't ouldnt ' ' know what whLlt we wewere wewere wewere were talking talkmg about if 1 we rem10dcd reminded rem10dcdthem remindedthem remindedthem them to fight their thclr bosom enemies ; ; I no one ever has told them that with wIth- wIthIn within within - in each one of us lie he the powers powersthat powersthat powersthat that can destroy our very soulsSex souls soulsSex Sex Se'C SeC ' jealousy is JS perhaps the most mostpOlgnantb mostpoignantly mostpoignantly pOlgnantb poignantly painful pamful and destructive destructiveof of all ; ; it is 1s the only sort of Jealousy Jealousymen jealousymen jealousymen men ever seem to feel It is the thetragedy thetragedy thetragedy tragedy of its agonies agomes that thLlt it de- de destroys destroys de destroys - - stroys m the man mLln or woman who whogIves whogives whogives gIves way to ItIt itIt it itIt It is curable A jealous woman womanmay womanmay womanmay may emerge from this fiery trIal trIalall trialall trialall all the stronger and finer for it , but butvery butvery butvery very few mothers seriously analyze analyzetheir analyzetheir analyzetheir their children's childrens ' characters m ill in these thesedays thesedays thesedays days , and try to strengthen what IS ISgood isgood isgood good m them , and weed out what IS ISbad isbad isbad bad , so that many wives come to tothe tothe tothe the test completely unfitted unfittc.d unfittcd . for forwhat forwhat forwhat what is a real spiritual crisisRuth crisis crisisRuth Ruth , , for example , , is thirty three threeShe threeShe threeShe She was married nine nme years ago agoand agoand agoand and has two boys , , both m 10 in school schoolShe schoolShe schoolShe She was alv/ays alv ays always / a trifle heavy , , and andshe andshe andshe she has settled now into mto somethmg something somethmglIke somethinglike somethinglike lIke stockmess stockIness , , she was always alwayssomewhat alwayssomewhat alwayssomewhat somewhat unimaginative ummagmatIve , , and she sheIS sheis sheis IS managing manLlgmg this affair affLllr with a com com- complete complete complete - plete lack of imagmationWalter ImagmatIonWLl1ter imagination ImagmatIon imaginationWalter Walter WLl1ter has fallen m in love with thewoman thewoman the woman in m his office , Jane Deane DeaneJane DeaneJane DeaneJane Jane is twenty eight , diorced divorced di\ di dn \ orced . , and andextremely andextremely andextremely extremely plain plam at first view . But Buther Buthers Buthers her hers ' ) is one of those faces that pres pres- presently pres- pres presently presently - - ently seem almost beautiful beauhul ! , m mspIte mspite mspite spIte of a homely big mouth , prom prom- promment promment prominent - inent ment teeth , straight dark hair , sal- sal sallow sallow sal sallow - low skin sIan Jane has hLlS magnIficent magmficent magnIficentgray magmficentgray magnificentgray gray black lashed eyes , a lovely lovelyvoice lovelyvoice lovelyvoice voice , and a delightful dispositionRuth disposition dlsposltlon dispositionRuth Ruth discovered the affair SIX SIXmonths sixmonths sixmonths months ago , , she immediately unmed1ately col col- collapsed collapsed collapsed - lapsed She put up no fight She Shela3 Shelay Shelay la3 lay ior tor days weeping on her bed bedher , , her face grew dark with anger and andsollen andswollen andswollen s\\ollen s ollen swollen \ with tears ; ; she would not notcome notcome notcome come to meals To her little boys boysshe boysshe boysshe she said between bet.een beteen . sobs that Daddy DaddydIdn't Daddydidn't Daddydidn't Daddydidnt dIdn't dIdnt ' ' love them thcm any more , , he was wasin wasin wasin in love with wlth Mrs Deanc Deane , he was wasgoing wasgoing wasgoing going away a\lay a lay affray \ to leave them Once Oncean Oncean Oncean an extremely pretty woman , Ruth Ruthlost Ruthlost Ruthlost lost all semblance of good looks looksshe , she stopped golf golt , she went no- no no - - where ; she put on seventeenpounds seventeenpounds seventeen seventeenpounds pounds . She stubbornly refuses Walter WLllter a adivorce adivorce adivorce divorce , and she continues contmues to make makehis makehis makehis his lIf life wretched at home . Every Everytime Everytime very verytune house she shecalls shecalls shecalls tune time he goes out cut of the calls after aUpr him spitefully : "All All "Allright "Allright Allright " All Allright right , , go to your Janel JLlneI Jane ! " In short shortshe , best calcu calcu- calculated calculated - . she has taken the path lated lLltC'd lLltCd ' to wreck what might be sell- sell sil- sil sellvafed silvaged sal-va&cd sal va&cd vacd , - vafed vaged & ; in m their marriage marrlL1ge , , and to tomake tomake tomake make Walter dislike her . , . Now Nor , No " , , this situation of a husband husbandperhLlps husbandperhaps husbandperhaps -perhLlps perhLlps -perhaps perhaps _ - a good and faiU faithful ul hus- hus husband hus husband - . band , , being strongly attracted to ton'lother toanother toanother n'lother nlother another ' woman-is woman is woman - la one that many married women have had to fLlce face fLlceIn facein facein In the past thirty years , and one onethat onethat onethat that will recur from time to 4ime 4imein 4.imein 4imein . lme lmeIn In the years to come SOClCty Society SOClCtydoesn't Societydoesn't Societydoesn't Societydoesnt doesn't doesnt ' censure him now as once onceit onceit onceit it did , and the lamstead law la\\ la last \ , , instead mstead of hold hold- holdmg holding holding - ing mg him firmly to his marrIage marrIagevows marriagevows marriagevows vows , amiably condones divorce A Afew Afew Afew few weeks in an amusing amusmg and pleas pleas- pleasant pleasant pleasant - ant western city and he is free , not notresponsible notresponsible notresponsible responsible any more for the wom wom- woman woman woman - an and children to whom he has hasbeen hasbeen hasbeen been loved as husband and father fatherfor fatherfor fatherfor for so many years yearsWhatever 5 } earsWhatever ears earsWhatever Whatever the woman does under underthe underthe underthe the circumstances , , she loses ThIS ThISIS Thisis Thisis IS one of the times when she can't cant can'twm can'twin can'twin cantwin ' ' wm win If she holds him he is restless restlessand restlessand restlessand and resentful It If she lets him go goher goher goher her life We is too often rumed by the thebItterness thebitterness thebitterness bItterness , the disillusionment , the thelonelIness theloneliness theloneliness lonelIness , the general disturbance disturbanceof of the whole current of her dLlYs days dLlYsOur daysOur daysOur Our social scheme today permits permitsthe permitsthe permitsthe the man to feel himself acting act10g qUlte quite qUltehonorably quitehonorably quitehonorably honorably when he leaves theIom the \Iom- Iom iom- \ vom-an vom an ioman Ioman - an of whom he is tiled tued tired and goes to totile tothe tothe tile the new love , and his discarded discardedwIfe discardedwife discardedwife wIfe is only setting settmg herself herselt agaInst agaInstthe againstthe againstthe the current when she protestsBut protestsBut protests protestsBut But all the same she doesn't doesnt ' have haveto haveto haveto to let him go if she doesn't doesnt ' want wantto wantto wantto to Nine times out of ten the smart smarter smartor smartcr er or thing thmg , , the thing thmg that tbat makes for forhappmess forhappiness forhappiness happmess happiness in the end , , is NOT to let lethim lethim lethim him go Ruth may know in her herheart herheart herheart heart that Walter is making makmg a fool foolof foolof toolof of himself hlmseli , , that what whLlt he feels for forJane forJane forJane Jane Janeon't \ won't wont \\on't on't ont ' ' last , , that Jane couldn't couldnt couldn'tmake couldn'tmake couldn'tmake couldntmake ' ' make him a good wife wlie , , or Llny any Llnyman anyman anyman man a good wIfeRuth's wifeRuth's wife wifeRuth's Ruth's Ruths ' ' course , , it 1 if she wants to tohandle tohandle tohandle handle the whole thing thmg mtelhgently intelligently intelligentlyis , IS to make mLlh.e mLlhe . home pleasanter pleLlsJ.nter pleLlsJnter . than thanever thanever thanever ever ; to be always ahvLlYs serene and PLl- PLl pa- pa PLltIent patient pa patient - tient , . to bide her time Her course courseIS courseis IS to make mah.e mahe . herself herselt charming charmmg , not notfor notfor notfor for Walter , for he won't wont ' see her at atall atall atall all for a\\h a h awhile \ e , but on general prin prIn- prIncIples principles principles - ciples Her course is to keep her her- herself herself herself - self busy , find work inside mSlde the house houseand houseand houseand and out that interests 10terests her , that Wts lifts liftsher Wtsher liftsher her a little bit above the narrow narrowC'Ircle narrowcircle narrowcircle C'Ircle CIrcle ' of home Ruth attracted attrLlcted Wal Walter Walter Waltor ter once against agamst all comers ; the themost themost themost most sacred hours of life are those thoseassocIated thoseassociated thoseassociated assocIated with her , , whether he hemarries hemarries hemarries marries Jane or doesn't doesnt ' ' the hour hourIS houris houris IS going gomg to come when he sees Ruth Ruthill Ruthm Ruthm ill m the old hghtAnd lightAnd light hght lightAnd And then m 10 in a few years we have havethe havethe havethe havetheery the \ery ery eery \ ery ordinary ordmary spectacle of a ahusband ahusband ahusband husband pretending pretendmg that his p\sslon p sslon psslonfor p ' \ tssion tssionfor sslonfor for Jane was just warm frIendshIp friendshipforgetting , , forgettmg forgetting completely that he asked askedRuth askedRuth askedRuth Ruth to set him free , restored to tothe tothe tothe the home circle and to his wrle's wrles wife's wifes wrle'saffectIons wife'saffections wife'saffections wifesaffections wife'saffectionsBut ' affectIons affectIonsBut But the wife wue has to get rid of ofthe ofthe ofthe the last shred of jealousy before beforeshe beforeshe beforeshe she can succeed in this sort of cam cam- campLlIgn campaign campaign - paign pLlIgn She has to see sec . the other otherwoman's otherwoman's otherwoman's otherwomans woman's womans ' viewpoint vlewpomt to realize that thatall thatall thatall all of us , all our lives long , are get get- gettmg gettmg getting - ting tmg humiliating hUllulIat10g jolts and shocks ; to say to herself that what happens happensto to so many other women may well wellhappen wellhappen wellhappen happen to her She has to aban abLln- abLln abLlndon aban- aban abandon abandon - - don all hope of recriminations recrunmLltIons and andreproaches andreproaches andreproaches reproaches until the heat heLlt of the af- af affaIr affair af affair - - fair has long died away a\\ay a ay \ , . and treLlt treat treLltIt treatit treatit It as she v/ould v ould would / a fever , . . Such a aWlle awife awife Wlle wife can be reasonably reLlsonably sure of a asuccessful asuccessful asuccessful successful ending endmg , , and what else elsematters elsematters elsematters9 matters ? ' And when the skies ale are aleclear areclear aieclear clear again agam : . she .he he will have to rc refrain refrainfrom refrainfrom ram ramfrom from triumph ; this defection defectlon m in her herhusband herhusband herhusband husband is no more serious than her herown herown herown own detects defects as a wife wJfe , , if he has hasfmled hasfailed hasfailed fmled failed her signally m ill in one way WLlY , she shehas shehas shehas has tailed falled failed him in 10 a score of oUter others othersShe othersShe . She has kept his Lie We life dull when It |