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Show JEALOUSY THE PITFALL OF THE 4- 4 4MARRIED - MARRIED THIRTIES THIRTIESk /k k / , ; , - \ ' I IL I L\ L LI \ I ' \j j \ Lj j"You've "You've Youve " ' grown away from me , Harod Harold ] , " she presently finds opportunity opportunityto to say to wm him trcmbling1y tremblingly . "Oh Oh " , ycs yes you havc have ; don't dont ' . , try to deny It ' You ncvcr never want to do anything with me any more " ' By KATHLEEN KATHLEIN : NORRISWHEN NOItEISW NOItEISHEN NORRIS NOItEIS NORRISBHEN : HEN v/omen v omen women / speak of ofJealousy ofealousy ofjealousy WHEN W BHEN Jealousy ealousy ) m in marriage narriage they theyusually theyusually they/ they theyusually I . / usually think tlunk of that rather ratherflattermg ratherflattering ratherflattering flattermg flattering and exciting con con- condItIon condition condition - I dition of affairs when the adormg adoring adormgmale adoringmale adoringmale male smashes china chma and grits lus his lusteeth histeeth histeeth I teeth while muttering muttermg . "You You " can't cant can'tdance can'tdance can'tdance cantdance ' dance with wlth him hun hurt again agam , , you provok provok- provoking provoklug provoking - - ing lug little beauty , , or ' I'll Ill ' ' break ever everj everjbone everybone ; ' " ' " bone m in your exquisite exqwsIte body This is the jealousy of movies moviesand moviesand moviesand and novels . Many a wife of a qUIet quietreasonable , reasonable , unjealous husband se- se secretly secretly se secretly - - cretly wishes that something somethmg of thIS thISsort thissort thissort sort would break the calm of ot her herdomestIc herdomestic herdomestic domestIc security . . It might be rath rath- rather rath- rath rather rather - - er fun to be married to a Jealous Jealousbrute jealousbrute jealousbrute brute for a wlulc"Hc's while"He's while wlulc while"He's "He's Hes "Hc's Hcs " ' insanely msanely ) jealous ealous " ' " re- re me- me reIterates meiterates re reiterates - iterates the idiot girl m in "June June "JuneMoon "JuneMoon "JuneMoon JuneMoon " Moon " complacently . . The audIence audiencesuspects audiencesuspects , suspects by this tius time tune tha that the man manis manis i iis is completely done with her , but butI butshe butshe butshe I she goes on with her placid repe repe- repebbon repe- repe repetition repetition - - " ' " ' " I IWomen tition bbon "He's Hes insanely jealous eaious Women rather like I1ke to think thmk theIr theIrmen theirmen theirmen men arc are jealous ; ; ] jealous Jealou:3 Jealou3 ealous : m in that thatexcltmg thatexciting thatexciting . excltmg exciting , , dramatic dramatlc way that is a atacit atacit tacIt way of saying saymg ' "All All " All the other otherI othermen othermen othermen I men admire adnure my w1 wife vife e But not one oneof oneof oneof of them can get her away from fromme fromme fromme me ' " ' " But this isn't isnt ' ' real jealousy ThIS Thishke , , hke like so many of the other things thmgs we wetlke wetake wetake tlke take ! seriously when we are arc young youngand youngand youngand and m in love , is only one more mask maskheld maskheld maskheld held up before the deceitful face of ofMother ofMother ofMother Mother Nature It is one more moremaneuver moremaneuver moremaneuver maneuver to make mahe men mcn and wom wom- worn- worn women wornen women - en at atttTcetivc attttive bve to each other . . COUl Couit- Couit Couitship Couit-ship Couit ship t- t tShIP - - ShIP is full lull of these little decep decep- dccep- dccep deceptIons dcceptions deceptions - - tions ; his sweetheart's sweethearts s\\eetheart's s eetheart's eethearts sseetheart's sseethearts \ \ ' stammer stammerWlll stammerwill stammerwill Wlll will enchant a man , her bus business businessinefficiencies businessinefficiencies mess messmefficlencles mefficlencles inefficiencies amuse lum him mm , , her tardi tardI- tardIness tardiness tardiness - - ness seems to him just lust an indica mdlca- mdlca indica- mdlcabon indication indication - - tion bon that she is no moic than a adelightful adelightful adelightful delightful baby . . But m in a w1 wife wifestammering e , , stammermg stammering and e extravagance travagance , < and andtardmess andtardiness andtardiness tardmess tardiness somehow lose theIr theIrcharm theircharm theircharm theircharmAnd charm charmAnd And so with Wlth ) jealousy ealousy . . A pIquant pIquantsauce piquantsauce piquantsauce sauce for the engagement , , it proves provesmuch provesmuch provesmuch much too hot a seasoning for the theeveryday theeveryday theeveryday everyday fare of matrimony matrunony It Itbecomes Itbecomes Itbecomes becomes tiresome , stupid , cumber cumber- cumbersome cumbersome cumbersome - - some , a continual contmual annoyance-an annoyance an annoyanceanunnecessary annoyanceanunnecessary annoyance - - anunnecessary . unnecessary trial added to the real realproblems realproblems realproblems . problems of life We The wives of ofjealous ofjealous ofjealous jealous men cirry c\rry c rry ctrry " \ a double bur bur- burdenthey bur- bur burdenthey burden - - den-they den they den - they have to give up much muchthat muchthat muchthat that would be pleasant and valuablem valuablein valuable m in their thell " lives I1ves , frl friendships ( ndshlps , contacts contactsresponsibilities , responsibilitIes , , opportunities opporturntIes for forself forself forself self - expression and development developmentmust developmentmust developmentmust must all aU be sacrificed "Because Because "Becauseyou "Becauseyou " "Becauseyou Becauseyou " you know hIlow hov/ hov how hovHarold / Harold is It makes makeshim makeshim makeshim him perfectly WRETCHED to have haveme haveme haveme me interested mterested m in anything anythmg but him hlll1 " But the husbands of jealous wom wom- worn- worn women wornen women - en have an even harder time Wom Wom- Worn- Worn Women Wornen Women - en are moie mOle often jealous lealous than thanmen thanmen thani men , they have more unagmatIon imagination unagmatIonwhen imaginationwhen imaginationwhen when they are ] jealous ealous , and they theyhave theyhave theyhave have more time bme to think about 11 it 11The itThe itThe The result-or result or result - - or rather rathcr one result of ofthIS ofthis ofthis thIS state of afTalrs-ls afTalrs ls affairs-is affairs is affairs - is the shoal shoalof shoalof shoalof of letters I receive from completely completelywretched completelywretched completelywretched wretched ' wives 'wIves wivesCompletely 'wIvesCompletely ' ives ivesCompletely Completely wretched because becauseJealousy becausejealousy becausejealousy Jealousy is really an insidious mSldlou : . poi POl- POl POlson poi- poi poison poison - - son , , actually affecting afTectmg the body bodycausing , , causmg causing a total upset of the diges dlges- dlges dlgestlve digestive - . tive tlve and ehminative el1mmatIve eliminative functions and anda anda a sort of flurry of the brain bram Wom Wom- Worn- Worn Women Wornen Women - en , seized seIZcd by a ) jealous calous rage , tem tem- tern- tern temporanly ternporarily temporarily - porarily poranly go mad They watch , list lIst- lIsten listen listen - en , , search for evidence m a sort of ofsilent ofsilent ofsilent silent fury ; ; everything everythmg the most m- m in- in mnocent innocent in innocent - nocent man does or says is con con- construed construed construed - strued mto into a damaging damagmg admIssIon admIssIonThe admissionThe admissionThe The woman loses all her charm , all allserewty allserenity allserenity serewty serenity , . all reason Sho She defeats defeatsher defeatsher defeatsher her own ends by making makmg hersel herself herselfhomely herselfbomcly ! tomely homely , , dull dull , , , unattractive unattractlve unattractlveEven unattractiveEven unattractiveEven Even worse than this occasIOnal occasIOnalbur3t occasionalburit occasionalburst bur3t burit of sex jealousy is that morc more morcsubtlc moresubtle moresubtle subtlc subtle form fonn the green eyed monster monstertakes monstertakes monstertakes takes when a wife wile becomes jealous jealousof of : lier her husband's husbands ' life We Not of any anyother anyother anyother other woman , , particularly , , not of ofhIs ofhis ofhis hIs mother or sister or old sweet s'weet- s'weet seet- seet s'weetheut seetheart sweetheart ' ' - - heart heut : fiend ti l ! end ; ; but of everythmgThis everythmgThis everything everythmg everythingThis This phase usually comes along alongin alongin alongin in the thirties A woman's womans ' life We IS IStull isfull isfull tull full of physiological physiologn.al physiolognal physiologit.al physiologital . . and psychologI psychological cal crises , , and this is one of them themHaving themHaving themHaving Having had everything everyUung her own way wayfor wayfor wayfor for thirty five ; } 3 , . ears , , she feels fecls a sud sud- sudden sud- sud sudden sudden - - den lull m in her affairs afTalrs , and when she shereallzes sherealizes sherealizes reallzes realizes that that lull has not come cometo cometo cometo to her husband she resents the situ sItu- sItuation situation situation - ation , . , and acute ncute and sometimes sometunes fa- fa fata fatal fa fata - - tal ta ] ] ] jealousy ealousy is the resultHer resultHer result resultHer Her household is running rwmmg smooth smooth- smoothly smoothly * . - ly , her children are arc m in schools , her herI herlife herlife I life e is bounded by a comfortable comfortablehome comfortablehome comfortablehome home , a car , a club , buying bUYll1g heavy heavycJothes heavyclothes heavyclothes cJothes clothes in autumn , , light Jight clothes In Inspring inspring inspring spring , , making makmg club reports and andhOSPItal andhospital andhospital hOSPItal calls , , selecting seectmg ] ChrIstmas ChrIstmaspresents Christmaspresents Christmaspresents presents andordermg andordering and ordering ordermg dumcrs dinners dinnersCrowing , , growmg growing older every mmute-good mmute good n-unute---good n unute minute - - - - - good heavens , how boring bormg it allIs all is ' Her HerfrIends Herfriends Herfriends frIends are all domg doing the same samething samething thmg thing There's Theres ' ' no escape , , the JOY JOYRnd joyand oy oyand Rnd and glamour and excitement of lie life lieare lifeare ! lifeare are over , , and she is just that nice niceMrs niceMrs niceMrs Mrs Harold Baker whose little I1ttle gIrlS gIrlSare girlsare girlsare are finishing fimshmg grammar schoolProfoundly schoolProfoundly school schoolProfoundly Profoundly discontent , she looks looksat looksat looksat at her partner , , that pleasant young youngHarolc1 youngHarold youngHarold Harolc1 Harold Baker that she met at Rho Rhoda's Bhoda's Bhodas Rhoda's da's das ' ' fifteen fi1tepn years ago , , and per per- percClves perceives perceives - ceives cClves , to her resentment , that he heIS heis heis IS just reaching reachmg the point pomt when We life WeIS lifeis lifeis IS all nll pleasant and satisfying satIsfymg to tolum tohnn tohim lum hnn The bus business mess that was for so somany somany somany many years a question of hard work workdn workand workand dn and humiliations , , is running runnmg more moresmQothly moresmoothly moresmoothly smQothly smoothly . , Baker is one of our best bestmell bestmen bestmen mell men , Baker is the man for the pro pro- promob proniotion promotion - - mob motion niotion on The children , who used to tocause tocause cause such anxious aIDJOUS consultatIons consultationswhose , , whose coughs and measles and andbumps andbumps andbumps bumps and naughtiness naughtmess broke brohe m- m in- in mto into in into - to so many plans by day and so somany somany somany many hours of sleep by night , are arefnendly arefriendly arefriendly fnendly friendly little craft sailing sallmg tbeir tbelr their own ownwaters ownwaters ownwaters waters now . , . . He plays good bridge , . , his golf golfat golfat gouat at least provides endless hours of ofcOIr'pmlCnshlp ofcorrpanionship olcompanionship cOIr'pmlCnshlp cOIrpmlCnshlp corrpanionship ' : with his kind in m the theop2'n theop2ii theopsn \ op2'n op2n op2ii ' air , he goes on business busmess trIps tripshunting , huntmg hunting fishing fishmg week ends He goes goesto goesto goesto ' . to stdg steig stag dinners dmners at the club Healthy Healthyand Healthyand Healthyand and interested mterested and busy , , m his lus rosi rOSI- rOSIest rosi- rosi rosiest rosiest - - est , , most invigorated mVlgorated mood , , he hecomes hecomes hecomes ' comes down to a pale , , fretted wIfe wIfeat wifeat wifeat at breakfast He's Hes ' going gomg to lunch lunchWIth lunchwith lunchwith . WIth Smith and clinch clmch that order orderhe's orderhes , he's hes ' going gomg up with Jones to look lookat lookat lookat : at that new club site ; ; they'll theyll ' ' get a abite abite abite bite of dinner dmner at the club He ha- ha haha's haha's ha-ha's ha ha's has - - ha's has ' ' over the day's days ' ' comic strip , , he heappro"cs heappro'es heI approves appro"cs approcs appro'es approes " ' of the stock market , he hehas hehas hehas ' has a httle lIttle flirtation furtatIOn with his young young- younger younger younger - er daughter , . who ends it with an , , I II ' I love you Dad , , " that sends hIm hImawav himaway himawav awav away hummingHIS hummingHis humming hummingHis His wife looks looh.s loohs . on at all this withI wItha wIth a jaundiced Janndlced 3aundiced eye Stag dinners dmners md and andlodge : andlodge mdlodge lodge meetings and golf gol ! games and andbrIdge andbridge andbridge brIdge clubs indeed mdeed ' "You're Youre "You.rc You.rc Yourc " . ' ' grown away from me me.Hirold meHirold . , . H\rold H rold H-trold trold ' \ - , . " she presently finds oppor oppor- opportumty opportunity opportunity - - tunity tumty to say sny to him tremblmgly ' Oh , yes you have , don't dont ' deny It itYou it'You itYou ' You never want to do anythmg anythmgwllh anythmgwith anythingwith : wllh with me any more You've Youve ' always alwaysgot alwaysgot alwaysgot got plans of your own ' I'm Im ' ' at athome athome athome ; home WI with th the children cluldrcn , , cooking cookrng and andmakmg andmaking andmaking makmg making beds- beds bedsTills bedsThis beds - " This Tills goes on for a long time bme It Itmakes Itmakes Itmakes . makes the man uncomfortable , he hehnows heknows heknows ; hnows knows it isn't isnt ' fair somehow , but he hedoesn't hedoesn't hedoesn't hedoesnt ! doesn't doesnt ' ' knov/ knov know knovwhat / what to do about It ItIt itIt itIt It makes the woman even more moremIserable moremiserable moremiserable ' mIserable than she was , , and , , hav hav- hay- hay havmg haying having - ing mg manufactured the situation sItuatlon , she sheproceeds sheproceeds sheproceeds proceeds to enlarge upon it untll until untllshe untilshe untilshe ; she feels like hke an actual martyr martyrbet:1UQe martyrbec.auqe martyrbecause bet:1UQe bet1UQe bec.auqe becauqe . . : she is self sel ! centered and andJealvus andeaious andjealous Jealvus ] eaious , , and her husband happens happensto to be a normal human being who whohas whohas whohas has earned eax-ned eax ned - his freedom , earned hIS hISrecreatIOns hisrecreations hisrecreations recreatIOns and satisfactions , and andIS andis andis IS enjoying cnJovmg themThe themThe them themThe The answer is that we women womenhave womenhave womenhave have to adjust ourselves to the thechangmg thechanging thechanging changmg changing conditions of 01 our I1ves lives I1vesGnce livescnce livescnce Gnce cnce .n n . * n about every ten tcn years We Weh.1ve Weh.ive Wehave h.1ve h1ve h.ive hive . . to examine examme our own souls se sevClely sevoicly sevcicly vClely voicly , m in the light I1ght of truth truUI anc1 and anc1common andcommon andcommon common sense , , and ask ourselves ourselvesif If ' we 'we we ' e are behaving behavmg like I1ke |