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Show OURCHILDREN OUR CHILDREN CHILDRENBy By ANGELO PATR1 PATRl PATIU PATR1"YOU _ AM-F.M AMF.M AM F.M FM .M M . - . . . NH _ N.My.IM.M.M-My.W.4 NMyIMMMMyW.4 N.My.IM.M.M NMyIMMM My.W.4 MyW4 . _ . . .M- .M . .M"YOU . _ . . - _ . . _ . . . _ M MMM . -MM MM - MM"You _ "YOU YOU " DO IT " ti'tXT'llAT titXTllAT tcMAT cc tc ' ' MAT are you nnking m\hlng m hlng maLing ' \ all an the thetuss thevv WHAT ccWHAT tcW W tuss ahout about . , Dick OIc1i ? You can tie tieyour tieyour tieyour your shoe If It you JOU wint want \ 1.nt 1nt . to " . "I I " ' 1 can t . t . . I did try . It's Its ' too hard hardtor hardfor hardfor tor for meto me to " to"It " "It It " Isn Isnt t hard It's Its ' ' easy enough enoughonce enoughonce enoughonce once iou Sou ou set your mind to It . . . " 'Is Is ' It eisy e'1sy e1sy easy ' ? ' "les les 'Iles Iles ' " 1 es Casy L'asy Lasy C ' lsy < as can lfiD be " . "Then Then 'Then " ' you do it It . . It Its s bird b'1rd b1rd hard ' for me " 'Things Things Ifhlns ' . ; that are easy to us are dim dlm dimcult dlmcult dlIlcult ( cult for children They have bave to make makeAn makean makenn An effort to adjust their muscles tor for torthe forthe forthe the task tasl They Dare have bare to think about aboutnnd aboutand aboutand nnd and direct every eery ever e\ e \ ery move . . . A wroD6 wron svron ? motion , and It la Is easy tor for tora fora fora a child to make mnke one sends a whole wholeserIes wholeseries wholeseries serIes of ot mo\ mo movements moements mosements \ ements the wrong way way.Dick wayDick . DleI Dick ( was pissing p'1SSlDg p1SSlDg ' his shoe string strmg over overInste.1d overinstead overInstead Inste.1d Inste1d instead . of under and that thnt made It 1m im 1mpossible impossible Impossible possible for him to tie the knot not _ . As Assoon Assoon Assoon soon as that one motion had hnd been set setrlhht setright setrl rlhht right ht he tied the knot hnot Loot easily enslly ensllySome easilySome easilySome Some children tire sooner than oth 0th others 0thers others ers For ror them effort Is anno anno3in annovlne-filey annovlne filey Int > , riley They - Hill \ nil III ) escape escnpe it If they can and andIf andif andIf If the the3 ( hev form the hibit h'1blt h1blt habit ' of calling for forhelp forhelp forhelp help at the farst first bl"n bln sln bi " ? n of trouble they theywill \ + + III ill not gun giro PO\\ PO potter POer power \ er I let et the child try tryto tryto tryto to do his Job 11 \ \ \ hen he be crle cries for help helphold helphold helphold hold jour sour hind h'1nd h1nd hand ' Watch IVatch what he does doesand doesind 1IHJ and ' find the diniciilty dllliculty difitculty Set that right rightencournge rightencourage rightencourage encournge encourage him to ' : go :0 0 ahead ahlad lie needs needshelp needshelp needshelp help over the hird h'lrd hlrd hard ' place plate but bur he be needs needstu needsto needstu tu to hO io , , o tlie the rest of theav the \ way \\av av wav \ himself himselfIt It helps a child to see grown up upp uppeople uppeople p people ople do the things they expect e"pec1 epec1 eepect " little littleoncs littleones littleones oncs ones to doIl do doMnt Il \ \Mnt Mnt \ h\t h t hat ' \ vou you would have the cbllclren children cbllclrendo childrendo childrendo do and nnd think easy to do , . , you ; ou should shouldelo shoulddo shoulddo elo do yourself jonreelf : If f ( youant you \ want \\ant ant them to tospeal tospeal tospcal speal softly and go gently you must mustspeal mustspeak mustspenk speal speak and and nnd move \ with Ith , pCntlcness Jentleness entleness If Ifyou Ifyou Ifyou you yount wint want \ \nt nt ' \ them to be well mannered manneredyou manneredyou manneredyou you must mnst practice prnctlce hcin heln hein . ; , good mnn man mnnnered mannered mannered nered on all occasions . . . Little children childrenare childrenare childrenare are not reidy re1.dy re1dy ready . to tike t'lle tlle tale ' , 0\ 0 over 0er user \ er grown gron gro\\ gro \ n up uppeoples uppeoples peoples [ 1eople s manners llie\ llie lies 1 lliehive heh'1Ve he\ he \ hive h'1Ve h1Ve have ' to hear hearOU hearyou hearyou you ) OU siy s\y s y say ' \ "How How "flow flow " do iou you ou do ? 'I I ' I 1 am amsorry amsorry amsorry sorry to disturb youVon you " ' . 'Won Won .Won \Von Von \ t yon you yonh'lve youhave youhive h'lve hlve have ' this chiir ch\lr ch lr chair ' \ ? I think thmk you ou \ will 111 be bemore bemore bemore more comfortable ' ' before they say Itfelling Itfelling It Itrolling rolling felling or sho\\ sho shoeing shomg showing \ mg once is not notenough notenough notenough enough \ . lou ou must mllst show many . , m1.ny m1ny many m1.nytimes manytimes minylimes . times for feJr the one tellln telling Show by bysour byvour sour ) our own 0n on 0\\ 0 \ n conduct lOnduct Alt 11I'lt 11Ilt that ( ' the tiling thln6 thin , ; you youIsh youwish \ + \\Ish Ish sish \ the child to do is easv easy eas ) for you } vou ou to todo todo todo do and he be tt \ will 111 ill have more faith in Its Itsbeln itsbelni Itsbelnfc beln belni , possible for him Tlien Then make mnke iteasv It Itesv Iteisv e\sv e sv easv ' \ for him to do by providing provldlnh providlnt , the theright theright theright right atmosphere atmoephere : A child cannot be bep'ltlent bepatlent bepitlent p'ltlent pltlent patlent ' In an atmosphere of Impa lmpa ImpaUence lmpathence Impatiencc Uence thence . . . He Be Ile cannot cnnnot be gentle and well welllUa wellmannered wellmannered lUa mannered "nered nered " In an environment entironment pm Ironment thit th'1t th1t that ' Is Isneither isneither Isneither neither the one nor the tbe otherlIke other \lIke lIke Mike lIkethln.s Mikethlns M ! \ ikethings thln.s thlns . , e'1S e1S easy eisv ' ) for him and he will find findth findthem findthem th them em ' < : so :0 0 o . e . e . eTHE THE CONTRARY CHILDIILDRLV CHILD CHILDillLURCN illLURCN IILDRLV ' \ who ' bo are contrary an andstubborn and CllLLJTIC'J CllLLJTICJ C andC - < stubborn are a great trial trinl to their theirmothers theirmothers theirmothers mothers and nnd eichers te'1chers te1chers teachers ( ' . . . V\ V 11 " Vhen "hen hen \ hen one onecomes onecomes onecomes comes alon alono alone . ; the best hecst thing to do Is Isto isto isto to studv studY him to learn the secret of ofbls ofhis ofhis bls his affliction for an affliction it cer cer- certainly cer- cer certainly certainly - - tainly IsWhen is1Vhen is isWhen When 1Vhen a n child says snys 1 I won t wheth whethet whether whether et er In wordb word1 words : > or actions does not matterhe matterhe matter matterhe -he he - he closes his mind niind and sits Inelde Inside IneldeIn InsideIn Insidein : In the darkness artness , of his anger and fear fearlou fearYou lou \ . ou ne\ ne never neer neser \ er meet the one \ without ssitholit It hOllt the theother theother theother other Anything tint th'lt thlt that ' brings brlns , . : fear fearbrlnls fearbrhni.s fearbrings brlnl-s brlnl s brhni.s brhnis - . uner anger : ; with It It . . . They The ; are twins twinsUntil twinsUntil twinsUntil Until Untile \ we \\e e can help the child free him himself himself himself self of the feir fe'1r fe1r fear ' he cannot come out outand outand outand and pliy phy play He fIe lie Is a prisoner to his hisfear hisfear hisfear fear or as we are terming It now . , hisstubbornness hisstubbornnessChildren his hisstubbornness hisstubbornness stubbornness stubbornnessChildren Children w \ who ho ' ire 'lre lre are not certiin cert'1ln cert1ln certain ' about abouttheir abouttheir abouttheir their power POer PO\\ PO \ er to do whit what n h'lt hlt ' Is asked asted , of ofthem ofthem ofthem them are likely to bilk h'111 h111 balk ' " Thev They hnve have hnvenot havenot havenot not the Po\\ Po power Poer \ er of languifce langu1/e langu1 e Ianguabe . / , to tell us usnIl usall usall nIl all they are feeling We 1Ve have bave to wn wnhim win winhim winhim [ him to trust and confidence conhdence conhclence before be he hewill hewill will \ \ III venture entnre another nnother stepWe stepWe step stepWe We cannot accomplish accoml111sh this b by byscolding bvscolding , } scoldll1g scolding and sh iking Ildng and slapping slappingI slappingAll slappingAll slappingAll I All thit th'1t th1t that ' adds ndds to the difficuiti difficulty dlmcult 1ou 1oucan \ Youcan ou oucan can t expect e"pect epect " a child chiJd to feel fiee free and andbrave andbrave andbrave brave when yon you are raging ragmg at him and andslapping andslapping andslapping slapping him Instead of that tbat wait walt n a nminute aminute aminute minute until your n \ wrath rnth rath cools cooJs and nnd i ) , our ourreason ourreason ourreason reason takes talies hold Wilt W'1lt W1lt Waft ' until you can cansee cansee cansee see this feir fe\r fe r fear ' \ ridden obstructed child childclosed childclosed childclosed closed In the dirkness d'1rlness d1rlness darkness ' , of his un unformpd unformed unformpd formpd formed mind wait nnlt until you are fire sorry sorryfor sorryfor sorryfor for his plight and desire to help him himbefore himbefore himbefore before you speak or move . . Then take tale a good look at him hhn It If Ithe Ifhe Ithe he seems to be enjo enjoying , } Ing his contrary contrarydisposition contrarydisposition dlelw disposition : < ; ltlon say , ver very verv calmly , with as assumed assiimed sumed um ( > d Indifference 'Very Very ' well weB You Youneedn Youneedn Younecdnt needn t , , ' ' and nnd occupy uccupy yourself to the thee theeacluslon theexclusion e eacluslon cluslon of him and his deeds dceds rind r I " lad ladsomething Indsomething something < : onll'thln onllthln ' , : Interesting InteresUn . : to do so th'lt thlt that th'lthis thathis thithis ' his c e3es CVPS , } 's s ( ' follow you and nnd he longs to tobe tobe tobe be at it too When Whpn he sidles sldle along to toSou toiou Sou ou mil 'lnt lnt and ' ! sivs S'l\S S'l Sl S sass ' \ . , , 'I I 'let let ' et me let me " be begraclous begracious graclous raclou but not too effirlve effuQve efl'uaive efluaive ' [ and andsay andsay my say < ' 'If If ' 1f you like IIhe ' ' and nnc1 let him himIn himIn himIn In his Intere Interest < ; t and enthusiasm he hewill heulll will \ \ 111 be released from his bis honds bonds hondsand bondsand bondsand and go merrllv merrily for a time When Nhen you youIInd youfind youInd IInd find ( him In u II a confidin conf1c1ln coufldin ? , . , mood tilk t\lk t lk talk ' \ to tohim tohim tohim him . gently J.cntly Jcntly Tell him if heants he \ wants \\ants ants pants to tohe tohe tohe he glid gl'1c1 gl1c1 glad ' and nnd happv happy he must tind t1ud find a nay way nayIIf wayIIf wayof IIf :1\\ :1 1 :1111 < : sa\lng sa lng wring \ \ 111 Yes acs \ 'S S ( ' . 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