Show ai H f ki K i W KM H mi j tastes of young men and women S by JEAN NEWTON an ha KH ims i M S ka H HM H M T AM concerned about my daugh tor says the young and modern mother of grown up children an unusual girl in many ways she has several admirers and there Is one young man whose courtship Is of long standing of whom she Is very fond so fond in fact that though her interest turns elsewhere it always veers back as to a steady anchor to him he Is a splendid young man and they seem ideally suited to each other in the big things she admits this as well as her affection for him but says she feels she should not con alder marrying him because their tastes are different 1 I like the opera she sass while he likes musical comedy I 1 like serl ous books while he reads hardly anything but trade magazines and the newspapers he hes the same resources and background tor those in teresta that I 1 have but be just doean doesn t care for the same ti lings how would we get along my first reaction was one of pleas ure that young girls today should give thought to such a mitter as corn congeniality of taste in marriage and yet there comes to my mind that theory of who said that we humans do not amp our lives in a course charted by our minds but that it Is invariably our impulse that sways us and our mind that justifies the impulse in other words we do as wish to do and then ue our minds to figure out that it Is right that it seems to me Is what this daughter would do or will do if she loves the young man in question marry him and tell herself in the meantime the many ways in which they are congenial it she does not then her mother need not be con ceded about the waste of a match that was made in heaven 1 incidentally it seems to me that while we laud fhe trend which leads a young girl to know what she wants and to consider what marrage in bolves at the same time we must nat go to the extreme of losing our perspective and our sense of values if two persons meet in all the big things if their hearts meet and their minds meet and their natures meet the various details of their tate in the drama or in music or in books while pertinent need not loom so large unless of course these assume proportions of the greatest importance in the life of either it is true eliat the little things make up ever day living but they are the little bilings of love and consideration and and understanding and compromise not the little things of a particular book review or dramatic criticism A man might share all your tastes in literature and yet not be the man with whom you would care to spend your life if he Is the man with whom you want to spend your life a difference of opinion in some abstract mat may well be of minor importance 0 if 30 bell syndicate |