Show eliy we do what we do by M K THOMSON ph D DISLIKE OF REFORM IT IS very tor to take people as they are and for aliat they are there Is always something we would like to change even fond lovers who are supposed to see no fault often have it in mind to effect certain radical reforms in the beloved quite frequently a woman mar ries a man with the idea of reforming him and invariably discovers that men don t reform worth a cent e all hate to be reformed the process of reformation involves giving up something that Is part of our very being all changes of habits and dis positions are disturbing it Is next to impossible to get out of the old rut e hate to be disturbed we resent the reformer because al reform implies something undesirable that has to be replaced tills Is an insult to our pride and self esteem e are very slow to admit faults and the necessity of change hen we and frankly admit the need of reform we recoil from the idea of another person coming in to administer the potion that ahall make us better there Is clash of egos in which our own Is worsted it may be that we have long been aware of some personal defect an 1 have repeatedly tried in vain to rem edy it this ense of failure and am creates a sensitive spot in us we are on the defensive the mere suggestion of reform recalls all too vividly the unfortunate failure and all the associated unpleasant feelings and emotions e prefer to tell the other fellow how he may improve it there Is any reforming to be done we prefer to do it ourselves on the anulet we hate to be reformed by another person this ts why men should be taught though you taught them not and things unknown things forgot by mcclure newspaper syndicate |