| Show r S L' L c BLAI Letters and questions for this department should be addressed to tob b Miss Betty Blair Hearts Heart's Haven Salt Lake Telegram Write only 4 on one side of the paper It is is necessary to append your name and andS address but these are held in in confidence and will not be published S O Dear Dar ar Miss Blair 2 This is is the first time I have written writ writ- ten en to you and I hope my question isn't too much bother How can I Improve Improve improve my personality I like other Bother girls would like to have friends and especially boy friends When people are not well acquainted acquaint acquaint- ed ed ed- edwith with me they seem to pay a great deal of attention to tome me but after they have taken me out a few times they dont don't pay any attention attentionS S to o me at all so I am thoroughly convinced that I must improve my personality S Thanking you in in advance I Ire Ire- re- re mam in VERY DUMB 4 l S Strange range but I have o two letters asking so much the tIme same question that I 1 am going to answer j you ou both bothin S dont don't mind either of ofu in n one you one you u 1 But flut just a word void Very Dumb before e I write DIssatisfied's Dissatisfied s S 2 Better evidently Jetter-evidently e you have ha a avery very ery valuable v asset in being able to atS at- at t- t S tract at first In that our your battle half won but you jou 0 1 must cultivate HI ol personality that grow grows on anOther an- an Other lother instead of one which tires Ures Antagonizes or repels upon better acquaintance This takes intelligence intelli intelli- S gence ence and character but I believe believeS S mY ny suggestions may point out one way at any rate Dear Betty Blair S 'S Cant Can't you help me I do so long longto longto to have friends not just beaux heyre mighty nice nice of course but good friends frends who are truly fond of me nie and like me with them Most anyone i yone can get a beau and have a pretty good time but it all seems sort of artificial and temporary to me I want something more Heres Here's my my question all in in a single phrase phrase-f What can I do to be popular There you are Betty Blair is is that too much to ask even in Hearts Heart's Haven DISSATISFIED t Of course not DIssatisfied That's Exactly what Hearts Heart's Haven Is here for Now Kow for the vital question question- for both of you youIt's Its It's ts t's a bit difficult to answer Ill I'll admit because as is far as I know no one has yet been able to discover dis dis- over cover a specific answer but dont don't let ot t that discourage you vou for there are innumerable little hints nd f suggestions g that may help each in individual in- in d vIdual to solve her particular difficulty S For Tor one it Jt ma may be a n. matter of dress For Tor another a lack of the arts and accomplishments so soS S necessary to social life is at th the theo o t of the trouble and so on Beauty is far fai from being the chief essential of popularity although althou h it is a mighty nice thing t to possess But there are other senses that must be appealed to besides that of sight Tho The phrase Beautiful but dumb states very aptly the genera general general gen gen- era eral attitude tow toward towal aid 1 mere beauty Charm of personality is fat far more mores s subtle in its appeal than that loveliness of feature and intelligence is the basis of charm This quality is Innate in innate innate in- in nate in some especially gifted in individuals in- in but It can also be cultivated cul cul- Education travel environment environment environment en- en en en- may be instrumental in developing personality but again one can accomplish wonders by consciously setting herself to attain her goal As good a a. way as any I know t to achieve this end is to become a GOOD LISTENER ER You would be amazed at the things you jou ou can pIckup pick pickup up UI through observation atlon Being a good a-good good listener may listener may on the surface seem an ambiguous term but a truly intelligent listener is one of the most popular persons to be found She does not Interrupt in the middle of a n. tale of vital in interest interest in- in terest to the narrator w with ith Well w well ell wasn wasn't t that interesting but but but- and th then Mi proceed to tell a story of her own She has really only been listening with one ear sole solely for the purpose of exacting his attention n to her own story Most unpopular people are selfish or self-centered self ei even en though they do not realize the fact A good listener is broad minded She is as actively Interested in a number number number num num- ber of things on her own account and tickled to death to find stillmore still stillmore stillmore more things in which to be interested interested inter inter- ested This receptive attitude of mind makes her glad to hear the stories of other people and she will soon be recognized as a girl with an exceptional mind not the aimless aimless aim aim- less les chatterer Theres an old saying about The empty wagon agon makes the most noise This may not be an artistic way of ot stating the case but its it's true nevertheless The quiet listener listen listen- er e a magnetism that draw draws s people to her he- Under the spell of her Interest they will tell their in innermost innermost innermost in- in secrets or intimate little anecdotes of their careers She will soon goon find her hours well filled with admiring friends and no more moment moments moments mo mo- ments ment of wondering why she is not popular Anyone can talk but fe fecan few can listen so if you desire distinction distinction distinction tion learn to attract people by bv your interest in them and their affairs Quite a lecture Dissatisfied and and Very Dumb Dumb does it appeal to you you That's one version erslon of ot popularity if you want some more Just come again cause I have all an sorts of notions stored away just lust longing longin to burst forth in print if they will help you girls out of your jour difficulties Dear Miss Betty Is a United States penny larger than a half-dollar half dated 1828 worth any more than its ordinary value of 1 cent GO L DY LOCK S. S Authorities on coins say not I am sorry I Dear Miss Blair I wish you would answer answer anwer a question question question ques ques- tion for a bunch of baseball fans that are working in in a mine mine up here We Wo want to settle an argument Now for the what what are the dimensions of ball parks in in all the Coast league towns And oblige a few miners W. W G. G G. G you n are e and these dimensions dimensions dimen dimen- are taken tl from the home plate to the tho fences 4 41 1 o. o 02 o o OS o oT 0 f T T f i T p k n k I E a aLos Los Angeles IE 16 Vernon 16 15 Oakland W d' d n t IE 15 Sacramento 20 Salt Lake Lake 46 45 Seattle t. t 18 10 H 20 San Francisco 4 45 Dear Betty Blair I enjoy your column so much I have been with interest the and con answers pro to Sheiks Sheik's letter but unfortunately I missed the original letter Would iti it i be possible for you to print Sheiks Sheik's letter again There are others I know that missed it too and would like to read it Thanking you in in advance PETER PAN All right Peter here it is is and also excerpts from about a dozen letters that have not yet jet et found room in Hearts Heart's Haven This is a pretty good place to round out the discussion is it not so Dear Betty Blair Blair- I am a bachelor of 30 I cannot sa say sav v that I have honestly been in inlove in inlove love kove with witha a girl in in my life although I have made love to dozens and dozens dozens dozens doz doz- ens of them In fact I have petted practically lly every girl I have ever met After I have learned how I have desire easy they are no to marry them What is is the matter with the girls of today anyhow SHEIK Scarcely a day has gone by since this letter was printed that Hearts Heart's s sHaven Haven has not received three or four tour answers No Now v I am going to let you have parts part from my collection tion n for the last three as a sort of grand finale Dear B B. B B B. B This sh Sheik ik discussion waxes eloquent eloquent elo elo- do- do quent at times and to say the least were we're getting a great kick out of some of the answers Seriously though I believe that it has all set us thinking and I dont don't believe the next petting party among Hearts Heart's Haven Haven Hayen Ha Ha- ven yen readers will be staged with q quite ite as much nonchalance as be be- fore Sheiks Sheik's been unfortunate inthe inthe in inthe the girls hes he's met but I cant can't but say that they're the only kind HE should associate with Hes He's what Id I'd call Slightly Used himself and really couldn't expect to qualify as Perfect Goods in in th the matrimonial market A PARTICULAR FELLOW And heres here's one who says our answers answers answers an an- seem to have come from the cradle to the grave and wants to add his bit Miss Betty Like thousands of others I l too read your column enjoy it es especially especially especially es- es The Sheiks Sheik's Confessions Yes I believe in m kissing properly done in the proper place at the proper time A pessimist that a areal areal areal real kiss does not make the world through rose rose colored colored glasses should be banished from society But a young man or woman who kisses Tom Dick and Harry and the Devil every time no no one is is looking is damaged goods on the matrimonial counter One is is just as much to blame as the other OLD AGE Old age says a lot more Interesting interestIng interesting Interest interest- ing things about his time and our time and so on but we must get to the next Dear Miss Blair Bl ir Now I am going to give my opinion opinion opinion ion of the question to flap or not notto notto notto to flap The idea of saying that a fellow is is slow if he doesn't kiss every girl with whom he comes in in contact is is all the bunk bunk I I agree with ONE MORE if the fellows fellows fellows fel fel- fel- fel lows dont don't like modern girls they can revolutionize things by showing their preference for decent self- self respecting girls LA AMIZA Dear Miss Betty Blair I feel sorry for folks like Sheik Hes He's just a poor flatterer but some daY clay hell he'll meet the girl that will repay alj his flattery and the poor po r fellow may die of oT a broken heart It takes one fool to meet an another another another an- an other fool We all make mistakes mistakes mistakes mis mis- takes in our young days but some people never get any older AN INTERESTED READER Dear Miss Blair I Sheik makes me sick and those who think the girls are easy know only the painted-faced painted little pinheads pinheads pinheads pin I heads who flock the street at al almost almost almost al- al most any hour of the day or night Surely they're easy always have been that's their business ess They're out to catch a husband I m mean an a ameal ameal meal ticket because that's as far faras faras faras as their gray matter goes They I could not earn an honest living if I their life depended upon it it The Themen Themen Themen men are too dense to see through the muck of paint powder and a slangy line so they are landed They are the ones that are both dumb and EASY What's the matter with the men not of today only but of all times They've never been known to show any sense inthe inthe in inthe the choice of a wife I may sound but I was fortunate enough to find a man who had been landed once but got away and profited by h his is experience I still wish I had been a little more fortunate fortunate for for- and had been first but but MRS NOT SO EASY Dear Miss Blair In regards to the letter the Two Coeds wrote wanting to know where the He Men are are they're they're up at atthe atthe atthe the lumber camps Lets Let's not try to hurt one another's feelings lets let's try and help each other othor out I think the Sheik has enough information mation nation to last him years to come on this subject and if hes he's thirty years old and the information weve we've tried to give him hini through Hearts Heart's Haven has failed then I believe in the theold theold theold old saying You cant can't teach an old doa don new tricks and let it go at that I guess all we can do is is to watch our steps and help Miss Blair to continue her splendid work A BOOSTER Thank you Mister 1 Booster for your cooperation and I agree with you jou ou Miss Betty Blair I I have been in m your beautiful city just about a week now anti and have been an interested reader of the discussion regarding the art of petting petting pet pet- ting king and kissing for really I believe God endowed us with the thrill of l making love knowing that it would be one pleasure this man controlled world could not take away from us Now I am in love with the sweetest little flapper I met her over four years ago kissed her fifteen fifteen fifteen teen minutes after I met her hep and have been een kissing her ever since since We have been married over three years years and believe me she is still my sweetheart 1 I believe that a kiss is a fifty-fifty fifty proposition and any time I have kissed a girl and thought she didn't get the same en enjoyment en- en out of it that I did she didn't need to worry about a second kiss from me JUST A PEDDLER Dear Betty Blair I could not help but sympathize with Sh Sheik Shik ik the other night when I I went to a movie movie There was a girl in m front of me literally draped around the fellows fellow's neck I felt so sorry for him I didn't know what to do He couldn't very well reach up and remove her arm from around his neck without causing a scene but Ill I'll just bet he fumed and anti fus fussed ed inwardly and didn't g hi j have the faintest idea what the movie movie was all about I shouldn't t be surprised if he has already written written written writ writ- ten you his version version of easy girls girls' What fools these mortals be belas bel bei as the famous bard expressed through his mischief mischief- mischief maker maker DISGUSTED Dear Miss Blair I would like your opinion on this Is it possible for a girl to be e too nice nice I dont don't mean snobbish or prudish but just nice nice I dont don't ap approve approve approve ap- ap prove of petting petting I have no desire to be an old maid but it seems as though all the boys are alike along that line Id I'd like to see one that knows how to treat a girl Not that I blame them entirely because I I think both the boys and girls could be a lot better if they tried The folks tell me not to pay any attention to getting bawled out and I dont don't ca car caro what the boys say its it's the girls' girls remarks that thai hurt I like to be a good sport but draw the line at petting Is that being too nice nice ALL LL ALONE That Is NOT being too nice and anda a sense of discrimination is a sign of good breeding not snobbishness Dont Don't t pay any attention to what the girls say In all probability disagreeable comments are prompted prompt prompt- ed by jealousy and in the case of ridicule boys bo ridicule is supposed to be bethe bethe bethe the very best means of gaining an end Nine people out of ten would rather receive actual physical hurt than be toe laughed at Meet them on their own ground and prove that you ha have hae e a little clev cleverer tongue than they You will wUl not lack for friends of the right sort so don dont t worry Dear Miss Betty 4 C 1 I will admit that a great many girls appear to be easy but they seem eem to be under the FALSE impression th that t petting and kissing is is essential to popularity Men such as you Mr Sheik are responsible for that You lead them to believe that if they want to go out they must give up individuality and pride and lower herself to the common common common com com- mon level And the pity of it i ig is' that the girls start going out so young that they do not discover how fatso false you are or or- othow how foolish they have been until |
