| Show for this department should be addressed to Miss MIlia Kathleen Katheen Kayo Kaye O lr Department eon Salt ts Lake Telegram aO S Salt t Lake City Utah a id idof Queries are limited I to one ona question each should ld be written r on o one sIde 0 ef of the paper only with full name and address of writer appended also name namo or Initials to be used for Identification In column All names names' and addresses are held confidence Do not write In Do not net ask k for private reply For special service phone Wasatch between 11 and 12 When necessary phone phon for th the th location of cf any commodity mentioned tOned In this department r My Dear Deal Miss Kayo Kaye the of 1 I am writing you today greatest problem of my life feeling that I will surely surey profit by your advice of age twenty eight years have I am been married maried nine years yeas and five have three children ages seven and three years yeas When I married which was very vey v very cy much against my mothers mother's husband hus hus- wishes I thought I loved my Lake band and we m moved ved to Salt City where whee we lived for five years at the end of that time I knew I. I did that I husband and aia ria so so did my although I did re respect respect re- re him not l ove ve him But he said and still says Bays that he loves me conditions have been Miss Kaye getting worse how worse how bad I cannot tell you Now I find that the sight unbearable of f my husband is almost S Sometimes I feel that I loathe him and nd the very touch of him makes me shudder Im I'm almost ashamed to write wite this Miss Kaye but its it's true Eight months ago I felt that I could stand it no longer so I mother mother-in- went away leaving my law to care cae for him and my babies as I felt that 1 I could not support them as their Daddy could But Mss Miss Kaye no one will ever know what 1 I suffered the two months I stayed from them My husband away treats me better in inmany inmany ways since my return and I m many ny have tried tied for the childrens children's sake to love their father but I cannot on go When I leave home for a few hours I do not want to return and andI I can see where I am even neglecting neglecting neg neg- my babies Ive I've just gotten gotten got got- gotten ten down dawn to where I cant can't care cae My husband knows just how I feel and yet he refuses to leave and I feel there thee must be a change somewhere or I MUST LEAVE and andI I cannot bear to think of THAT The children childen love their daddy and his love for them keeps him from going But Miss Kaye Kayo do you not think that it would be much better for us to separate even if I have to be the ono one to go than forus forus for forus us to live JIve together and have them sea eB and hear heal things daily that th they r should not As I 1 have already said my husband says that he loves me but if he lie does doe's It is different from any kind of love I have known Miss Kaye have I written so youcan youcan you youcan can understand I have tried but If I 1 have failed will try again I do hope you can tell me what to o do do Miss Kaye Seems my very life depends on your answer c- c MRS M. M Wyoming Perhaps you cannot love the hus- hus I hus-I nd possibly romance lies dead jut hut had It occurred to you that you I rise even above that and base the partnership on something other than romance Had you considered con con- the possibility of ot Joining hands with the husband husband held held by a common cause bound by a a. common duty Just to work and to build for Zor forthe the kiddies Perhaps you ou once onO thought love was was all and maybe dear It has never siever Just occurred to you to change that thought Love Is much but NOT ALL Sometimes greater and finer and more beautiful than love renuncIation renuncIation-renuncIation renunciation of 1 Is b renunciation self 1 You both love the ithe thata thal's that's 1 your common tie a a. tie that will 1 bind hind forever regardless of legal sev- sev rances So do not look too lightly I upon that phase of the problem The husband nd wants to remain In the I home with tie the kiddies he wants wants you you-to ou to stay on with them too so BO BOT T feel quite sure euro that he would agree to most any logical plan you might conceive for a a. working out of things for the best good of ot all So Bo with perfect mastery of self dear with dear with a a. serenity born of a putting down of ot driving emotions could you not forego the Joy of ot lovIng loving lov low ing and being loved for the bigger thing the holler holier thing which Is the companionship and welfare of ot your our kiddies Your Tour life me Is empty and lacking cannot It-cannot be otherwise otherwise and and oh how my heart goes out to the littie lit lit- tle tie wife who Is thus disillusioned disillusioned- X whose very ery soul Is starving for nt affection ion The gnawing part of It all iii Is not for mere words And I not underestimate tho the trag- trag L oi your situation But little Woman Dm sometimes tho the way out leads loads only to rougher ways still when all Is said and doffe the situation resolves itself inHo IM ono one no not of or reaching out and f. f what one really wants wants- I the condition ideal but to one of i I loosing Choosing among what is possible possible- choosing the lesser of or two evils So f Soil i ii must know w this he ie ey emptiness you would espo es- es po by going away from your l. l J could ld but be multiplied by Very Very act The peace that ma may i tolIe olie beyond that step would h- h wn tp O torture in the lonely heart the le woman who ho left her babes Sd d. d is not like that I V be laid aside If It it might 1 ned and doffed at will will well well then it would not be e o. So dear your life is s no longer y fr own Personal freedom can an silver never er again be yours ours no matter what that you do The kiddies are locked it your our heart forever forever and and in the ert of or their daddy You cannot Justly sUj ask him to go and you ou out t 1 RI not do so 50 So dear can not fan find a way to adjust adjust- n you not together decide upon in in which therell there'll be beto f to make you shudder a 1 In which you will forego Jt nd let It be replaced by Can you not fortify youri your your- our i Itt through rou h getting right with your pod God and the then rise to the bigger I. I W ug gp Can you not forego the personal perOn pers per per- s On Ilove and thus acquire the greater ter love the love the universal love glorifies as it Is given again to ou by your children even children even unto th hird and fourth generation Won Vont Vont t you write me again when r ve read this Dear Miss Dear Miss Kaye Could you plea please e kindly give me mc methe methe the name of the medical school conducted conducted conducted con con- ducted by Seventh Day Adventists located near San Bernardino Cal 1 thank you Sincerely SALLY Provo Prove I 1 think you ou refer to the College e of Medical Evangelists Loma Linda I ICa Ca Cal There is a large hospital connected connected con- con conI I with the school and do two years ears work there thole then thea take I the second two at White Memorial hospital Los Angeles Cal Dear Miss Kaye I have written witten to you se several eal times but it seems like I make someI some I kind of a mistake every time I will I try to do better botter in the future My Miss Kaye you must be a aI I wonderful woman to answer all the questions and settle settle the arguments you do I Miss Kaye Kayo if it is not too much bother will you solve this question j for me I am ani overweight and sure would like to lose some I weigh i 1139 pounds am 4 feet 1 inch in I height and 19 years of age I I Could you please tell me something something something some- some thing to use or 01 some kind of a diet I to follow and how long Do you I think it would be all right to use that I reducing educing soap or 01 some other reducing educing remedy emedy that is advertised in the paper I II I Wishing you all the go good d luck and I happiness in the world I remain Salt Lake You Tou ARE overweight sure enough Too bad too for reducing must be such u a bother Are you reading Dr Lulu Hunt Peters Peter's Peters Peter's Pe Pe- Pe- Pe ter's articles on diet and health which appear daily dally in this paper papel Safe Sare und and nd sane reducing comes I only through diet and exercise m my dear so you mil may as well weIl reconcile yourself to that and begin the work I suggest that you ou supplement Dr Peters Peter's works with Walter Camps Camp's little booklets on special exercises make malte up Ui a program for yourself from one or both then FOLLOW it in the following of or the program that success lies you 1 know For how long should you ou diet Forever my dear If It you are in inclined in- in dined to overweigh then you must learn to guard against fatty foods In your diet for tor all time I thank you ou for your sweet compliments com coin and good wishes to me and wish you well in this effort for less avoirdupois a Dear Miss Kaye I would like to have you publish the p poem em It Takes a Lot of Livin in a House to Make It Home Miss Kaye you are ae a wonderful lady Salt Lake must be proud to have someone like liko you in their midst Thanking you for the answer I remain A constant reader and admirer SLIM Price I 1 1 I I I Arent Aren't you sweet to me rm Im very I proud of ot my iny relation to Salt Lake my dear dear of of that Im I'm sure The correct title of ot the poem to which you refer is la Home Miss rIss I Slim and It i Is written by Edgar Guest BO HOME HOrE IE It takes a heap o o 0 In a a. house to make it home A heap o 0 sun an an and ye sometimes have t roam Afore ye really predate the things ye Ie lef behind An hunger for em ent somehow with em allus anus on your mind It dont don't make any difference how rich ye get t t be be How much yer chairs an tables cost how great yer luxury It aint home t ye though It be the palace of ot a king Until somehow yer soul Is sort sorto o 0 wrapped round everything Home aint a place that gold can buy or get up In a a. minute MOTe More its it's home theres there's got to b be a heap o living in It Within the walls theres there's got to be some babies born and then Right there yeve got to bring em up to women good an men And as time goes on ye find ye wouldn't part With anything they ever used used used- they've grown into yer yet heart The old high chairs the playthings too the little shoes they wore Ye hoard an an If jt ye could keep the thumb marks on the door Yeve got to weep t make it home yeve got to sit an sigh An watch beside a a. loved onea ones bedan bedan bed bedan an know that Death Is nigh An In the stillness o 00 the tho night t tsee tsee tsee see Deaths Death's angel come An close dose the eyes of ot her that smiled an leave her sweet voice dumb Fer these are scenes that grip the heart an when yer yet tears are dried Ye find th home Is dearer than it was an an sanctified An at ye e always are the pleasant memories 0 O her that was an is no more more ye ye cant can't these Yeve Teve got to sing an dance fer years ears yeve got to romp an pia play An learn t love the things ye e have by them each day Even the roses round the porch must blossom year by year More Afore they come a a. part of ct ye sug- sug e. e gestin so someone eone dear w no used t f love em long ago an trained em Jes t run The way they do do sos so's they would get the early sun Yeve got to love love r each brick an stone from cellar up to dome dome- It takes a heap o 0 livin In a house to make it home Dear Deal Miss Kaye As you gave me such a splendid I answer to my other query I am coming to you now again May I Will you tell me what to do for my freckles They ruin uin my my ap appearance appearance ap- ap dreadfully I have tried freckle cream but it does no good Waiting for an answer I remain I H. H G. G Salt Lake j I Yes es indeed H. H G. G j I I Freckles are like that my dear some some of them The They are just so J i seated deep-seated that theres there's no reaching reaching reach- reach i ing them with the ordinary freckle- freckle 1 removers removes so you ou ma may as well reconcile reconcile recon recon- cile cilo yourself to your fate If it that's I the kind of freckles you have hae And AndI I take it that yours are re the tho deep- deep seated sort since you jou ou have used I I various creams without t results Plastic surgeons and such folk tolk I profess proCess to remove such freckles but personally I cannot say that I 1 I know of or m my own knowledge that I this can be done Might investigate investigate investigate gate it you ou know kno- be rather painful expensive and take one ono into retirement for a a. time but butwell butwell butwell well well beauty 1 knows noW's no pain so soOn soOn soon on with the Investigation Dear Deal Miss Kaye I I have received much good from the answers you have given to others ethers but have never had the heart to write to you before Now Miss Kaye I am up against a problem that I cannot solve alone Its It's more I of a puzzle tomo to-me than the crossword crossword cross cross- word wod puzzles and even you must j I admit that some of them are food j i I fo for thought I Now here is what I want your advice on on I am in love with a aman aman man whom it is impossible to marI marry marry mar mar- I ry as he does not believe in marriage marriage mar mar- riago for some reason eason unknown to tome tome tome me but I believe he was stung when he was young I have kept steady company with this man for three years and I love him with all I my heart and he says he loves me I believe he ho does for he has never never gone with another girl since he met i me mL But Miss Kaye here is what makes me so undecided He doesn't I care for children and I have haver two babies 7 and 5 5 that I adore for I they are ro re good babies Now they are I I with my mother but she is going back east cast and I cant can't stand having them that far away from me I have havea I a chance to marry mary another man I who who I am sure sue thinks m more re of me i than the first man does and he loves I Imy my children but Miss Kaye I do donot donot not love him and I know the agony I of living with a man I dont don't love Now I have havo made up my mind to tobe tobe tobe be guided by your advice for I know you will advise me only for the best So which would you advise me to todo todo todo do Should I give up the man I really eally love and for my childrens children's sake marry the man I dont don't love or 01 shall I let mother take the tho babies I ba back k home with her and try ty eventually eventually eventually event event- I I to win the man I do love I Iam Iam am afraid to marry the man I dont don't love for fear I could not have willpower willpower willpower will will- power enough to tob b ie be true to him and andI I should hate to be a disloyal wife Now what shall I do I 1 solemnly promise to do as you advise to the best of my ability Hoping I am not a bother bothe and wishing all kinds of good luck and happiness for the New Year I am patiently waiting for the answer to tomy tomy tomy my fate A PUZZLE Ogden I Marry neither man You cannot marry the one and you dare not marry the other So my dear go along with Mother Iother and the babes Go along and mean all an allou you ou can to Mother and be the best t little mother In the tho world yourself In that way will wUl you ou find your our happiness happiness hap hap- and In no other Happiness Is not a. a Idling lhing that one may set eyes upon then just go out and claim Happiness is a byproduct by by- product e. a something that comes with other things or ar as a result thereof So forget self and thus by Iby forgetting now what you would claim go forth to claim something better and finer It would be fair neither to the theman theman theman man the kiddies nor to yourself to marry a man whom you do not love lov So that's that It cannot be toe done The other man may |
