Show I POKER AND PIN MONEY ARE BlAMED SA SAN FRANCISCO CISCO Sept 10 Charge Charge accounts and poker games mes are Ire preeminent preeminent nent In bringing about domestic difficulties ties and divorce Such is the opinion of Mrs Irs Martha Evans head of tho the bureau of ot domestic relations of ban kJan Francisco Seven years ears of listening t ta to domestic difficulties day Ilay In and lay day out have convinced convinced convinced con con- vinced Mrs r Evans vans that cold hard dollar lies at the bas bass basis of the iho majority of marital troubles Extravagance on the part of or the wife and gambling on the tho part of the husband bring about a n great majority of tho the domestic do do- nestle cases that find their theira a way Into the I hands of the law Mrs Evans said It It Is III the charge charKo account and the poker game gamo that bring hundreds of or men and women here hero to swear to charges chars against each elch other Wives Ives spend the family In Income inCome In- In come como recklessly and husbands squander t their mone money gambling Usually the wife i Is called to account for lor ever every cent she sho spends while tho the husband omits to tell tellof tellof of or his gambling e escapades As a result there timers Is deception on both sides And deception invariably leads to disastrous results The budget system In th the tho home win will wina go 10 a n. long way to prevent ent divorce Mrs Evans declared decla i BUDGET PLAN ADVISED 1 Family finances in every homo home should ie no ie on a 1 businesslike basis There should be bo a budget system In the home the same I as In tho the office The family Income j I s. s should Hd be bc apportioned and the schedule J I rigidly followed tono cd Pay lay i RS as you OU go 0 should be the motto of ot every overy home homo If it domestic tell felicity city Is to bo be sustained The charge I account count sends many runny a matrimonial bark I on the tho rocks I Mothers law are In no noay way ay responsible ble for tor domestic difficulties according to j I Mrs Evans The hue and cry against tho the mother- mother I law in-law is absurd she said In Iii the tho seven years rs I I have dealt with domestic I relations relations' I have ha handled anI only four tour cases casc where the mother law was Involved I And In the two years rears I have been hero here as head hend of the bureau of or domestic reIn rela and assistant bond and warrant I clerk I have havo had only one ono such case It Is utterly unfair to blame the tho mother mother-In- law The fault lies with the husband and wife and not any outside force In al almost almost al- al most every cry case GIVE AND TAKE Marriage I Is all a a matter of ot give and take Mrs Evans continued I 1 have o been bridesmaid to many girls larJ in m my social service work In the tho 1 Y Jv V. 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C A A- Annd and m my 10 advice and my blessing to them Is always Give e and take take pin play fair The school of matrimony recently sug sug- suggested b by a Chicago Judge as u u. tf remedy for the increasing number numb r of ot divorces finds little favor with Mrs Irs Evans The instruction of ot young oung people lo In the re responsibilities re- re of ot matrimony be belongs heIn he- he longs In the Ule home tr In 11 the opinion of ot Mrs Eva Ea Mothers and fathers can cnn do a n great I deal dent In preventing the thc large larRe number of oC divorces not ont only by teaching their chilI children children chil chil- dren the fundamental principles of life lira I and marriage but by making their own lives an example of ot normal happy homo home I life lito What good would schools of ot matrimony matrimony matrimony matri matri- mony do It if young oung people are arc brought up In homes where there Is constant wrangling wran gling and amI nagging LOOK AFTER LEAP Too many young oun people leap before they look Mrs Evans believes Every girl should know a a. man at ata marries him She least a year ear before beor she should know his real disposition not Just his company manners In the bond and warrant office Ice wh where re I slid she listens to complaints of wives against their erring husbands and onA husband against their erring wives Mrs Evans Evane 1 I has brought a number of ot reunions Occasionally when husband and wire wife I are here together 1 J am able to bring brine about abou a reconciliation and more than once a couple who came vindictively one bent benton benton I Ion I on securing the tho arrest of the tho other have gone out hand In hand band Several times limes a I I husband and wife wire smiling happily have returnee returned to thank u us for reuniting them thorn I Mrs Evans has haa been head of ot the tho bureau bu bu- bu- bu buI I reau renu of or domestic relations and assistant bond and warrant clerk for tor the past two she was associated associated years years For four tour years carll with the thc Y W. W C. C A A. where she aho es established eI- eI the tho he emergency department department- which deals with ith domestic troubles Previous Previous Pre Pre- to that she he he was engaged in similar work In the East |