Show Guests Be Tactful About Lil Likes es Dislikes es By RUTH MILLETT If you want to be the kind bf guest who gives his host and hostess pleasure dont don't be emphatic emphatic emphatic em em- about your personal dislikes but do be emphatic ic about your 1 personal likes It is no hardship for a tat hostess to buy buya a friends friend's particular particular par par- titular brand of before before before be be- fore he comes to visit or to prepare his favorite fa- fa v o 0 r i t e distl w while h 11 e he is there or to to Ruth l make it possible possible possible ble for him to have some time athis at athis athis his favorite sport or to get to see a person or persons he really enjoys Being able to do something for fora a guest that she knows he will appreciate gives a hostess a nice comfortable feeling that the visit sit will be enjoyed And of course having things arranged to his liking is sure to make a guest feel welcome and anda a little bit special It also gives gies es him something to mention when he finds himself having to write the inevitable butter bread-and-butter note And that in itself is a real help But it doesn't always work that way when the things a hostess knows best about a person person person per per- son are the things he dislikes Suppose she knows that children annoy him that he hates any kind of inconvenience however unavoidable or temporary or that he thinks anyone who takes a drink is someone to look down his nose at How About Your Reducing Diet Thep the hostess is on pins and needles for fear her sister- sister law in-law will stop by with the three children who are as likely as not to climb on her guests guest's lap or that something will go wrong with the smooth routine of the household or that a a. so sociable sociable sociable so- so neighbor will drop in de demanding demanding demanding de- de manding a drink and end up by bya having a ving several Try to Be Ideal Guest If you want to know whether you are the kind of guest whose visits a hostess really looks forward forward forward for for- ward to find out whether most hostesses have in the back of their minds the comforting knowledge that you are crazy about fried chicken and take people as you find them or that your reducing diet wont won't let you indulge in any of hostess hostess' special dishes and that if anyone expresses a political belief different different different dif dif- dif dif- ferent from your own you immediately immediately immediately imme imme- chalk him up as a a. dummy and a bore |