Salt Lake Telegram | 1929-04-28 | Page 29 | Children Should be Encouraged in Self Reliance

i Should B Be Encouraged in Self Reliance By Marguerite Marguerite e ite Marshall J John John B B. B Watson psychologist S J Just offered m mothers others one one bit of sibe advice Give your child a aY al l a ance nce to solve his problems b by Y and himself the doctor urges Dont Don't ays ays let hum him have a shoulder to who has ob obe ob ob- ep pon Anybody e the lack of self reliance g- g ch some members of the tha current to come com com- J nger nger jer generation manage of self assur assur- e 1 with a surplus e C will twill agree with Dr Watson t children often grow up up too I p less ss too dependent on Mother Isome some other iii id d after all nil how many sure- sure solutions of or their problems can cany i- i y- y we hand down to the youngsters f F For o 0 r l' thoughtful women there i ian is isan isan an extremely in interesting interesting interesting in- in article in the current w 4 i Harpers Harper's by br Lillian Lillian Lil Lil- lian ian Symes herself her her- self seU an un intelligent I S modern mother i who points out that so man many of tho the old rules no noI longer apply to the new game our l' l 1 i children nb m must u s t I play in the world orld Take ake e a u. sin Ie instance We Ve canH canU can- can H Mrs U Ir q Symes argues imagine children n living in a community I tl b murder and theft ft L t the l i parent t may thi think k is an ani anI anon i I teaching be ben e eon on which can n n. n cut Bai how Mrs Symes pointedly r lures ulies will tho the world of twenty IS' IS si feel about the wh whole whole- le- le murder called war Shall we weh weh h our sons to abhor such a son son so- so n of irate national difficulties so will vill they find themselves 25 or 30 0 part of a civilized mathat mathat ma- ma f that has outlawed war Avar or of a despised minority of conous con- con loiis ous objectors in some federal on on rn CHANGING STATUS PROBLEMS man and her almost momen- momen 1 changing status in the world for another group of lems to which it is hard to ho he modern son and daughter and dried solutions As Lillian I pictures many young oung moth moth- Raised in a period in I which vas as considered unladylike e for a ajo ao I jo o show the calf of her leg we wo into a world in which s I came to costume parties inand in and ana handkerchiefs woree wore Ie e dresses above their knees ere afraid of oC being thought ed d havo havn foun found Mrs Symes s ip p many of our parents' parents inadequate to the complicated a ons ens we C ha have YO had to face in hanging l b gin world and so we have to o fall ba back k upon whatever In- In we liable have been able to tom mon m n for our om judgments We Wet I. I t that whatever N codes we f ow LOW impose upon our children J e ie inadequate to the new problems they will confront in a astill astill at still changing t world or o of twenty years 1 hence lence DISCIPLINE SHOULD BEGIN AT HOME What hat then is the tho answer to the dilemma dilemma dilemma-a a codeless upbringing fOlI for fOl I children Not at all If Ie youngsters youngsters' learn no discipline at home tho world is going to discipline them thel store lore harshly than the sternest par par- But it seems to us that modern modern modern mod mod- ern parents must children not merely oral prohibitions TALK TALI but buti butla la i a living example of whatsoever things the they the tho parents consider lovely and of good report Also that in some degree we must keep and must permit in our adolescents an open mind If father and mother live accordIng according according accord accord- ing to the principles of or fair fah play pla if they show by their acts v that they dont don't think mone money the most Important important important tant thin thing in tho the world if they re rejoice rejoice re- re joice joke in their own romantic love lov il it they cultivate cult a passion for beauty and intellectual interests and outdoor outdoor outdoor out out- door life their practice is likely to affect the younger members of the family more than any amount of preaching Certainly if the practice doesn't influence the children the preaching will not Our own own experience experience experience ence and observation convinces us that when in their homes boys and girls are exposed to trul truly cultivated cultivated cultivated cul cul- and intelligent living and I I loving the germs are arc likely to 1 take tale And if ir they don't dont dont don't why the they dont don't Nothing more can be done about It it KNOW LITTLE OF CHILDS CHILD'S MIND To ro worry too m much ch over youthful psychology and its reactions ma may maybe maybe be unwise as well as useless We Ye know little little and and much of that isn't so about so-about about the the- workings of a childs child's heart and mind Any Ally woman wio 10 has had head contacts with children realizes re realizes realizes re- re re- re this unless she takes her hel Dr Watson and other othel child ps psychologists psychologists cholo too seriously We Ye were reminded reminded re- re minded again of the mysteriousness of the tho inner life Ufe of small folk when we read the other day Jay that most original and amusing spring novel The Innocent Voyagers It is the tale talo of a group of children written by a young oung Englishman Richard Hughes who vho knows s enough about them to know that lie he or any other grownup knows next nest to nothing The children in this book go so through such sueh experiences with earthquake hurricane pirates as if we believe the psychologists would inflict the deepest of or soul wounds wound Actually all these exciting happenings are ale swiftly and successfully successfully suc suc- forgotten As Mr fr Hughes hes shrewdly ob observes erves Most lost children on a a. railway journey journey jour jour- nc ney prefer to change at as as' as many stations as possible It is a fact that it takes experience before one can realize what is a catastrophe and what is not Children have little little little lit lit- tle faculty of distinguishing be between between between be- be tween disaster and the tho ordinary course of or their lives Once more morea a phase of their thell lives was receding into the past and crystallizing into myth And we refer reter the parent who prides himself or or more oft often n hersel herself herself her her- sel self on knowing ing a childs child's every thought to Mr Ir Hughes Hughes' reminder A child can hide the most apP appalling appalling appall appall- ll- ll ing secret without the least effort and is practically secure against detection Parents finding that they sep set through th their lr child in so many places the child does docs not know of seldom realize that if there is some point the child realty child really gives his mind to hiding their chances are nil They sa say what they think you ou want them to sa say So theres there's there's theres only one safe philosophy philos philo- ophy for parents Do your our best best best- and leave the rest