Salt Lake Telegram | 1915-06-13 | Page 29 | Titled Marriage Problem and an Answer

The i he Titled I Marriage Problem and an Answer l By BL BLACK r AC ED Copyright 1916 1915 by tho the Newspaper Feature Service Inc who married the foreign nobleman says D now the American woman until ho to work and supports herThe her with him goes live cant can't AND ND A she The American woman Is 18 very ven rich and does docs not need to bo be supported sup sup- theres there's ported no trouble about that but what she aho cant can't stand is a husband who so be bc paid sends his bills to her to loves him devotedly and admires him excessively excessively ex ex- husband Yet she lov loves love c tho sho says to admire and love his American wife wire and so And tho the husband seems ems to get he has really gone sone to work work work-or or at least hes he's trying Just to please her some work to go toOf to Amerl Americans who read the news of this little affair In Of course all true supposed to lean back and sa say with much unction their morning paper arc are There Th rc now nos and great vehemence foreign nobleman who married an American And yet I wonder and educated if it any in America ever has haa the slightest chance of woman trained being happy halPY has woman so reared and so 60 educated over ever American I wonder If It an any of being happy with a high-bred high foreigner the faintest possibility be bo able to get each othor's others point of view at It all to They The dont don't seem for tor a high church Methodist to marry a Baptist or Its It's all very well for to a himself a Lutheran wife unless wife unless the Lutheran in insists insists In in- Episcopalian to take talco Episcopalian must turn into a n Lutheran not only onh outwardly outwardly out out- upon it that the that tho soul or the Methodist M persists in believing warl Baptist could but In be his a very Methodist just as cas easy as not if shed she'd only try cases theres there's sure ure to be trouble these In either cither of case of or the count and the American woman the trouble trouble trou trou- In this particular ble has only Just begun How could anyone expect any anything thinS thinS' else The American View Counts are arc not educated to work They dont don't know anything about It supposed to know and They they arc are not trained most of them to think clearly clearl along alon their own particular particular They are arc swim to a good at tennis or ular point of view to ride rido well to play pIa game dogs and horses and women polo to understand served or with how to order a dinner what wines should be know lenoW They which waistcoat to wear ear with which coat what la Is I the proper what course in hand and a a. plate of serving tea te-a and how to hold a teacup one hour for tor the tho other without looking like a a. bull in a 0 china shop in cakes little know bow to dance danco and how to pa pay compliments and how to select se select se- se They rhe for tor a a. pretty woman and how to shoot and to fish and what to lect a a. dress at big say to tho the representative of a a. foreign nation when theres there's something their own country In stake If It you want a n. man for tor these qualities marry mam a count and Uko him for what hat ho is 18 1 and dont don't try to make him over into an American business man You cant can't do it and if you oU could wh why should you ou If It you wanted an American business man why didn't you marry one I wonder if It the count hasn't wondered about it It oven this early x his salt who does n not t We 6 think In this country countr that no man amounts to earn that salt himself They do not agree with us in some Mme of at tho older order civilizations They may mM maybe maybe be wrong and wo we may be right In the long run I dont don't think theres there's much But wh a n man who has been trained to believe doubt that we wc are arc why marry that work is one of tho the least Important things in the world and then expect and mako make figures for eighteen him to shut himself up In a n. bank somewhere hours a day d L u It r In its his Lr life v Why Vh should he hey he What for for or 1 TT Hes He's s fn never mover n c had U JU to tn v uv Oil n. n should he begin now And wh why should an any woman with half a millions million's ear want him to do it year Im I'm an American Ameri n and I 1 have havo the American point of view so BO decidedly that I cannot imagine Ima Ine myself deliberately marrying a man and supporting him But if It I did marry marr that sort of man ands and lived in that sort of society I husbands country and I would try to would live lIvo it as it was lived In my m husbands husband's take something beside a merely provincial point of ot view The European Policy Men do not marry for love and love alone in the higher classes of European European Eu Eu- society A man of title there ther marries to perpetuate his family and to keep up his family name nama and his family estate He lie must not think of at himself entirely and he does not expect tho the woman wom wom- woman he ho marries to think entirely of or herself an nn She has mane money he has a n title She has youth and beauty he h has haR position position tion lion and cultivation They Th Join forces forC K to strengthen the family Why hy not 1 Do our own marriages marriages turn out so happily that wo we can afford afford af nt idea idea at the European ford to sneer When 1 n you OU marry marr a European of the upper classes s m my good American girl you OU must expect to find fl d that he does doeR not think that you are arc conferring any overwhelming obligation upon him simply because you OU have havo more money mone money mon mon- ey e than he has lIe He doesn't think it It he cant can't think It and he wouldn't think It If he ho could No matter r what he says or how he acts at the bottom of ut his heart there la Is the tho conviction that under all aU the tho and behind all aU the romantic common common com com- I Imon of plain hard strata conversations of or every courtship there must bo ho a a. tho they are might be but as aa facts not they mon sense which faces as point of view and it Is only American And he will never understand the In the least the tho point of oC who understands tho the exceptional American woman view of tho the aristocratic foreigner It Is a matter of or these people of romance to Marriage 1 is not nol a n. matter American girl who sells herself herself her her- policy and the they will mover nover understand that the ashamed of herself for self to a n. title is always at the bottom of her heart about It doing It It and anti always trying to mako make some kind of ot absurd pretense not only to the world orld but to herself and to him married the foreign has who Im I'm for tor the rich American woman sorry soro his man of ot rank and wants him to go to work and earn the money to pay own laundry bills But Im I'm sorry Barr for the man In the tho case too in a a. way they What a n. pity mistake tho the woman Ho He has made Just as bl big a n. aa as understand what didn't each of them man marry some ono one who could at least the other was trying to think