Show HY MEN By Jane Dixon Men marry because they are stick lItick- ers lers Is for convention and marriage the convention tion means of acquiring the women they desire to grace their ho homes RITA RIT RITA WELLMAN AN A small person with big big eyes eyes eye and jade beads may have some some rather daring ideas on on the subject of ot matrimony matrimony matri matri- mony a Ia la mode She may also have the gift bitt of ot pen pento pento pento to express these ideas in a way to send them seething through the minds and hearts of less courageous disciples disciples' of ot the n newer and freer femininity Rita Wellman Wellman 1 Mrs Leo in the home life has life has the big eyes and the jade b beads ads and the gifted pen a perfect perfect per per- feet b background for her latest hectic juggling of ot men and women and matrimony a novel she has chosen to call The Wings of ot Desire Vermilion is a favorite color of ot th the characters in Miss Wellman's story The color is decidedly well chosen And yet to meet the quiet little lady with the big gray brown eyes flecked with tawny shades and hints of ot that same jade green green greenwhich which en encircles encircles encircles en- en circles her throat one would Interpret her in sh shades des of ot violet Iolet or misty grays or veiled rose I Labels Labels' ar are are so eo misleading I do not care for marriage as it t exists exist's today was th the very first ilist bomb exploded by the girlish writer in the abbreviated black frock and the ver very French shoes It is so banal dont don't you think WHY MIN MINCE E MATTERS I didn't think at least a t not out loud d. d Having m made de such an assertion the sp speaker aJeer was in duty bound to tack on onan onan an n explanation Husband and wife should maintain separate establishments continued Miss Wellman They should not be forced together always under the same roof root Why Whir mince matters Why go on uttering platitudes and practicing gross hypocrisy just be because because because be- be cause It is the custom so tp do doZ Honestly now how many men have haye you known whose main purpose in life Ute outside of ot business hours hours' was was to frame up excuses for dodging the home dinner hour You have hae heard them dozens of times Well Vell I guess Ill I'll have to move on home bome now now late late for dinner They are areas areas areas as happy happ over the prospect of dining at home and listening to the family chatter as a small boy returning t to school after vacation is over Home I has become an onerous duty to them not a pleasant anticipation a blessed privilege I It is stupid to know you must dine every evening with the tho same man just because he happens to be your l husband You both get to the I place where you are talked out You DISLIKES DISLIKE THE MARRIAGES OF TODA TODAr i I s 2 i r I 52 I p 1 t tI m me mi I Qs I e e I Il l I i c jr F p I. I a 4 1 I r- r i 4 a t 4 i e a 6 l r I e 4 4 I fF 1 aI a 1 I a t fi e J nW 3 Rita Wellman novelist who declares husband and wife should main separate establishments I F ha e have nothing interesting to say Bay to each other You must resort to trivialities It is inevitable that you should bore one ono another Where or with whom you dine should be a matter of ot choice If If husband and wives w would uld take a broader view of ot these very conventions conventions con con- and not force torce themselves upon each other the chances are they would be eager to be together instead of finding every available postponing the customary metin meeting There is nothing in lii the w ld stale as as' as habit I could almost hear the chorus and and Wells i iThe The very ideas ideas' such radical radicalism sm certain to call forth Indignant sniffs of ot affronted wt 1 come rever reverberating era ting from the soun sound board of the future Self-conscious Self scoffs of or h hl hIt bands sounded a deep basso to I to i I righteous patter COURTS FIX SALVAGE The hard knots of may chafe our tender sensibilities s j when some fearless member ot of say what I think club happens al' al and begins tugging at these s sar knots we cry anathema on th the d d JB There is good reason to suspect t ai I number of husbands and wives give ive the affirmative nod t to M MJ J Wellman's delightfully frank I Ideas matrimony There is likewise every reason believe these nods will be Inward I Invisible It may be the thing f literary woman a novelist a a i I m mancer to speak out so in chui chu but in the staid pews of ot marital resignation such m mu would never do The custom is carry carryon on until the ship falls a then thEm let the courts attend to sal salvage vage It is sheerest folly for a m mas maa marry any sort of ot a creative w wa a a writer for example or arit ani or an actress even a business w with an intensive Interest ill 11 worl work Miss liss Wellman Vellman calmly Ign the fact she was pronouncIng j jt ment against herself herselt And your husband 1 I does he agree with you ou on point A A. mischievous smile danced s t o moment in the big eyes eres The Tho is well wen shaped head with Its frame bronze brown hair hall was thrust sU sUly sit ly forward and tilted like mee that Continued on following WHY MEN MARRY i Continued from preceding page some dainty bird bird- which thoroughly realized and enjoyed the power of its own frailty My husband said the rev revolutionary revolutionary lu- lu rippling into laughter Oh gracious gracious he he is used to me Somehow w Miss Wellman had conveyed conveyed con con- eed the notion that getting used to toan toan toan an authoress was not pot exactly the easiest husbandly task on the matrimonial matrimonial matri matri- f calendar l. l EACH HALF THE OTHER As for m marrying a women who Is is interested in the same art the same work that work that is deadly In all my list of acquaintances I know o of but two married couples who are absolutely happy jn In n the fullest most exalted sense of that much abused word It is an inspiration to see age e 8 them these truly uly mated nat d beings 8 Theirs Theirs' is not a a. union based on silly silly- sentiment I nor yet et on an any selfish worldly aimI aim Each is half t of the other One does not really exist away away- awa from the Ares pres I of the other One of the wives is a revelation of or what complete happiness in marl marI marriage mar mar- l I means Meet her alone andIs and she is a colorless drab human being so ordinary no one would give ive her a second glance She is simply the average housewife quiet and dull dun and andI uninteresting But let let her husband I come on the scene In Tn a a. twinkling she is transformed from a a. dusty wren into n a a pay gay a bird of ot para paradise Her whole personality lights up She I sparkles radiates throws out little mysterious sparks of color and mag He reacts reacts- on her like 1110 a aI I diamond cutters knife on a virgin in stone I The strange phase of ot it is there thele Is is no conscious effort on her part to appear brilliant before her husband I It is a perfectly natural process one she can no more help than she can inhaling the tho air about herAnd her And the husband I asked Does he too scintillate solely for tor his wife wite THINKS ONLY OF WORK Away from her he seems to think I only of his work was was the reply With her he lie relaxes and lets the social side of his nature dominate She Is as much mucha a part of him as his right arm This is real marriage union of the body mind and soul The pity of ItIs it itis itis is such marriages should be so rare Men you ou know are much more conventional than women A man meets a woman he desires In whom he sees the symbol of oC home To him she signifies the dignity of his own roof rooftree tree He lie wants a woman and a ahome ahome ahome home to represent him In social life It Is the conventional thing to have He obtains the woman and the home through marriage Marriage c is the I conventional way ay a of ot acquiring them These I believe arc aro the true reasons wh why men marr marry Of or course they are glossed over by a lot of ot stupid sentiment but stripped of this cloying camouflage we find st staid id old conventionality d driving the marriage I coach to the altar of ot fulfillment Such a small person Mist MisS 1 Wellman I all eyes yes and Ideas and jade beads and to think she can make any num number ber bel of men men and women feel the necessity necessity necessity sity for wearing shock absorbers I Copyright 1920 by The Evening Telegram N. 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