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Show ' Masculine Social Climbers Require Help From Wives By Rl'TH MIIXETT Moat of us regard social ambition aa purely feminine. That is. we think of a husband as more or less of a roughneck, preferring corned We, the Women beef to caviar and "the boys" to the right people. And his wife as either a subtle or obvious climber, determined deter-mined to drag her husband with her up the social ladder. That'a not the way things are at all If we accept Dr. John Dollard'a picture of the average man. Social Desires This young professor of the Tale University Institute of Human Relations Re-lations says the normal adult American Amer-ican male has social aspirations and expecta to rise in ths social scale. If that Is true the normal male had better keep it In mind when he picks out a wife. For. even though, as Dr. Dollard claims, hs expects to rise socially by his own efforts, it isn't done that way. He won't be taken Into a group where his wife ia obviously out of place. Not unless he has made auch a auccess of his business or professional profes-sional life that he can't be ignored. Wife Rises, Toe And even then there isn't much in it for him. What uss is there in i his winning a place that ahe cannot I share? If he leaves her behind, their marriage Is bound to suffer. And if she tries, to go along with him she is miserable and he very llkelv be- comes opsnly critical or secretly ashamed. The man who wants not only personal per-sonal auccess but family acceptance had better use hla head as well as his heart In picking out a wife. Or ha is likely to be as disillusioned disillu-sioned as we women were when we found thst men, too, want to keep moving socially toward the bead of ths line. |