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Show MOTHER S SYMPATHY. By DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright, 1922, by the Wheeler Syndicate, Inc.) Among my friends Is a woman who hag a family of husky, handsoms children, alert and alive In mind and body, and plentifully endowed with what new England people call UXaculty." They have had a good hig.i school education, and In ever way are unusually competent young people.. Hut they have to make their own way In the world. They have to work, and their poor, foolish mother weeps great gobs of tears over their unhappy tate. Just to think thst we could not send my poor Tom to college," she walls. "I csnont keep the tears out of my eves when I think of htm tolling away In an office while John Doe. around the corner, who hasn't got half of Tom's intelligence. Is st Harvard, and haa ha own automobile, and lovely room, and belongs to sll the nuist expensive clubs, and goes to New York almost every week end. &OTHISO TO DO. "And It Just bresks my hesrt to i see mv darling Marian starting out so cheerfully lo that dreadful old of-fUe of-fUe every day, when other girls, not half so pretty and attractive as she Is, hav nothing to do but to buy fine clot hs and go to parties, and don't have to get up until neon. "And think of my angel Nettle hsv-Ir.g hsv-Ir.g to worry sll day Irach'ng In that: l-eastly school with thoee horrid children! chil-dren! And my precious little Himmr actuallv having to punch a time clock at 7 o el oca In the morning! oh. It la true, cruel' Hut my children have one comfort. They always know that they have tli'lr mother a sympathy, for I never fall to tell them every day how I pltv them and how bard 1 feel their lot ls!" IK OTfiD WOT I fKJt. Now. thst womsn Is one of the fanatically fa-natically devoted mothers who would cheerfully he chopped in pieces If she thought that her children relished mint i d meal. She would die a thousand thou-sand deaths before she would voluntarily volun-tarily do her children any harm, and It long. Kohodv who hasn't Joy In the rsco and who doesn't put pep snd enthusiasm en-thusiasm Into It ever wins out. I.WITINU FAILI RK. To make a voungster feel that work Is a curse; thst poverty is a misfortune; misfor-tune; that he Is degraded by beginning begin-ning at the bottom of the ladder Instead In-stead of at the top, and that fate has served him a scurvy trick by not putting him Into the Idle rich clasa Is to foredoom to failure. Yet that Is the kind of blight that jnnumoered n others are wishing on thir children by their maudlin pity. We have been In the way of glorifying glorify-ing mother's sympathy that never failed and that waa always ready to kiss the hurt piece and make It well;1 but. la reality, mother's eympathy has done fsr more evil than It haa done ' good. It la responsible for nine-tenths I of the failures and alack era and divorces di-vorces In the world. Kor It Is not sympathy thst we need when we come to the hard sledding In lire. What we need then Is a brace. Wo don't need somebody to cr over us. We need somebody to stiffen our backbone. We don't need someone who a 111 mingle their tears with ours snd make us sorrier than ever for ourselves. our-selves. We need someone who will give us the etrength and the grit lo fight out of our difficulties. The mother who really helps her children Is not the one who tells them how cruel It Is that they have to work instead of being loafers and spenders. It la the mother who telia them how lucky they are to havo a good Job and who keeps their Interest and enthusiasm en-thusiasm aroused and who Is a spur In the side of their ambition. a .)) really thinks that she Is giving them the most precious gift In the world when she bresks over their feet the alabaster box of a mother's lovs and sympathy. In reillty. however, she 1s doing thm the greatest wrong that ma lies itself could Invent : for she is doping dop-ing them with her sympathy. Khe la paralyzing their energies snd tbetr ambit lons Khe Is Inoculating them with the virus ofsei-lf pity, than which there is no deadlier poison In the world. j No human being who la sorry for , himself ever does anything but sit down nd shed futile teats. Nobody who hates work ever does -ood work. Nobody who Is not proud of his Job and glad thst he has ot It ever keeps! doesn t weep over tnem because sne can't give tnem automobiles and diamonds dia-monds and trips to Kurope. f you haven't got what you want." she says to them, "go get It. There's nothing thst a man and woman with brains and Industry can't achieve In tbia country." coun-try." WOMAN WHO HKLPI. The woman who helpa her children doesn't salt them down In rrr tears because be-cause they haven't got what some millionaire's mil-lionaire's child haa. tibe doesn't waste their time and spoil their dispositions bv filUnar them with envious Jon-lnss. Khe holtls befors them the men and woman who are famous and rich, ths headllners In our country today, and she tells them that these men snd ' women we.re, almost every one of them. I torn poor and obemre; thst .hey hsd to fight for every bit of education that they got and to make their own opportunities. op-portunities. She mskee bar children feel that what others have done they ran do and that povsrty, which forces people lo make the most of themselves. Is oftener a blessing to the vounsr than a misfortune. And It is mother's sympathy that Is first aid to dlvorcs. It la becsuse many a girl knows that she can nlwsys run home to mother snd he wept over snd pitied as a poor, persecuted martyr that sh turns ouftr when she finds cut that marrlsge means duty and sac rlfle. Mother's sympathy Is a virtue thst leans to vice s side. It Is because worn-tu worn-tu weep over thslr children so much thai they have to weep for them so often. |